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CentralILMan
11/26/2006 4:23 am

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9/18/2008 7:20 am

There was a thread in a local group (if you're not looking over the groups available in your area here you're really missing out!) asking how to prep for anal sex. And, as I'm prone to do, I let fly alot about my opinion and experience on the topic.

Not so much of it was about prep, but it did relate my first experiences. I thought I'd share in case they give anyone any insights as to their own perspecitives and/or desires.

It's a nerve-wracking concept, this anal sex. And I think there are many out there that could or could have enjoyed it. I think some first experiences have ruined it for some that could otherwise really enjoy it. On the other side of that coin are those experiences I've heard of that weren't so gentle and considerate but ... were very well received as well.

To each their own, eh? *Laugh*

Anyway, I thought I'd edit and share my input on prepping for anal sex which was started by a curious woman. There had been input on using alot of lube and the woman being truly relaxed and willing:

If you have a like-minded partner interested in a journey with that destination it's a good thing because I recommend patience. Lots of it. Months if necessary.

Willingness is an interesting word. I'd like to think there's trust involved there.

Just to find out if you're likely to enjoy that penetration you might have your partner give you some nice, long, rewarding oral and massage that spot or even attempt to insert a pinkie - there should be plenty of natural lube for that by then, anyway. If it's a mindbending orgasm as a result I suggest you look a little more deeply into full penetration.

I spent months with my ex-wife working up to it and what finally turned the corner was that she had resolved, finally, that she was going to relax and cut loose. We'd spent so much time and effort only for it to seem there's no way it could really happen because she seemed so uncomfortable with much more than just the head past that outer ring. Then that one day - bang. We were both shocked and very pleased we were able to get past it.

It became a very regular thing - her hardest, most intense orgasms. And, quite honestly, it was slow, gentle, and sometimes quite quick.

She was very clit-centered so everything was done with that spot being stimulated. If she was tightening up or seemed to react poorly to a bit more pressure I spent more time on her clit. Sooner or later it would come together.

Patience, don't give up, remind her to relax, stimulate her the way she likes it best to help her mind forget what's happening or about to happen. Then she'll learn how to take it.

There are those that will never enjoy it. Some have mental blocks - conscious or subconscious. Others, I believe, never are able to feel any real stimulation.

A slow, methodical, considerate, reactive approach was key for us. The rewards were ... some of the very best.

Also, keep in mind, for many men, the idea/stigma is something they can't overcome or overcome well either. Guilt afterwards can be awful. I mean, outrageous pleasure but regret and guilt over how it was achieved ...

Trust and willingness must, sooner or later, be achievable at both the conscious and subconscious level ...

Oh, and by the way, I knew and know of NO prep she ever really did ... *Shrugs*

Oh, and one more thing ... *Laugh*

We really didn't use any extra lube other than her natural and, sooner or later, just my precum. But in the right situation I make LOTS of it ...

I hope this helps someone somewhere ...

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XSugernSpiceX
29 posts 

9/8/2008 5:05 am

...'I knew and know of NO prep she ever really did'

beyond your own suggestions, no real recommendation from here on that either, 'cept maybe.... a prior planning preventing poor performance mindset and staying away from food intake that can haunt and hinder anal sessions.
ie: for me, too much Dove chocolate in the system

butt seriously(couldn't resist),as is your norm, excellent and informative post. Asspiring individuals(again, too tempting a pun to pass on) seeking to experience success with anal sex greatly appreciate sound and helpful knowledge shared.

kudos

CentralILMan
42 posts 

9/18/2008 7:20 am

Again, thanks.

I've heard that spicy food before can enhance the... "heat" felt a number of hours later.

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