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msvampalicious1 51F
174 posts
8/31/2015 1:05 pm
You're going to pay for that


***I want to preface this post, it does not apply to all. This is to enlighten some. I do play because I want to, everything I do does not have a price tag. however for others, the following does apply. Its all about fantasy vs reality.....

I do enjoy, making a sub pay for his actions, it is part of my sweevil, or sadistic tendencies. But this post is not about me telling you about how I made a poor sub pay for an indiscretion, or even the type of Female Dominant I am. That will come soon enough

Actually, it is about you men paying to get your kink on. It seems that many have issues with this subject, that you will not, or should not have to pay for it. You are above it, that it should just be given to you, that you deserve it. The other favorite that I hear is "i am not into financial domination".

Being a Professional Dominatrix/ performer for many years ( minus a break) I was always amused by the offense that some men take on this.

Here is another perspective for you to chew on, and perhaps an eye opening view for you.

Many of you guys are married, and have a wife that does not indulge in your fantasies, hell, many wives do not even know you have the tendencies.

Therefore you aren't fully committed to a Domme, you can not be. Yet you want a Domme to spend time and indulge you, and on your schedule. At this point It is your therapy, your release.

People pay for all kinds of therapy, and this one should be no different. You should find a Domme whom has skills in areas you enjoy, and build from there.

You want her to spend her precious time on you, and do remember there are 100 other men wanting that time to.The sub to Domme ratio is very tilted in this area.

Why would you not want to gift her for taking time, and energy to help you indulge in your games?

Time is a gift, learning about a sub/slave/kinkster, building a scene for you, is a gift. Especially when no one else will or can.

Safety is important, and I have heard many horror stories of guys whom get hurt from unsafe solo play, or an inexperienced lady looking to make a fast buck.

Also just keep in mind and remember there are rude stupid people in any profession, the sex industry is no exception. But there are good people too.

I do understand some want the wife and whole picture, but if that has not happened, guess you need to decide how important your "sexual healing" is to you. How sane you can stay until your picture perfect Fem Domme shows her face.

One last thing,I want to briefly touch on is , the whole financial domination thing. ANY relationship you are in, vanilla or otherwise, money is transacted.

Be it through dinner, gifts etc. To say you want to be a sub but not financially, is silly. You will always be paying in some way, normally it is indirect, but it still happens. Just food for your cranium.

I would love to see your comments and feedback, always up for fun thought provoking, debates and discussions.


alt5250 61M
1283 posts
8/31/2015 1:41 pm

Ms V, Really interesting post & a good read.

So over & above say tribute or phone chat etc... How does one as a sub do a gift to a Dom that may not be just money related? Let's say you think she would look fantastic in XXXX. Can that also be accommodated easily, given you may not know her address?


msvampalicious1 51F
133 posts
8/31/2015 1:56 pm

If you are talking to a Domme, and want to do something like a gift, there are many wishlist options out there. Let her know you want to give her a gift and ask her if she has a list. If she does not maybe you could tell her if she had one you would like to do something nice for her.
She will appreciate the thoughtfulness and gesture. Your appreciation for her....
you could also load her starbucks card! lol


msvampalicious1 51F
133 posts
8/31/2015 2:16 pm

I have heard of this happening, on this site no less, and it floors me. If a Domme asks for training stuff up front, the clue phone should go off.

Like why does she not have anything , and you should ask her why.
If you enjoy this type of fun and lifestyle, you should have something to show for it.

Myself, I can make a scene incredible with household items, no fancy things required, i prefer skin on skin anyways smiles, but that's just me. My foot on balls works better than any toys!!! {meaning no damn kit required)

Yes trust is important, and if it feels off, GO WITH IT. Watch your back and follow your gut! Both sides Domme or sub, there are shady fools, looking to fuck someone over.


alt5250 61M
1283 posts
8/31/2015 2:40 pm

Ms V, Thanks for the excellent advice... I shall have to keep that in mind


msvampalicious1 51F
133 posts
8/31/2015 3:15 pm

lol Normal is perceptive.... thanks for your input!


msvampalicious1 51F
133 posts
8/31/2015 3:15 pm

You are welcome!



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