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nimblebookworm 59F
1543 posts
6/5/2016 6:30 pm

I didn't realize flirting or hotlisting someone was a bad or creepy thing. I've used it as a tool to express interest. And if I've flirted with someone twice, it's just because I've forgotten I flirted the first time! And I put my lil eye on bloggers I like, cause it's kinda like the flirt thing, if I don't I won't remember who I want to read. I keep forgetting to take ginko! I'm like you...I just wanna stay far away from the tempest. That's the whole reason I didn't blog for many of my first years here, saw way too many flame wars. I will say this, per our kinky choices, we are all sorta outcasts here. For that reason alone, we should be kind to each other and respect each other. No one should be made uncomfortable on their own blog or profile page.

btw...did you ever get the info you wanted on breath play or edge play?


marshamay 35F
5929 posts
6/5/2016 7:19 pm

Interesting read . I'm always amazed when people read mine , to be honest . To be further honest , i've noticed some comment without actually reading it . No idea why . I stopped by today because it says you viewed me , i won't be scared if you aren't ,


TheBargee 68M
16315 posts
6/6/2016 3:07 am

Well said.

As usual, The Bargee is the last to get wind of these dramas. I am aware of catching a little bit of collateral in recent days though still not sure where the doo-doo is landing.

It's a shame that people feel the need to let their minds slip back to the playground; this is an "Adult" site, after all!

By the way: tea-pots are a waste of space! if you need storage, take the pots outside and stick geraniums in them!


IAmMichaelURKnot 62M
14380 posts
6/6/2016 9:04 pm

    Quoting  :

As I wrote in the comments on my blog post about this situation: It seems the blogger in question has a history of real-time off-site stalking of female members of this site. Several of those members are afraid to speak out in the blogs because he has their personal information as well as information about their family members, friends, etc. It seems this situation isn't very different from your situation.

He has been harassing / attempting to intimidate several members of this site. We're not simply talking about hotlisting, flirting, and blog watching here. To frame the situation in those terms trivializes his behavior. If this hadn't been made public then members - including those whom he has been harassing - wouldn't be aware of the extent of his nonsense. If this sort of nonsense had occurred real-time instead of on a BDFS he would have been outed for his behavior, ousted from the community, and shunned.

Blocking / banning doesn't stop the long strings of bizarre replies to comments ( usually posted on - and quickly deleted from - blog posts he seems to alter for the purpose of repeatedly replying to an individual poster ) from appearing on a member's "where I'm quoted" queue. In case you are unaware: Several members repeatedly requested that he stop his stalkerish behavior. He ignored those requests and continued to harass members.

Why should a member - any member - have to keep adding new sock puppet profiles to the blocked members list because some asshole decides to stalk and harass multiple members of this site? That reads like blaming the victim(s). This sort of behavior has no place on this site just as it has no place in a real-time setting.

"Publicity is justly commended as a remedy for social and industrial diseases. Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants; electric light the most efficient policeman." - Justice Louis D. Brandeis

I remember now.


IAmMichaelURKnot 62M
14380 posts
6/6/2016 10:14 pm

    Quoting  :

You're welcome. I thought you should know that the situation goes beyond the hotlisting etc. Based on what several female members privately told me, the guy is a creep real-time as well as online.

I remember now.



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