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subrubbed 56F  
477 posts
8/25/2014 10:52 am

I have just been lurking for some time - just checking in periodically to see what's going on but I HAVE TO comment on this one.

Aftercare is the responsibility of the Dom. I see it as part of the whole package. If the Dom wants an intense session for whatever reason - training, punishment, sadistic need, etc - He should have already factored in the aftercare as part of His planning. Period.


eroticallyincldn 70F
1635 posts
8/25/2014 1:00 pm

aftercare is not a discussion..it is a given if your relationship is genuine...


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
8/25/2014 1:23 pm

It should not need to be asked for. I can understand an experienced submissive/bottom communicating such to a brand new dominant/top.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


benoite 104F
6238 posts
8/25/2014 1:31 pm

NO
she should NOT
at least not generally.

But from my experience it can happen sporadically
that even a responsible Dom underestimates a situation.
I remember a scene which had been emotionally demanding AND painful beyond our usual level. And for once G-Dom didn't recognise my extended need for aftercare .
I felt lost and didn't get my feet back on the ground.
I think that in cases like this we should clearly communicate our needs instead of feeling abandonned and experience sub drop.
B


Everything in the world is about sex, except sex, sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde


InderioMinx 54F  
19798 posts
8/25/2014 2:25 pm

I agree with the majority ~ No.
But, I do believe in communication. If you need more or something different, then yes, by all means, ask.

Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short


eroticallyincldn 70F
1635 posts
8/31/2014 1:57 pm

you should not have to settle ....for what is rightfully yours after giving your all....it is the intimacy afterwards that makes you realize everything is right with your relationship...



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