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Plzrmeister 67M  
10069 posts
4/6/2014 7:44 am

"G, do we both get to choose?"

I think you only get one answer.

"But there are two of us."

Which would you go with?"

"B"

Me too.

"We're in agreement?"

How odd is that!

Make Women Female Again


DancingDom 74M
22445 posts
4/6/2014 7:52 am

At this point in my life, the first option. Twenty years ago I am sure I would have picked the second option.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


shellfac1 62F
2293 posts
4/6/2014 8:32 am

I just essentially traded in the comfort for the passion and haven't felt so alive and fulfilled in years. Good question!


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
4/6/2014 10:36 am

The first.

Without question.

ANYTHING can be built on a strong solid foundation.

What can stand on a single brick?

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~


InderioMinx 54F  
19778 posts
4/6/2014 11:24 am

Right now, with where I am in life ~ I'll take option 2.

In thinking about it a bit, I don't know that option one would ever be enough for me. I find that I need some passion and desire in my life. A life without it would be unbearable for me. I see some many of my friends with versions of option one and they are not real happy or even really content, but rather numb and oddly comfortable. To me, option one sounds like roommate, not a mate.

Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short


benoite 104F
6238 posts
4/6/2014 2:21 pm

Well, having One and Two is a good solution, from what I see.
G-Dom is living this "option Three" for several years now
and obviously that gives him a very satisfactory living situation.

For me, I chose the second option after having tried the first one for a long time.
It was abortive and incredibly boring.
There are days in my life when I'd love to have companion by my side,
but I wouldn't swap that for the passion I am blessed to have in my life
at an age when most other women stop to be interested in sex
(so they say, while I'm afraid that this is what they keep telling themselves)
B


Everything in the world is about sex, except sex, sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde


lastguymn 56M

4/6/2014 3:21 pm

I have to choose option C, none of the above. I've already done both A and B.

Option A was my nearly 14-year marriage. It was conflict-free companionship. Never had to worry about being alone on a holiday or who you would be sharing dinner with. The problem was, living a passionless life left me numb inside, the world always looked gray and lifeless, and I spent countless hours yearning for things that could never come to pass.

I've also done option B, which had just a few exciting meetings and opportunities to play spread over nearly two years. The times together were great, the times apart were lonely and painful and filled with the same yearnings I suffered through in option A. With no end in sight, it was also the same empty existence, and sometimes it was worse knowing exactly where I wanted to be but completely unable to make it so.

What it all boils down to is that time is PRECIOUS—it's the most valuable commodity in existence...you can't buy more of it. And both of these options are a complete WASTE of that precious time. In both cases you waste countless days wanting something you can't have.

So I choose option C, which has two sub-options. You can either find that person you have incredible chemistry with and actually spend your life with them...or you can shrivel up and die. Options A and B area really just slower versions of shrivel up and die.


~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


kittykitty1260 63F
15748 posts
4/6/2014 7:12 pm

In the context of your question and options, I'd go with option #2..

There is that saying, "I've been rich and Ive been poor, rich is much better...'. for me, now, I am in rich, I like rich, I'll take rich..being poor sucks. Of course in this case rich/poor has nothing to do with money... but I am queen metaphor

Good question R!

“Who says life is fair, where is that written?”
― William Goldman, The Princess Bride


damntiemeup 71F
301 posts
4/6/2014 8:07 pm

I have A - and it is dull and boring. I sometimes have B - I have learned to accept that it will happen when it will and I can't pine for the time to be shorter between. All I can do is keep myself open for the chance that the next person I meet might be the combination of the two.


McGripper 54M

4/7/2014 5:55 pm

No brainer. Motorcycle.

The opinions and understanding portrayed in my blog are mainly unfounded, misguided or wrong.


Aislin 39F  
8605 posts
4/8/2014 11:04 am

I would enjoy," the once in a while tense", situations. There are so many experiences I wish to learn and I have come to realize maybe one person can not offer to me all.

two pages of I am so excited to read and thank you



I am aroused by my own darkness and there is no cure.


Aislin 39F  
8605 posts
4/8/2014 11:08 am

    Quoting  :

smiles

I am aroused by my own darkness and there is no cure.


cuzisaid 53F  
14988 posts
4/26/2014 11:24 pm

I wasnt trying to skate around it. I hate when folks cant answer a simple question as asked.I answered, but people can be inspired to try new things when comfortable.

Absolutely i would still choose everyday dinner companion, smiles and hugs over once every so often potential kinky motor reving.

Ive had B and C. The B did not thrill at all without the A. Therefore A has the stronger pull for me.

Sometimes I make a move, sorry to leave my home, but hope I will find another of equal character.
At night I gaze at the starry mass with no idea to which one the earth attached.
May'be that cute little one over there or that one that sits alone in the inky black
.
~~ 'My place amongst the stars' c/o former member SPB ~~



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