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shellfac1 62F
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9/1/2014 9:13 am

It depends on the person. Some things are worth waiting for, traveling to. But no, definitely not in my backyard.


lastguymn 56M

9/1/2014 11:11 am

This is truly a complex question, and though I have employed a mileage limit in the past, there are several other key factors to look at when considering entering into a long distance relationship, and I've found that one of the most important is not physical distance but mobility.

If one, or ideally both, of you have the means, resources, and desire to travel to the other frequently, mileage limits can stretch a great deal. If neither of you can travel very often and visits are very infrequent, 100 miles may as well be 5000 miles, and the outlook for success in the relationship drops significantly.

Another very important mobility factor is the ability for one party to eventually move to be closer to the other. We all have tethers—family, jobs, friends, community—that hold us down to our current location. If both are very strongly tethered to where they are, it can ultimately doom the relationship. There has to be an end in sight to the long distance situation.

Finally, the needs and temperament of those involved also plays a large role. If one partner is very needy concerning time and contact, long distance will be difficult. Having matched expectations and patience will also have a strong effect in determining whether a relationship will survive. Long distance is not impossible, but it takes a special connection and set of circumstances to make it.


~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


badboy45377 70M

9/1/2014 11:40 am

I think the bigger problem are schedules, work and/or personal. I find even single/divorced women have vanilla things going with families that preclude meeting.

Assuming there is a day or evening that works, THEN distance comes into play.



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