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likesmatureones 55M
0 posts
1/22/2017 8:19 am
just letting go of a freindship...your opinnion


This may be an odd one...soooooo just bear with me. But I appreciate your opinions and suggestions.

About 20 yrs ago I was living in pittsburgh pa. I started to chat online with this one woman that was interested in bdsm.. She was married and from kc

So yeah we flirted and talked about the lifestyle/she never met a bi guy before and was fascinated by a man that was submissive.
..I guess I was just an outlet for all the naughty things she wanted to express but couldn't.

See she is uber religious...has ...lives on a track of land with all her relatives...like her dad's house is there ..hers is here.. her brothers is there etc...so everyone knows each other's business.

Her husband was cool with our little chats because he reaped the benefits of a turned on wife....she became more open minded in the bedroom.

Anyway life in pittsburgh sucked and I decided that I should give kc a try.
Now I know what your thinking..Leo moved to Kc to get his grove on with this woman..

But you'd be wrong..

...If you know me or read my blog you'll know that I'm VERY bi...but also VERY bottom orientated ( with both genders)..lol...so yeah she is a sweetie/ wonderful woman.. but I had no interest in her sexually ( unless she wanted to strap on a 10 inch dildo..lol)

Perhaps I should preface this by saying I always wanted a "gal pal"...I've never been "gay" (no offense to anyone that is mind you)...so I never had that female "wingman"..
I never had my "faghag" to go to the gay bar with or do stuff with.
As a bi guy women never trusted me fully..like somehow this friend ship would end up in the bedroom...so I never got my "partner in crime".
At times I wonder if it wouldn't be easier just to call myself gay..lol

I honestly just wanted her as a friend.. I was no threat to anyone's marriage or lifestyle.
I came to kc with pure intentions..

My problem is we never became "friends" either....it wasn't like we could just go to the movies together or go shopping or just grab lunch together...

Everytime we did something... her hubby and were in tow....hell I even went to their church a few times..
and it wasn't like her dad/mom/brothers didn't meet me.. hell I even house sat for my friend when they went on vacation...so it wasn't like I was viewed as some form of badguy or OMG "sinner"..lol.. or OH MY GAY GUY!! ( er bi guy)

So after I bought my house and moved down south we rarely got together....probably has been like 6 yrs since I been over and 3 years since we spoke..

Some of the separation is my fault....so don't judge me on this one...but my friend's hubby had the big snip snip and she wanted to have one last baby..

So she asked me if I would "donate" some sperm ..which can be a big thing for a woman to ask of a man....yet it is an easy thing for a man to do.

Now despite what tv says probably 99 percent of donations are not made at a doctor's office ( which they should be for legal protection of both parties)..

But i'm the type that would give my kidney to save my friend.. so donating a lil sperm was a no brainer. Let me clarify that the wasn't even sexual..not like she took me into another room and ...
I literally jerked off at home into a sterilized baby jar and then drove it to her house

The problem though is I have a very distinct look....perhaps you've noticed..lol..alot of people think I look like vlad the impaler...dark hair/dark eyes/thin lips

She sends me family pics at christmas time and it's....hmmmm.. pretty obvious who "fathered" the ...

Sooo yeah....it is what it is..just a .( as it should be treated).

But I felt like this would obviously stir up shit if I came over one day and the hubby could easily see the similarities between the and me.
I never inquired whether she was gonna tell the hubby about the .

I've also never been good around couples...I always seen to spend more time with the woman and the male/hubby/sub always seems to get jealous.
Well in this case the hubby never got jealous...but I never felt like I was welcomed there..it felt like she was the one that invited me over for game night or whatever.

So anyway out of the blue I get this unknown text that says "hi"..

I don't know this number from adam...so I just send a "?"

She replies back that it is her and do I remember her...does she have the right number?
is it me Leo?

I put off texting her a reply...I'm just not sure I want to get involved with these people again. I mean it's not like they can give me what I need ( a gal pal)...
I honestly wondered how she got my number/what she wants and honestly don't want to hurt her by telling her to go fuck off.

I THINK this would all be different if we were in love/had sex/played together or any of that sort... but honestly we were just friends.. and even then it wasn't the type of friendship I needed.

But she is now like 20 yrs older..her are starting to get married...perhaps she's changed..

My question is would you reply to this "friend" or it better to just ignore the text.
and if you did reply what would you say...I don't want to say anything harmful like fuck off.. But then again if I say hey how is it going..I don't want to give the implication that I want to hang out either..or atleast with the people I knew back then.

is it better to just let it go

likesmatureones 55M

1/22/2017 8:19 am


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
1/22/2017 9:07 am

Personally, I would respond......20 years is a long time and lord knows many changes may have taken place. You never know, you might just find that gal pal.


likesmatureones 55M

1/22/2017 9:31 am

Thanks for your comment. But I don't think that is the case It isn't like I disappeared. She knows where I live/ been to my house and has sent me chrstmas cards that say stuff like we need to get together sometime.
And no this doesn't have anything to do with the kid. He has a dad / she has a husband/ they are well off financially etc. I would gladly share any medical history if asked
. I've never met the kid. Even if we met I wouldn't be his father. It was a donation pure and simple.
I added this part because I wanted to explain why I separated myself from them/ stopped going over etc.


juleslikesithard 58F
56 posts
1/22/2017 9:55 am

Say hi.. wont hurt anything, and you can always just not respond when you find out what she really wants


VirgoGirl78 45F
1272 posts
1/22/2017 6:48 pm

Can't hurt to say hi and begin lines of communication again. Nothing needs to come of renewing friendship but may turn out to be a good thing anyway



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