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VirgoGirl78 45F
1272 posts
8/2/2015 7:03 am

I may be fairly new to this whole world but know what my limits are and the ones you mentioned are some of my basic limits too. To me, it's not vanilla that i have these limits - it's what i feel comfortable with in exploring my kink. Very few people have been allowed anal play with me as to me it's something that requires a huge trust level and not everybody I have slept with deserves that trust.
I definitely do not see myself as a masochist and know my Dom is not a Sadist (though possibly my most recent one was tilted that way).
There's plenty of things I have done in my vanilla relationship that some people would consider kink but then there's plenty of things that others enjoy in their kink that is not something I would be comfortable with but if it's something they enjoy I wish them all the best.
Like anything - there are so many levels to kink and everyone has different levels of comfort within it. I feel lucky to have found Dom that shows respect for my relative inexperience along with my outside factors that will affect how we play. But I am getting to once again explore my submissive side and enjoy the different acts (being tied up and blindfolded etc). I know that if i disappoint him, I will face discipline from him and that is ok with me too. It's all part of the experience.


Geekachu 47M
781 posts
8/2/2015 10:06 am

I'd split it more into "vanilla" and "kink". The dividing line is pretty simple, then - "kink" is anything that makes Average Joe say, "Isn't that just for weirdos?".

Vanilla is basically everything else.

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"Shun-SHENG duh gao-WAHN." - Mal


scott91 53M
284 posts
8/2/2015 10:24 am

vanilla to me is a sexual relationship and nothing else,then kinks come in many forms,roleplay,having sex outside,basically being a bit more experimental,then bdsm is more about bondage,submissive and dominants and things on those lines.
i have a relationship that is vanilla and another that is bdsm.i have many kinks and fantasies and wouldn`t like to put myself or anyone in any particular box,we are all different


Geekachu 47M
781 posts
8/2/2015 2:22 pm

A strong black & white answer! I appreciate the absence of any shades of grey...

I should've qualified that by, "This is what fits into my world view...".

I like uncomplicated things. It's non-trivial to simplify many things in this world, but in this case I find it relatively easy.

Of course, there is a grey area there - because it all depends on which Joe you happen to ask

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"Shun-SHENG duh gao-WAHN." - Mal


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
8/3/2015 6:39 am

BDSM for me is currently linked to my Dominant. He is my kink. We express our relationship through BDSM


TheBargee 68M
16315 posts
8/3/2015 1:14 pm

I think some people think you're vanilla unless you're prepared to give dismemberment a try!

50 Shades of No Way!



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