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heartofmush 55F
7884 posts
8/3/2015 7:20 am

I think trust is important.
However, i am not as naive as I used to be. I operated under the very naive impression, that I was being truthful, and those I was with were as well, even when they swore it up and down, however, one sees the cracks in the words and promises and these people get pissed off, or disappear out of your life.

Sorry, but 80 percent of doms are lying dogs on here, 18 percent are people trying their best, but have flaws (that is good with me) and that rare 2 percent are highly decent people who are honest and honourable.

I have bullshit meter has filtered away 80 percent of the doms on here..scumbums. Lying horny dishonest jackasses. I found a far better quality of people in the remaining 20 percent. I tend to not believe as much what people say to me, but rather look at their behaviour, and other factors to see if they are consistent. When I see a red flag, I do not ignore it, and do not tolerate excuses.

The cut worm forgives the plow. W. Blake, Proverbs of Hell


heartofmush 55F
7884 posts
8/3/2015 7:22 am

I would add, please, that I am not bitter about it, but my life is drama free from lying jerks and their games.

I feel more ease with people and appreciate their honesty, flaws and all, but I am not being deceived and lied to with little regard to my physical and emotional health as with others from long past.

It still smarts it would seem with you, perhaps not as much, but at times, we are surprised with ourselves, for trusting people, only to see it trampled and pooped on. People can be that heartless? Yes, they can.

The cut worm forgives the plow. W. Blake, Proverbs of Hell


eroticallyincldn 70F
1635 posts
8/3/2015 8:10 am

takes me a very long time to trust....as a woman it is hard not to run on emotions to trust...to love...to want something only the fairy tales seem to provide...

I have learned hard lessons...I take then as a learning experience and move on..

But my friend trust is so very important...It is the door that unlocks many things.....


McGripper 54M

8/3/2015 9:00 am

If you dont use it , its prone t'rust , additionally plenty of lubricating oil could help.

Some you can rely on to act in a certain manner, its a bit like trust and covers most I know.

Some rare souls seem to be trustworthy, your a rare one!


The opinions and understanding portrayed in my blog are mainly unfounded, misguided or wrong.


benoite 104F
6238 posts
8/3/2015 12:48 pm

Trust in myself is indispensable.

I'm not sure, if I trust anybody else.
Maybe I've been hurt too often, I'm always cautious and skeptical.
I'm sure that G-Dom will never hurt me physically .... at least not on purpose.
And I trust my kids to stand by me when needed ... always!
And - ofcourse - I trust Sam! because HE will never let me down.
B


Everything in the world is about sex, except sex, sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde


jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
8/3/2015 3:32 pm

ws

I think trust is built and earned!

We may lose it in one as you have , but that does not preclude it forming with another....


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


DancingDom 74M
22474 posts
8/3/2015 8:39 pm

I need to trust in myself, which I mostly do. I also, need to trust in others. We sometimes disappoint ourselves, but mostly others disappoint up when it comes to trust them. Sometimes they violate the trust, but like within ourselves, we set a standard of trusting that is not always met. Also, others have to trust in us.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


quietroar 59F
9647 posts
8/7/2015 1:18 am

If I may join in late:

Today was my first day of meeting the minds once more in the therapeutic world and when they asked what my goals were, I said, "I want to stop being afraid, and I want my confidence back."

I have always been *too* trusting of a soul, but I at least want that feeling back of being able to say that I have the option because the only way I can relax is if I trust the person completely. Having been hurt, much like you (and he is still moaning about my absence), and other men have said that they would do things and yet never had, I have learned that life is disappointing- and I don't like that feeling. I need to learn to accept the imperfections and trust within myself that what others do not do, I can still do on my own.

Fear and Trust go hand in hand imho. You can't have them both at the same time. And as much as this one male continues to serenade me, I don't trust him any more so how can I believe what he is saying is true? In his mind at this moment, yes, it is the truth but the truth changes, and sadly so do perceptions. Today is today but tomorrow might be different- and everything that happened today will be long forgotten.

So how can I trust that?

As for the Enigma, I have learned he plays by his own rules and if he finds time to include me, so be it. I will be honored if he does but I have no expectations and I trust him when we are together because of his attention and word. But I have also learned that people will say "Oh, do this for me and I will do it for you," and after you lived up to your end, the buck stops there. I find that disappointing and on a submission play level maybe it's not that I distrust them, but I learn that some people are just more self-centered than others and don't feel that the give and take is necessary.


Hard2LoveNurse 66F
9492 posts
8/11/2015 5:09 pm

I trust myself, I trust my gut, my reactions, my feelings and I trust my daughter and a few very close friends. But I have been hurt like many and through it I learned to trust myself, my instincts. If it doesn't feel right, it probably is not.

I trust him when we play, I know I will be safe, but deep inside I am not sure I trust completely our relationship or what we mean to one another. We live separate life's. He has his work and his hobbies. I have or had school (now a new exciting career) my family, my friends. We spend very little time together. He stays up very late, I am asleep 98% of the time before he even comes to bed.

We do not share a life together outside our home. For me that is strange and different, but not necessarily wrong. I am grateful for all he has done for me, the help financially, the support emotionally. But he does not share with me.

So when it comes to trust I believe in me, my feelings, and hope for the best. I try to take life one day at a time. I can say though I feel the best, safest, the most relaxed when it is just me. It is hard to trust, but without trust you are alone.


"Seeking soul-mate!! Seduce my mind and you can have my body, touch my soul and I’m yours forever! "



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