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lastguymn 56M

8/3/2015 11:02 pm

I actually just went to Wikipedia to look this up...wow, I'm impressed they defined this so authoritatively and with such an even hand. I didn't expect their article to address this topic without judgment.

Humiliation is a subjective issue, and is dependent on context. I'm really surprised to find that level of nuance from a largely vanilla source.


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tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
8/3/2015 11:47 pm

I find the issue of humiliation fascinating, particularly in the context of BDSM. Sure, what I get up to with my Dominant could be seen humiliating and degrading but I don't like to feel that I am humiliated. This seems important to me. Instead I feel a great sense of gracefulness and elegance in the way we play (however messy it could be seen by others if they were ever to witness our play, though my submission to my Dominant is very much private).


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
8/3/2015 11:49 pm

It must be added that I can understand how others might get off from the feeling of being humiliated. We all like different things

When Dommeing I don't mind adding a level of humiliating if my sub likes it.


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
8/4/2015 4:35 pm

I have never intentionally humiliated a submissive, although some actives are inherently humiliating when done publicly... But to humiliate a submissive intentionally to debase and lower her self esteem is not in my nature. Humiliating someone intentionally does nothing for me. But I do understand it often help a submissive get to where she wants to go.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Stag352 53M  
5 posts
8/5/2015 3:19 am

I enjoy consensual humiliation of my sub while I'm fucking her. To try and make her devolve into a mindless recepticle for sperm is an awesome thing to experience, if done right. But yeah, has to be discussed beforehand... I don't want her to trquire therapy after, y'know? Glad you seem to have had a positive experience in that regard.


aHedonist 51M
7510 posts
8/5/2015 5:10 am

Service should never be humiliating, at least the way I see it. Y'all should be honoured that I told you to do (insert today's deviant thought here) it, and fall in abject adoration at my feet when done, then wait patiently while I get through the rest of the lineup to get back to ya.

(Well, not really... but it sounded like a domly kind of thing to say)

Not my thing. Or at least the humiliation per se isn't my thing. I don't get off on humiliating people under any circumstances. But the service aspect, the she did this because I told her to aspect: that to me is about as hawt as it gets. Doesn't much matter what it is... public or private, perverted or mundane... its not the act so much as the obedience.



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