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Plzrmeister 67M  
10069 posts
10/27/2015 1:36 pm

Making judgments is a perfectly normal human response to any stimulus.

We make certain judgments of any people or situations we encounter all day long.

Is doing that wrong?

No, it's human and, if you think about it, perhaps part of our survival instinct?

How's that?

We judge a situation or condition to be dangerous and we avoid it. We size up people when we might be in a vulnerable situation .... Out walking at night perhaps.

Yeah, I can buy off on that, but what about making judgments about people's character or lifestyle choices?

Perfectly normal we all do it and we do it all the time. We bounce everyone's character, what they do and their choices in life off of what each of us considers to be OK for us. Hell, try standing in line at a convenience store or a grocery store. Try as hard as you can to not make a judgment about the people you see around you. Sorry, but it ain't happening .... you'd have to be deaf, dumb and blind to not make certain assumptions and/or judgments.


What about when someone makes a judgment about you?

You mean like about 1,000 times per day? Personally, I could give a fuck. The only person who really knows Me is Me...... Well, you know Me too.

Are the people reading this this very second making a judgment about you ..... Errrrr us?

Damn right they are. They are sort of liking Me and thinking you're a dumb ass.

Some might think you're the dumb ass.....

And I could give a fuck!

Being judgmental, judging people or being judged gets a lot of press in the blogs.

We might as well address why the sun doesn't come up in the West. Fact of life ....

Make Women Female Again


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
10/27/2015 2:04 pm

I think your pretty darn groovy. But you may not care one iota or give a rat's patootie if I do.

I know for myself, I care about the people I care about being honest with me if they truly care. People I don;t konw, I don;t give a hoot about what they think.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


dapperd69 66M
1668 posts
10/27/2015 3:09 pm

We are no doubt the most intelligent animals on the face of the earth, and with that comes the complexities of self doubt. As a youngster my family moved often. With that having to start all over every few years there was always some self doubt. After a while I realized I was fine and it was the new people I would meet that were loud trying to cover their own insecurities. Do you feel good about yourself aside from these people that make you feel uncomfortable? If yes is the answer .....It just might be them who really have the problems.... not you !
I have read your blogs over time and I think you are just fine.


jenny14 75T  
90051 posts
10/27/2015 3:14 pm

v

A GREAT post!

I know just what you mean! I( love it here and feel accepted , yet , I still keep many secrets, particularly some fantasies to myself!

We are what we are, but, even anonymously, we worry what others may think....

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
10/27/2015 7:49 pm

Nods.

Do you have any thoughts or suggestions on this?
>>>I don't know. It's a conundrum for me, Pyx.

Have you ever felt this way?
>>> Yes. I think so.

What do you do if you have?
>>> I'm unsure... I'll have to think about it some...see if can remember...

Compelling, this.

YSLO
BD~
P
xoz

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


jdmhab 71M
1234 posts
10/27/2015 11:50 pm

I think if you feel you need approval just be yourself , uncensored , then any approval you get will hopefully be real , as opposed to the censored edition , which really isn't approval of you , is it ?


maletramp 64M
2092 posts
10/28/2015 1:47 am

I adore this post.. You, precious woman, are a wonderful paradox.. And the contradictions are adorable.. The inconsistency proves you honest and vulnerable and can you imagine any more wonderful traits to be the foundation of your search for perfection?

All of us seek perfection; If you abandon the search, you diminish yourself to some subhuman level resembling eloi or morlock. There is no arrogance or shame to be had from admitting the goal.

One of my favorite pictures on alt is your superwoman panties. The 1000 words include: that you are a superwoman, as exhibited by that perfectly sculpted female form, set off by the symbol of superiority. No brag; just fact.

Then you reveal the other side of that glorious image, with prose of self doubt. Self doubt is the key to the search for perfection. Without it, you can not find the flaws. How do you become that unique perfect being you were intended to be, if you can not find the flaw?

Now the confusions and contradictions begin. What if there are no flaws? What if the things you perceive as flaws are in fact your greatest assets and traits? Self doubt actually proves you are that super woman, entitled to wear "the crown".

I assure you: If there was not acceptance before, there is now.. Imagine the comfort you bestowed on others to know that a superior being shares their thoughts of self doubt AND seeks acceptance, as do they.. Perhaps she even seeks their acceptance.. She clearly offers her attention and interest.. My own insecurities are now less insecure because I know a woman nearing perfection implies my thoughts of her are relevant..

It must be heavenly, sweet Vloree, to so easily share such warm, accepting, loving thoughts and bestow on others such visceral reactions..


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
11/5/2015 5:43 pm

I think that,
provided it doesn't ACTUALLY harm
,
a little non-acceptance, disapproval, a little judgment and intolerance can be good, Pyx.

And a LOT of the above?
[image]
just becomes 'inspiring.'

Imagine.

YPLUDD

BD
~
P
xoz

Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
11/9/2015 7:55 am

    Quoting  :

Yes, indeed!


Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace


Doc_Sonar 66M
24589 posts
11/9/2015 7:56 am

"Sometimes we just want others to see us for who we are, because that’s who we are..." ~you



Doc_Sonar

I advocate Simplicity, Patience & Compassion...to the extent that doing so won't threaten or harm My boundaries or Me. ~ Doc_Sonar


Breathe Deeply~
Peace



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