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johnfire61 46M
91 posts
7/22/2015 3:17 pm

There definitely needs to be some civility in an approach. It has been years since I have been to a club, but when I was very new, it was explained to me the same basic rules. Normally you don't address someone as Mistress unless they are your Mistress or if it has be established that is the name title they are using, but they are not you Mistress, so Miss, Maam, or Ms. is generally acceptable. Don't demand things of others that are not yours or if you haven't established an agreement with. Treat everyone with respect, no matter who they are or what their kink is till they lose that by failing to do the same. Make agreements with normal conversation before ever playing or involvement.

To me, what she did was quite rude, disrespectful, and completely uncalled for. Though I don't know much about club etiquette in Europe, and I didn't want to go to deep into general club rules here in the US besides simple courtesy.


johnfire61 46M
91 posts
7/23/2015 4:53 am

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To me, being Dominant does not excuse someone from having good manners and showing a little respect. At least till after the initial greeting and finding out where each other is. I know some subs don't want to be treated with any respect, and want to be treated as objects. That's great but wait till after you find that out.

Don't get me wrong there are times it is nice to be treated as nothing more than an object, but a little ground work needs to be laid first.

I really think your sub handled the situation quite well and respectfully, even though in my opinion the Dominant lost their right to respect with how they approached the situation. Sometimes you just have to be the better person which your sub was.


likesmatureones 55M

9/30/2015 5:05 am

I agree that her behavior was inappropriate ( noone has a right to Dominate someone without their permission).

BUT let's examine the situation.. it wasn't like some 6'2 250lbs Dom strolled up to some 5'0 100lbs sub woman and ordered her on her knees.
So there probably was no physical threat/your man didn't feel threatened.

If anything it sounds more like this woman was hitting on him. Sure she didn't slap his ass or anything sexual...but to a sub male ordering him to do something is an instant trigger/gets him aroused.

Sure it was inappropriate but I really think you should just brush it off ( especially if this woman frequents this club)..it really sounded harmless



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