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lastguymn 56M

7/29/2015 10:36 pm

I think that can be true, but it doesn't have to be so. The most important factor in knowing which buttons to push comes from the depth and openness of communication between you and your partner. If you find someone you can really open up with...someone who is willing to patiently explore and experiment with all the varied settings of your particular buttons...someone who cares enough to learn and grow with you...well, then I think anything is possible.

Personally, I lost mine when I was 18...certainly tried to lose it sooner, but my skill at seduction was pretty sad...lol. My real journey, though, began much later, in my 40's, following a divorce.

So don't fret that you are somehow behind in the race by still being a virgin. You're here now, so you're obviously seeking, learning, and exploring things I had no clue about when at your age. Both of our journeys are really still in their infancy...and lucky for you, you have many years ahead of you to enjoy all the discoveries you are yet to encounter on your journey. Remember, it's about enjoying the trip, not reaching the destination.


~LastGuy

"It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards

"There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
7/30/2015 4:00 am

I do not believe that waiting too long make it harder to enjoy. Everyone is different to being with. the idea that the first time has to be special is a hold over from those conservative/religious folks who imply virginity is something special and saved for a special person. Being married does not make it special, it can be a failure the first time and overall seems to be kind of not so special. It is later when you have had experience and the body is somewhat used to the interactions and your mind is more free that it gets interesting.

Emotionally saving virginity for someone special has its merits, but physiologically it is a mixed bag. Sex is not just straight intercourse anyway.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


tinkerfun 46F
11150 posts
8/3/2015 1:17 pm

Hmmmm... Not sure if I agree with that at all. There are many people who would have preferred to have lost their virginity a lot later, not earlier. There are plenty of people who have had loads of horrible experiences and have only learnt to enjoy sex when they are older. At least you have missed out on that awkward teenage sex many (not all!) people went through.

I lost my virgnity when I was nearly 17 but it isn't only with my Dominant that I have truly learnt to LOVE sex. Up to that point it was just one of these things I felt that was expected of me. I may have had some good times particularly in the beginning of relationships but soon grew bored of it all as it practically did nothing for me.

As a slightly timid person when it comes to fully letting go I still struggle to have an orgasm with my partner but I can still enjoy the experience wholesomely (in fact I can prefer the prolonged riding in comparison to climaxing).

With the right person it really doesn't matter what your sexual history has been.



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