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quietroar 59F
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2/9/2016 11:32 am

1. We tend to be attracted to people who look like us. For instance, in one study, researchers asked heterosexual men and women to rate the attractiveness of several faces [1]. Included among the photos was a picture of one’s own face that had been digitally morphed into the other sex. Participants found this morphed face to be more attractive than all of the others!

2. This may sound creepy to some of you, but we also seem to be attracted to people who remind us of our parents. For example, research has found that people born to older parents tend to be attracted to older partners as adults.


I don't know what source your pulled these from, but both of these have been proven false by psychological studies.

From Psychology Today (dec. 2, 2014) (which is psychology for the masses): This is without a doubt the most powerful finding in this area. We are drawn to people who are like us. (link is external) Christians will appeal to other Christians. Educated people are drawn to other educated people, leftists love leftists, extroverts love extroverts, etc. On almost every parameter of background, personality, values, and experience, we prefer someone who has a lot in common with us over someone who is totally different from us, and also over someone who ‘completes’ or compliments us. I tend to be attracted to males with dark hair, pale eyes, and for some reason I collect Gemini's in this look which is nothing like me- who is very short, a tad pudgy, and light in complexion.

University of NM did an awesome study of evolutionary mate selection and how women actually chose the mates based upon the males ability to protect and provide for her. Often, we avoid qualities like our parents because we want to be better off than them- so we have to leave that mold. (psych.unm.edu/people/directory-profiles/miller-papers/2006-ep-of-mate-choice.pdf )

Unfortunately, I stopped reading after both of those initial statements- could you provide a source so I can see if there is something better for you to access?


jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
2/10/2016 2:36 pm

sweet

Another very interesting post but, I am sure there is huge variation

I agree - physical appearance is important but , to me, a mental connection is more so!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny



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