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_snowwolf 41F
5 posts
6/25/2016 11:31 pm
26 June 16


Being a people-pleaser, I find it extremely difficult when friends are upset with me. I think it's human to want everyone to like you, but as I'm learning (the hard way), you can't please everyone no matter how hard you try.
You can bend over backwards, go out of your way, walk on eggshells, but what, exactly, does that accomplish? Nothing, except a drain on your energy. That energy which can be put to good use elsewhere.
I dislike confrontation greatly, however in my private life, I'm finding that to be detrimental. I don't want to cause problems, however by *not* speaking up, I cause more problems for the future.
I wasn't honest in the beginning of Sie's relationship with His new partner. As a result, between my dishonesty (and I hate admitting that was a thing, but by not saying something in the beginning when we could have avoided the whole situation) and her reactions and actions, we've hit a stone wall.

Tonight (or more accurately, this morning) I'm finding myself looking back and wondering why I thought not speaking up was the right answer. It would have sucked, upsetting and hurting everyone, but surely it would have been better than this?

I keep finding myself trying to reconcile with her, but I can't. Too much has been said the past 6 months and I can't get past it. I wish I could, I really do, more for Sie's sake than my own, but...perhaps it's for the best.

I have also decided that I am no longer going to try to please everyone. I need to start focusing on myself, on worrying about my health and let everything else fall into place wherever it may.

Brandalynna   

6/26/2016 3:08 am

Well trust will find you where you need to be.


Brandalynna   

6/26/2016 3:09 am

Do what you gotta do.



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