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demijade96 27F
139 posts
9/13/2016 5:35 am
Anal sex preperation?


Ok just have to ask this as its something i have no knowledge of but after talking to some people and them admiring that part of me would like to try haha

I wash and shower most days so i'm a clean person but I've heard alot of people saying that before anal sex you have to have an enema to make sure everything is clean inside? It sounds quite umm whats the word 'invasive' and i'm guessing it would be a bit smelly, which might lead to the guy changing his mind about doing it?

i suppose what i'm asking is that alot of these sexual desires are spontanious, so to have to go through this beforehand seems a bit much? i'm guessing its because the guy might come out afterwards messy or smelly? or is it cos it feels nicer for the woman/man?

Sorry if i sound naive, I've experimented on my own (only with finger nothing scary big haha) and know it can feel a bit uncomfortable when something is inside and i don't know if this is normal but i feel the need to go/poo if something is in there. Would an enema let you relax more knowing you wouldn't have an accident?

DJ x

kentukmaster 62M

9/13/2016 7:25 am

It is each to their own on this one. But, there is a lot of info out there on the net should you need it. Just as long as you practice basic hygiene you should be fine. Of course, with your beautiful bottom it is not surprising that men want to have anal sex with you.


AC_Wright 58F
323 posts
9/13/2016 8:16 am

It depends on the person you're with and their psychology/preferences/sexual esthetics.

In terms of physical preparation for anal sex, lubrication and manipulation to gradually relax the anal sphincter is imperative. Without those, it is possible to cause tissue tearing in a place that would expose the bloodstream to fecal matter with subsequent infection. You don't want that. You don't want to be in the next room from that.

Enemata as preparation for anal sex is another thing altogether.

The point of being penetrated anally is its odd attraction: I'm fairly sure Freud considered anal sex more a question of power than ordinary vaginal penetration and in this respect. anal sex is like fellatio: the one who provides either of them lacks nerve-endings in the part in question, but the act provides a "charge", a change in consciousness—a pervasive awareness that you are being used in a way that provides pleasure for the other, in part by lessening that act's emphasis on your own sensations outside of those lovely pressures.

One partner might be fastidious, desiring the act without the evidence of it, another might revel in the proof that every orifice you have and require only that a moist wash cloth, or even hand-wipes, be kept handy.

I personally have enjoyed a long and varied career in this respect, including anal penetration and I've never once resorted to an enema and none of my partners has ever insisted on one.

Also, you have to keep in mind that an enema is not necessarily any messier than using the toilet for its usual purposes is.

Hope that helps you.

Schrille Schlampen aller Länder, vereinigt euch! Ihr habt nichts zu verlieren als euren Kontakt mit Versagern!


DancingDom 74M
22444 posts
9/13/2016 9:43 am

As staated by other posters, for the guy, cleansing may or may not have to do wiht cleanliness. An enemas some time before had, allows for more space as it were, so not as unconforable for the recipient. Also, the penetrator has a bit more room to penetrate.

I recommend lubrication and some digital stimulation to prepare the splinter muscle fr the penile invasion. Many will prepare the anus for penetration over the long haul by using butt plugs, left in for period see blood, stop immediately and if its in large amounts,,, you may have had a tear in your colon.

I do advise not doing anything where your mouth or vagina is used after anal penetration without that penis or a toy is so used. being fully cleaned. Many folks are doing ATM aka ass to mouth sex.....it is not advisable. It is depicted quite often in porn and many claim there are safe ways to do such, including enemas and anal bleaching. Some get away with it for years..........but all it take is one nasty element to get into your system and your ill.

People are routinely having anal intercourse these days. And, they are enjoying it, both the penetrator and the recipient. Some like having something inserted into the vagina while the anal activity is going on. Gives a feeling of fullness.

One elements of this, is simply it used to be a taboo. Also, for many it is the postion of power. Pretty much the same in that sense as doggies style vaginal penetration. Add in some hair pulling and you have a much going on for the submissive/bottom.

Use lube to begin with. Having an enemas an be an element of degradation, humiliation or simply power and control for the anal pentrator.Many guys like it, because the sphincter adds more stimulation to their tallywhacker.

Enjoy.

It varies for everyone.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


marshamay 35F
5929 posts
9/13/2016 10:21 am

An enema wth a bit of olive oil mixed in will serve two purposes , lube and cleansing, and if it's Popeye , well he loves Olive Oyl


twosharp2 79M
767 posts
9/13/2016 9:41 pm

If you've voided recently, there's usually no poop in the rectum about which to worry; hence, no need for an enema.

Be aware of physiology. There are actually two sphincters in the anus. The first one is the exterior opening. It is voluntary; i.e., the brain controls it. So being in a receptive frame of mind is important. Even more important is breath control. Muscles relax only when exhaling, so attempting to insert while holding your breath is the worst thing possible. Work with your partner inserting only when exhaling.

The second sphincter is an inch or so inside. It is involuntary; i.e., opens and closes of its own accord. Once past the first sphincter, the partner should stop as soon as resistance is encountered; i.e., the second sphincter. After about 20 seconds of pressure against it, it will open itself. Full penetration can then ensue without pain. Remember to time penetration with exhaling until comfortable.


xntrick 59M
2927 posts
9/14/2016 12:09 am

I often say when you take the back road, expect to get a little dirty. If you think an enema is invasive, then you will probably not enjoy anal sex. The enema not only cleans you out, but is also highly relaxes you. You might think you're clean back there, but once you add a lot of lube (very necessary) and anal play things can get very dirty rather quickly which is a huge turn off for most people.


demijade96 replies on 9/14/2016 1:06 am:
yeah invasive was kinda a bad word haha, i guess i meant more of a burden if i would have to do it before ever time if i was with someone who wanted anal sex, sorry you're right to pull me up on that, when i re-read it i thought the same

DJ xx

TheGentleD0M 55M
4082 posts
9/14/2016 3:50 am

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All the best ...


tgd


DecibelRating 108M

9/14/2016 12:15 pm

In short, the whole enema thing is probably total overkill.
As another member has mentioned, there shouldn't be any stool in the rectum as long as you don't already feel the need to go BEFORE you & your partner decide to give anal a try.

If your partner or Dom has a large cock, there's a chance that he *might* extract some stool when he pulls out. Not for sure.. but it's a possibility. Sometimes this happens to me, other times not. It just depends on the day (the time!) and the female.

I am not at all into fecal fetishes (but that's cool if others are), however, the last thing I would do is make a girl feel embarrassed if there happened to be a little stool showing up at the end of a good anal session. So I never make a big deal out of it.. EVER. Because it's not a big deal. I mean, as a guy, you chose to go down that road, so you have to deal with the drive. Any freak outs on the guy's part only demonstrate a serious lack of maturity and understanding.

Anal can be incredible and, as others have said, you may very well experience orgasms from anal sex. With a recent partner, we tried coconut oil (it's more like a paste or cream), and the results were fantastic. It's all there was close by in the kitchen so we made use of it. I'm not sure about the nut allergy crew (do coconuts apply?), but I'm a convert and I'd almost use it over medical lubricant at this point.

Briefly back to the enema approach; I've administered these as well, and, for different reasons, they can be effective. Definitely cleans a person out and there's no risk of picking up any hitchhikers (hah!). However, if a person is comfortable with their partner, that level of comfort during anal sex can be fostered - enema or not.

I would definitely encourage you to go for it. You can also start with a skinny smooth lubed dildo to get used to the feeling so that it won't be nearly as much of a jump to get a cock in there when the time comes.

Just some stuff to think about... good luck!


slaaf85_91 61M
447 posts
10/4/2016 6:48 am

Being gay and bottom, I can speak of my experience and hope it applies to women too.

When you don't feel like you have to get rid of some poop, the zone where you get penetrated is empty and contains no poop, only some slime. This is a natural protection, it smells bad but it is too practical to clean it away inside. I just wash my anus carefully and keep the area smooth without any hair. I use oil with a strong perfume as lube that i pull inside with my finger.

As homosexual boy I dreamed about anal sex, but neither my boyfriends, nor the mature men with who I hoped to experience this were interested. I got it at my first visit at a gay club from a complete stranger with a huge penis, he got me in a position and had to push several times, he got through.

It gives the same feeling as when I must go to poop, but with strokes of pain each time my prostate gets pressed by the penis. In recent years most use a condom and they drag some stinky slime outside. Only problem I had was with a vain at my anus that broke a few time, blood all over and I had to quit for some periods with anal play. In the early years most fucked me without any condom and ejaculated inside. I must admit that gave most pleasure. The liquid gets back through the anus giving an unpleasant feeling and irritation at the anus.

First penetration always requires a bit patience and effort, but once through the muscles of the anus, it goes smooth. I got different men going inside within few hours and once the first provided the massage, the next go inside very easily. I never had one that was too big, all got inside

Being different from the majority of people as homosexual my pleasure is in being used by others...


jillandjules6969 55M/52F

5/18/2021 6:01 am

I've tried enemas and find them too extreme.

Here's what we do: Use a steel butt plug 2 hours before anal.
After removing it (gently!) use your hand, some coconut oil or plain lube and reach your fingers into your rectum deeply as you can and do a 'sweep' if you can stand it (over the toilet of course).
Clear everything in your passage and toss into toilet.

Get used to putting your hand into you own rectum before letting anyone else venture in there.

Give yourself a breather. Wash your hands thorougly and put some more lube. The whole process sometimes takes practice and prep work for the anally shy.
Good luck!



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