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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

Secret Messages
Posted:Jan 2, 2014 5:08 pm
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 6:19 pm
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500 Days without an orgasm
Posted:Feb 12, 2024 7:09 am
Last Updated:Feb 16, 2024 1:28 pm
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This week, we celebrated a huge milestone.
500 days orgasm free for my sub. Not the first time he has gone this long and probably not the last. It's hard to believe it's been that long, but I have no intention of breaking it now, and after all, I'm still having as many as I want.

This past week alone, he has gone down on me every single day, with me averaging 4 to 6 orgasms each time. If I hadn't been away early in the month, it would have been the whole month so far, but I didn't get home until the 3rd. But he can keep going for the rest of the month. I have not hit 100 orgams in a month lately, so maybe this month?

He has also used the strap on dildo on me a couple of times, and I really teased him by going down on the dildo and telling him "there, you got a blow job". 😀

I have been tying him most nights and even got to use a paddle on him twice this week, which was very exciting. We are going to try to go to a hotel next month, so we can play for hours so have to work on his endurance. Maybe he might get his nipples tormented as well by then, but they are still off-limts for now. I can't wait as it's been a long time since a hotel play session.
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2024 Update - 78 days locked
Posted:Feb 9, 2024 10:03 am
Last Updated:Feb 16, 2024 1:27 pm
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As words are still be removed by the system, this will repeat as the first comment.

It's been a while since the last update. Vanilla life got in the way, and we haven't been able to do much for a couple of weeks and I was gone for over a week.

The cage remained on for 78 straight days before it came off. This was by far the longest he remained caged without a device being removed for a cleaning or whatnot and the same numbered plastic lock was used the entire time. This batch is much more durable. The other previous time was 48 days. He had a doctors appointment that required it to be off, so I let him keep it off after the visit but there was still no touching of his cock. After it being locked up for so long it was very weird seeing him without the cage. His cock was also noticeably smaller and thinner.

As I was gone for a good portion of the time that the cage was off, he was on the honor system. As we have used it so much in the past, I didn't have any worries that he wouldn't be a good boy. Before I left, I did make sure that he went down on me and used his fingers A LOT, so I was fully satisfied before leaving.

On the night of January 31st, he put the cage back on so the count could start at the beginning of the month. He also used the black Mini-me as he knows I prefer it so much. Unfortunately, he won't be able to keep it on as long as the last session, but it will still be a few weeks at least.

One other thing that he will be missing is having his nipples played with by me. I decided that starting January 1st, those would be off limits for the foreseeable future as he gets so turned on by having them played with via my hands, mouth or clamps. I thought it would be a nice evil thing to do and while I'll miss playing with them he will miss it a lot more since his cock is still not being touched either and not having that outlet either. Once again he has no idea how long it will be before I start playing with them again. I did see some nipple shields that can be left on for a number of days using adhesive so I can make it really rough on him if I decide to.
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Airport Adventures
Posted:Jan 15, 2024 9:30 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:07 pm
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As words are still being deleted from the main post, this will repeat as the first comment.

We went on a trip on New Years Eve and our New Year started with a kinky, possible exhibitionist start. A few days before we left, I told my sub he could take off his chastity device for the airport security, but he would be putting it back on before we boarded the plane. However, after thinking about it for a couple of days, and since we have TSA Pre-Check, I changed my mind and told him that morning he would be wearing it through security. He argued that he would need it off, but I won.

He had no problems whatsoever getting through security as it was the old fashioned walk through detectors (he wears a plastic device with a plastic numbered lock so no worries of metal detectors) and not the scanner type. I told him it won't be removed at least until we are home from the trip, which wasn't until the 7th. He was at 57 days with it on at the time of the trip, the longest he has ever had it on without removing, and the reason I wanted to keep him locked. I'm not sure when we will be able to go this long again, so I really wanted to keep it going. In addition to being caged, he hadn't orgasmed at all in 2023, and I have only touched his cock once for about 3 seconds the entire year.

Our return flight turned out to be a little more hectic as our flight was canceled in the morning due to the panel come off a plane a couple of days before. So we were scambling to try and book another flight and get home that day. As we weren't sure we would get the TSA Precheck, he suggested he take the cage off. I just looked at him and said that it would be the only thing that stayed the same. When we got to the airport, he was very relieved that our tickets had TSA Precheck and saw that a couple of the lines had the old metal detectors, so he made sure we were in one of those lines. But as luck would have it for him, wouldn't you know it as we were going through the metal detector, he was randomly chosen to go through the new full-body scanner as well. But he made it through with no problems, although he was sweating bullets, LOL. Of course, I had walked through before him and was laughing at him from the end of the counter,

And of course, now that we know he can go through with no problems, I won't have to let him take it off for the next trip.

I am looking forward to a great 2024 with him caged the majority of the time and denied the entire time. I can't take the credit for this quote as I got it from another site, but I really like it; "one year more, for '24"!
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2023 Results and 2024 Goals
Posted:Jan 2, 2024 6:48 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:06 pm
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Happy 2024! 2023 seemed to have just flown by whichnis surprising as my subwas home a lot more and everyone said it would make things go slow, wrong. LOL. Our Femdom marriage enters roughly our 32nd year. This year the milestones going into the new year are:

His last orgasm: 461 days

Last time he was allowed to go inside me: 461 days

Chastity with very short breaks: 359 days - one of the highlights of last year is he slept in chastity every night which he has never been able to do before.

Current continuously locked period: 58 days

Goals for 2024

One of my main goals for the new year is to do a lot more cuckolding, at least once per month, but prefer twice a month. Use the theater method to have the possibility of multiple guys in one session.

Continue the constant chastity regiment

Get together with our femdom couple friends and meet and play at least once every two months

Go to a munch or class at least once every three months.

Go to a dungeon or hotel at least once every two months for BDSM play

Of course, this is all while navigating through our vanilla life, which has had some major changes this past year and keeping everything separate is always a major trick as most of you already know.
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Final Chastity and Denial Update For 2023
Posted:Dec 27, 2023 7:01 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:05 pm
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Christmas is the season for giving and opening gifts. However, for my sub, I won't be in the giving mood of opening small packages this season. LOL. With the year coming to an end, here's a quick recap on our chastity and denial play. My sub retired at the end of last year, so reasons for him not to be able to wear his cages due to work purposes went away. As a result, he has been in chastity the majority of every month. It varied each month how long the cage was on due to physical sports activities, but for the most part, he was caged and only out a matter of a few hours per week, if that. The coolest part was that he wore a cage every night to bed. Even on the nights he was allowed to have it off while we were out, it went back on before going to sleep.

Christmas Eve was the 50th straight day that he had been locked in his cage, and I didn't see any reason to let him out. This is the longest he has been in a cage without being allowed to take it off, and I'm enjoying it very much. When it does come off, which he has no idea of when that will be, he has no idea what I actually have planned. We have a flight coming up on New Years Eve so he feels that he should be let out for that. Hmmm.

There are a few things that I've teased him about the past few weeks about the cage being on, so he's very curious to see what is decided and what really will happen. Will I make him unlock, clean throughly, and then put it right back on with no help from me? Or when it comes off will I actually help and play with him? This past year I have only touched his cock once after he showered and before locking up again, and that was for only about three seconds, and lightly at that. That touch was over 8 months ago and he was so disappointed when I made him lock back up, especially since I tease him about stroking other guys cocks that I cuck him with all the time. In the videos, I always try and get me stroking the others I record. 😈

This is about as much as his cock has gotten touched in the past 8 months. LOL



It has been almost 15 months since his last orgasm, and although I told him he won't be cumming before the end of the year, I haven't given him any time frame for when he will be able to cum again. I have been trying to tease him more often, so he doesn't get too bored, lol. And of course, I have been having him give me multiple orgasms most days, either with his mouth and fingers or a strap on dildo.

During the 50 days he had to listen as I fucked other guys, or the treat when he got to watch at the theater. I love to tease him about how much bigger they are than him, and that's why I let them fuck me. To further the tease, I like us to watch the videos of me with the other guys, and especially going down on them or playing with their cocks since that is something I havent done for him in a very long time.

I'm really looking forward to 2024, and all the things we will do, or not do to him, and leaving him locked for who knows how much longer. He certainly doesn't, lol!

Hope everyone had a wonderful and kinky Christmas and has a great New Year!
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Cuckold Play - Theatre Style
Posted:Dec 24, 2023 12:12 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:04 pm
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This post will repeat in the first comment since the system is still cutting off words.

Always seems like the last 2 months of the year is so busy that posts are further apart. There will be 2 this week as there was double the fun this past week.

The other night, we went down to San Diego for a sporting event. We left early as I wanted to go to an adult book store first. We have gone to this bookstore a number of times in the past, and the last time even went into the theater portion to see what was going on. However, we only stayed for about 5 minutes as it wasn't very crowded, and as I found out later, I wasn't properly dressed for theater play. LOL. So we always said we would go back to check the theater out and see how it goes.

This time I was better prepared and wearing a very short Denim mini skirt and t-shirt, with nothing underneath. It was very exciting to ask to be let in the theater, knowing the girls behind the counter knew exactly what I was going to do. We went into the first room but it had only one guy in it so we went to the next room where there were four or five guys watching the videos, each room has two screens. We sat in the front row, and I was looking at the sex going on the screens and trying to let my eyes adjust to the room. My sub knew I was nervous, so he leaned over and started kissing me on the cheek and then started fingering me. I immediately spread my legs wide to give him better access. It was so exciting doing this in public, I came right away.

The other guys all seemed to lock on me once we entered the theater and even more so as they watched what we were doing. The guy sitting a few seats from me had his cock out when we sat and was playing with himself while watching both the screen and me. Another guy, who had been in the back, went over to the very front corner of the theater in the dark and just watched me while playing with himself. There was another guy who came in and sat behind us, and you could tell he was playing with himself very vigorously as he was making a lot of noise, and when he came, he left quickly.

My sub kept fingering me all through this, and I came three more times. I was still horny and wanted to be fucked so I leaned over and asked the guy that was sitting next to me if he wanted to do something. He said yes but didnt have a condom so I passed. Too bad as he did have a nice sized cock.

We got up and went to the other room to see if anything changed there and it was now empty. As I was very horny I leaned over a chair while my sub stood behind me and used three fingers inside me, since he was locked in his chastity cage, to give me 2 more orgasms. While we were playing 3 guys came in and watched, but all stood away while playing with themselves. Once I came a third time with his fingers and the guys seemed to only want to play with themselves, we decided to head out.

As we were walking out the hallway a new guy came in just as we were getting ready to leave and after noticing we passed by to leave came back into the hall and said, "Don't go yet, I just got here and ready to go!" I asked if he had a condom, and he said no, but give him 2 minutes to go into the store and buy one real quick.



While waiting for him to come back, we went back into the theater and I sat on a chair and started playing with myself, giving a little show to the guys still in the room. The guy came back showing the condom and immediately took his pants off and sat on the chair next to me. I played with his cock and told him he had a pretty big cock and his reply was that its only about half erect at that time. I laughed and told him his soft state was still bigger than my sub and why he doesn't get to fuck me very often. He just laughed at that comment. Once he was nice and hard, I put the condom on him and straddled myself on his cock. He was very big, and it felt really good. I had to be careful how much I lowered myself on him as he was very long. It was very cool to look over and see my sub watching and recording but not able to do anything to give himself any relief. LOL After a couple of orgasms I hopped off and bent over the back of the chair in front of us and he entered me from behind where I was able to take him with less issues. It felt great and I came a few more times before he finally came and fell back into the chair. I fixed my clothes and told him "thank you very much" and we headed out to eat dinner before the game.



It turned out to be a great experience, and looking forward to the next sporting event so we can head back to the theater before or after, or maybe even both.
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November Update
Posted:Nov 27, 2023 8:42 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:03 pm
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Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving. So due to many vanilla things in our life and a week long hospital stay, I have neglected the blog for the month. I thought I had posted about the final 3 days of Locktober but forgot to do it. Unfortunately, due to many vanilla things going on, we didn't have much kinky time to really end Loctober with a bang. Even on the last Monday when we usually have the most alone time, my sub had a dental appointment which took most of the morning. This, of course, didn't leave time for play as we had plans for the remainder of the day.

Halloween morning, he did go down on me and I had a few very nice orgasms. But that was it for the day as we got home late and I was very tired so was asleep before he finished his chores and got into bed. LOL.

Overall, I think our Locktober 2023 went very well. Unfortunately, he did he have to have the cage off a few times during the month, but those times were very short and he did have a protective cup on, so he was still really wasn't free. 😀 I could have teased him more but our free time was limited. It would have been really nice if I was able to get a few cuckold sessions in the month as well. Goals for next year!

He remained locked into November and has not been allowed an orgams or even have his cock touched. I also told him that after his last sporting activity on the November 2nd, the cage would not be coming off again for the remainder of the year with the exception to go from the clear to black Mini-me's and vis-versa and to shave areas that can't be shaved while they are on.

I also wanted him to go down a ring size on the cage and he tried, but after 3 days, his body rejected it so he it had be removed and he went back to the middle ring size. That was on Novemebr 4th and the cage has not been removed since. He actually has been shaving around the cage and doing a good job, but there are some longer hairs he has not been able to reach. Oh well, tough for him. We think 7 weeks is the longest he's been in a cage without it coming off. So even though it would be nice to see the black Mini-me on him I would like to beat what is we think is the record and actually record it this time so we know for sure. He says "lets just go with the 27 days and and call it" but where's the fun in that?!?!? Looking at the calendar, New Years Eve will be 8 weeks or 57 days sounds like a good time to make the switch.

I do love teasing him while he's locked and tied. This picture was after I teased him for about 15 minutes and he was sore hard his erection was going inside his body and his cock tip was doing its best to pop out of the cage.



I'm hoping to have a few fun encounters in December to add to his frustration and also tease a lot more because I'm in the christmas giving mood. 😀
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Loctober- Days 19-27
Posted:Oct 30, 2023 9:23 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:02 pm
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Days 19 - 27
I was gone for days 19 through the 23rd, so the only teasing that happened was through calls and texts. He had to send me pics of the cage to prove he was still locked as he had a numbered lock on.

He picked me up from the train station on the 24th and I was wearing a short dress as he drove home found out I wasn't wearing any panties. He played with me as we drove. Once we got home I walked into the bedroom to see that he had washed the sheets, done all the laundry, and cleaned and vacuumed the room. I told him what a good job he did, and I'll have to thank him later properly as I walked out of the room and caressed his cage as I did. Later that evening, when we went to bed, I told him it was time to thank him as I climbed into the bed and spread my legs. It was good to sleep in my own room with clean sheets and a tied sub next to me, especially after he went down on me, and I came a few times before tying him.

On the 25th, we were busy doing vanilla things during the day but still had time to tease. He is so very horny and I've still yet to play with his nipples. I get so close but still just happen to miss them. LOL. He didn't get teased too much on the 26th as we had family over most of the day, and then I went to bed early.

On the 27th, we went to a concert, and I got all dressed up and teased him by wearing a very sexy outfit. He was trying to play with me throughout the whole concert as it was a button-up short shirt dress with black lace panties. I didn't have the two bottom buttons buttoned up, so there was a peek of lace for him every so often. The whole way home, he played with my leg and crotch and yet, when we got home, I told him I was very tired, and we went to bed. He was so horny, he didn't fall asleep till after 3am. I woke up and tied him for the rest of the night.



Day 28
In the morning, since he was still tied face up I decided to climb up onto his face and had him go down on me until I came twice. As I sat on his face recovering, I told him I'd give him a special treat and give him a blow job. Unfortunately for him the blow job was with the cage on. To add to his frustration, I then sat on the cage and put it inside me. Poor baby wasn't able to feel me at all. 😆 I then gave him a real treat and played with his nipples for the first time in over 2 weeks. It was only for about 20 seconds, but his reaction was awesome.

We then went for a long walk, and when we got back, I had him go down on me for another five orgasms. The first two were him going down on me and the last three were him using his fingers on my clit and inside. He even managed to use three fingers inside me for the middle orgasm. I was actually done after that one, but he kept playing, and number five rolled up quickly. Oh well, more for me.

After that, it was back to our Fall Spring Cleaning. Well, it was more like it was back to him doing the cleaning as I was worn out and took a short nap.

When I woke up, I decided that he needed a paddling, so I made him stop working and go to the bedroom. I warmed his ass up with a long wooden paddle and then gave him 3 really good smacks with the lollipop paddle. I love that one as it hit so heavy.



Finally, I gave him a large enema to clean him out for some anal play, but then we ran out of time, so the enema was all the play he got. Oh well, at least I was satisfied and had a very good day! Only three more days of Locktober!
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Loctober Update - Days 14 - 23
Posted:Oct 23, 2023 9:40 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 5:00 pm
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Days 14-17
This post will be of the past week and keep in mind that I was out of town for days 18-23 but he was left locked. Enjoy!

The weekend was kind of boring kink wise, as we had a lot of vanilla things going on. His cage did not come off, however, which disappointed him somewhat. But when isn't he disappointed about it not coming off, lol.

On Monday, he was going to be gone most of the day, but I did get a few really good smacks with a hard paddle before he left. The cage even stayed on when he went to a professional football game, which was a first for him as he did not go with me. The hockey games he's used to wearing it as it's not nearly as crowded.

I did text him a few times during the game to tease him about wearing the cage and if it was getting tight while looking at all the young women wearing short skirts and shorts because it was so hot.

Tuesday, though, we finally got a chance to play a little. I used the leg/thigh/wrist cuffs to bind him on the side of the bed and got the nipple clamps out. He was so excited because I've been ignoring his nipples lately, but I just placed them on his chest and said, "Look how close they are! Too bad they aren't going on!". 😆 He was just about begging to have me put them on, but I stayed strong and left them off.



I then used a qtip to put numbing cream on the tip of his cock through the cage, so he wouldn't get too excited, he was already hard. I had been promising him that I was going to start using toys in his ass more, and with no nipple play, it seemed like a good time to start. I lubed my glove wrapped finger, and finger fucked his ass for a little while, to get him used to having something inside him again, since it had been so long. Then the long metal dildo came out and was lubed up as well. I inserted the dildo, slowly, but his greedy ass sucked it right in all the way to the handle on its own and boy did he jumped from it.

I fucked his ass for about fifteen minutes, and he had three big anal orgasms, two right after each other, but the third one was really strong and intense.

I left him tied like that for a few minutes after to recover, then untied him. It was a pretty quiet night after that.

That was all he got before I was away for the week.
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