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LX_ndrws 49M
7 posts
3/2/2017 12:04 pm
Which is the right answer?

Two d/s couples go into a restaurant and sit down at booths next to each other. At table number 1, the dom orders for both of them. At table number 2, the sub orders for both of them. Which one is correct?

(I'll give you the correct answer in a couple days)
Table number 1
Table number 2
Neither is right or wrong


Sirslittlej 40F  
6 posts
3/3/2017 9:43 pm

It depends on the dynamics of each couple's relationship.


sub_nouveau 47F  
2137 posts
3/4/2017 2:54 am

Neither - as per Sirslittlej comment. Also, in a traditional situation, where the Dom would typically order for them both - there could be numerous reasons why the Dom didn't order, eg he couldn't read the menu (different language); he's vision impaired; he asked his sub to order; etc.

Let's talk. It's how we learn about yesterday and comprehend today.


gaibarjan 67F
589 posts
3/4/2017 10:35 am

There is no 'right' or 'wrong'. If it works for them, then it's right.


30809guy 43M
12 posts
3/5/2017 12:00 pm

It all depends. There's no right answer really.


LX_ndrws 49M
4 posts
3/6/2017 6:31 am

Applause, applause...the vast majority of you got it right. The answer is, there is no correct answer. A bdsm relationship is about what you want it to be about...its not about online protocol or learning position numbers or any other such nonsense. I don't want you to kneel the way some book said that's how you are supposed to kneel. You'll kneel the way I want, and be in the positions I want and learn that I don't punish in the same way that I reward (unlike most doms). Part of the problem in the fetish scene is that some folks (mostly doms) have spent time online and read some books, etc and they can talk "the talk"...so subs feel like they have experience, when they might not have any at all. Punishment...I think most doms have punishment all wrong. I think most subs have aftercare all wrong. I think what I think and I think that way because I was that guy 20 years ago who had been in the scene for a few years and thought I knew everything...and then realized what a bdsm relationship was really all about. Folks...stop playing the right/wrong game...and stop judging others because their kink is not the same as yours. Just like in the restaurant, different methods in r/l should be embraced.


Sirslittlej 40F  
6 posts
3/7/2017 9:47 am

An actual Dominant voice of knowledge and reason. They do exist.



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