"NETWORK ONLY" Jul 15, 2008 6:26 pm 7528 Views Hey Kids I'm about shift gears in my role at work. That means that I am moving to "Network Only" on more posts than I have been in the past. Which was none! So if you are one of the few, the proud, the reg'lar readers of my blog and you aren't in my network, please send me a request so that I may add you to the network so that you can continue to get the full Monty Love Mo 7 Comments , 23 Pending

Mollena's Karma Sprinklie Box Jan 28, 2008 12:31 am Mood: hopefully wagging tail, 13669 Views There are those days when I am feeling like I could use a sprinkling of happy love and glitterykarma from the people who chill out, drive by or drop in to the SupercalifragilisticexpialidoBlog thing that I got slithering & lolling on this virtual spot. So, this is my Love Corner! *fluffs pillows and binkies and positions brownies and Godiva choccies and soy chai lattes within reach* My need for plaudits, lauds and virtual affection: Let me show you it! Leave a note....go gimmie some kudos....write me a sizzling testimonial and then go add it to my profile....post a joke, a poem, do it every day....oh, whatever you like! I'm easy. But you know that. Love Mo 47 Comments

RANT: KNOW THE %$#@!*& DIFFERENCE OR ELSE!!! Dec 29, 2007 10:08 pm Mood: Deliciously Vexed, 15111 Views ]I am not sure I have dragged out this poor battle-worn equine carrion in 2007... It Is Time. [rant] HEY! YOU! YOU WITH THE PROFILE THAT IDENTIFIES YOU AS A "DOMINATE" MASTER!! For the LOVE of GOD!!! Or GODS!! OR Stephen MOTHERFUCKING HAWKING!!! *deep breath* Once Again!! Main Entry: dom·i·nant Pronunciation: \-n?nt\ Function: adjective Etymology: Middle French or Latin; Middle French, from Latin dominant-, dominans, present participle of dominari Date: circa 1532 1 a: commanding, controlling, or prevailing over all others (the dominant culture) b: very important, powerful, or successful (a dominant theme) (a dominant industry) 2: overlooking and commanding from a superior position (a dominant hill) 3: of, relating to, or exerting ecological or genetic dominance 4: being the one of a pair of bodily structures that is the more effective or predominant in action (dominant eye) VS. Main Entry: dom·i·nate Pronunciation: \'dä-m?-?nat\ Function: verb Inflected Form(s): dom·i·nat·ed; dom·i·nat·ing Etymology: Latin dominatus, past participle of dominari, from dominus master; akin to Latin domus house — more at dome Date: 1611 transitive verb 1: RULE control(an empire that dominated the world) 2: to exert the supreme determining or guiding influence on (the ambition that has dominated his life) 3: to overlook from a superior elevation or command because of superior height or position (a hill that dominates the town) 4 a: to be predominant in (sugar maples dominate the forest) b: to have a commanding or preeminent place or position in (name brands dominate the market)intransitive verb1: to have or exert mastery, control, or preeminence 2: to occupy a more elevated or superior position OK. OK. See, it is not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things. But if you are going to label yourself, if you are going to tell the world of ALT and, frankly, the entire INTERWEBS that you wanna be the boss of someone, it is not TOO MUCH TO ASK you to get this together. Look at the photo I have posted here. Look at it closely. Go on. Click on it. Even GOOGLE Tries to stop you from making this mistake!! Try it yourself! This Googletastic autosuggest MUST be the result of the hundreds of thousands of clueless "dominates" (would be DOMINANTS!!!) fucking this shit up!!! Seriously, this is the ocular equivalent of the aural torture of nails on a chalkboard. GO read the following sentence aloud to your mirror: "Hi, my name is _______________, and I am a DOMINATE!" Does that even SOUND RIGHT to you?!!? YES?!!? Then you are dumb as a bag of moist Limburger, and you should leave my blog right now and never, ever come back. I'll wait. . .. .... ........ ............ ........ .... .. , OK if you realized that was a horrible mistake, and are frantically looking back at your profile(s) here on ALT, on Adult FriendFinder, on Bondage, on CollarMe, and fixing your shit, there MAY be hope for you. [/rant] 11 years I have been ranting about this shit.....you think I'd be tired. Nope. Never!!! Muahahaaaaaa!!!!!!! 38 Comments

Complaints about ALT? Send them my way ASAP! 4: 30 PM [PST] DEADLINE! [ONGOING] Jan 6, 2009 1:29 pm 6177 Views POST OR MESSAGE ME BEFORE 4:30 PM PST! I'm putting together a hit list of bugs and "Wish List" items. This WILL be presented to some of the Big Bosses. Please post below anything you think would be a fix to ALT, or something that has been crippled for a while that still needs addressing. ANd if you see someone has already listed your pet peeves, feel free to reinforce by seconding, thirding, etc. Please link to this post, and cross post it, but keep in mind I have to have this together by 4:30 Pacific Time. Go forth! 99 Comments

Ding, Dong, the "Get Laid Guarantee" is dead. Jan 13, 2010 4:33 pm Mood: hopeful, 205 Views You know it...you love it...and I'm sure you'll be sorry to learn that, after expressing...strongly...my "Reservations and Concerns" about that particular gambit and forwarding your complaints, Management will be pulling the GET LAID GUARANTEE! campaign. [fanfare] It might take a while for the change to propagate across all of the servers but it should be totally gone by the next code release, and that is next Tuesday. Indeed, despite the initial spike in traffic that made me look like I didn't know what I was talking about, there was an immediate inverse effect. SO, there you have it. It might linger a bit because updates take for freakin' ever but it will be gone soon. 12 Comments

The "Get Laid" Advert and "The Numbers." Dec 10, 2009 11:35 am Mood: disappointed, 446 Views Yep. It sucks. Believe me; I was more surprised than ANY of you were when it showed up, because the ad didn't fly on A F F which IS geared for hookups. I've taken it to Management. The move was to shift the verbiage to "Get Your Fetish Serviced." I explained why a "fetish" can't be "serviced" and clarified that this still missed the point: that it is not integral to the basic RACK / SSC tenants of BDSM to advocate casual fucking and promises that casual fucking is to be obtained here. I thought "OK, this ad is so blatant...people won't respond." And you know what? The numbers are in: people are signing up for it. The percentages are kind of amazing. It is hard for me to argue with numbers. I mean, people complain, sure. People threaten to leave. For years. Some of the most vocal detractors are the same people who stick around anyway, complaining but remaining. That doesn’t impress upon the Money People here that this type of campaign doesn’t "work." ALTfolk talk about not renewing memberships, rail against the unreliable balky system, and cluck their tongues knowingly that "people are leaving." Well, they aren’t. I WISH I had hard numbers to say "Look, you don’t take care of the customer, they won't stick around." but people DO stick around. It is interesting, to me, how many people complain about how shitty things are / have been / continue to be. And I'm one of the Old Schoolers; I have, cumulatively, 12 years on ALT. I, too, have seen the wonkiness. But the illusion of the good old days is just that. Some shit ain't gonna change. I have to suck that up. Some stuff, Well, I do what I can. Like explaining that, despite the fact that some people are answering this ad by putting up their Money...enough to spike enrollments...that the cumulative effect is NOT positive. Well. I’m doing what I can. And, for that, the thanks I get is accusations of rigging the whole thing, being a tool of the man, a puppet for the "In clique” and a power-mad porn whore. FYI, I only did that one scene in that one porn, so I don’t think that counts Anyway, yeah. Sorry for my first post in ages to be non-personal, but it kind of is. I’ll keep you posted if there is any movement on this campaign. 14 Comments

Mo’s nogamy. Nov 10, 2009 2:33 pm 455 Views Heart monogamy is how I’ve recently come to identify my idea of my optimal relationship structure. While I know many people eschew labels and frown upon being “boxed,” I see well-placed labels as a great way for people listening to me to grab onto what I’m talking about. I can then drag them along for my own emotional version of “Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride,” but without a common launch pad, the discussion or negotiation has about as much coherency as 38 chickens trying to build a Jenga© stack. I’m not polyamorous by the generic definition. I tend to airlock into a relationship once I’m there, and I ain’t tryin’ to let anyone else get their little umbilicus into my supply ship. Great Ganesha that was geeky. But you get my point. Now, this does not mean there isn’t room to take off on little side missions to interesting planets, party with the natives, get some fun times with alien species. But at the end of the mission, I need to have that heart-to-heart with another person who feels the same way about me. This morning a Friend on Twitter asked me about being play poly and heart monogamous, and how that works out how I got to the point where that was OK. So, here is a bit about that. And here is a caveat, dear reader this isn’t about you. This is about me. If you do it differently, that’s cool. Many people I love dearly do it VERY differently. But I am not looking to be swayed or converted or told that my way isn’t OK. I’m not looking to have yet another conversation about how awesome poly is and how flawed monogamy is. I’ve had enough people laugh at my being monogamous, try to cheese their way into my life with arguments about how monogamy is for the fearful. Yadda. Don’t go there. Please. In brief, I’ve always been somewhat non-monogamous. My first High School sweetie and I had a third for a while in our relationship one of my best girlfriends was involved with us for a time. Being bisexual, that was great for me and he, being 19, was in an enviable position of having a girlfriend and a playmate. The boundaries were pre-negotiated, and we were cool. When he pretty much rolled over the boundaries, the triad was dissolved, though he and I carried on for a bit, and my relationship with my friend carried on as well, with no permanent damage. Hell, I’d known her since elementary school I wasn’t about to let a boy fuck that up. Thereafter I was monogamous, with occasional forays into Salacious Sluttiness until I became involved in the BDSM community. My first formal Leather relationship was a M/S household, High Protocol, and very poly. I found that was OK, actually, for a while. The workload in the house was shared, I tended to enjoy the company of the majority of the women that my Trainer brought into the fold, and I really loved watching him play from that intimate ”In The Household” vantage point. I did NOT, however, feel valued and loved when he immediately went on a hunt for more subs the moment his relationship status dwindled to only me. I felt it would be a good time for us to recoup, bond, and then see what life brought in to the Family. He was actively recruiting. I realized that the idea of needing more than one partner was not central to my heart. That was the beginning of my end there. Since then, I’ve had a few moments where poly has seemed feasible. Until it isn’t. I still feel, very deeply, the need to have a person with whom I share the level of focus that feeds my need. Going into a situation where a dominant has a primary / lover / slave / spouse / submissive / play partner who isn’t me precludes my becoming truly close to them. I just don’t open up in the same way. That isn’t to say I haven’t been tempted. A few times there have been couples who I found unilaterally attractive, and my head was turned. There have been dominants who have hit That Spot and as I stood there in the aftermath, compromise of that Core need has seemed very, very tempting. But I am fortunate enough to have my karma straight enough that those situations reveal themselves, rather quickly, to be unfeasible. I know that I love playing with new friends, and I know that I love watching someone I care for enjoying themselves with another partner. It gives me insight into their process in a way I cannot manage when I am in scene with them. My partner watching me bottom to someone else, or knowing that I have that experience, can broaden and deepen their insight into my submission, service and masochism. It has to be, for me, that the bond I feel with my partner provides for safe playing, for a situation in which my self-esteem is supported and nurtured. I absolutely will not put myself back into a situation where I am vying for a place in the heart of my master, owner, partner, lover, with other people. I need mine: my master, my owner, my lover, my partner. I need the bond to have the intention of “Us-ness” and for that intention to have momentum that carries us through. And, despite the occasional turns of the head, that is what I need to thrive. Could that change? Sure. Life reveals itself to me in strangely beautiful ways. I am not so hubristic as to say “Never ever!” However, this is something that I know about the me that is writing this today: I need my place to be mine, not shared, not compromised, not subject to addenda, adjustment, whim and fancy. I am Fairly Certain I am enough to keep an owner well and truly occupied. And for those who feel that one person could never be everything to another, and therefore more people are needed I don’t roll that way. I don’t need you to be my everything. I do need to be everything you want. 5 Comments

Ms. SF Leather 2009 Oct 19, 2009 9:52 am Mood: grateful, 606 Views What with fighting another ovarian outbreak and an overwhelming rehearsal schedule a lot on my plate here at work and my insane effort to run for the title of Ms. SF Leather 2009, I have hardly been able to keep up. I am Awed, Humbled, Thrilled, Amazed to report that, on Saturday night, a panel of judges reflecting everything I aspire to be in my service to the Leather Community saw fit to allow me the honor of serving and representing San Francisco as Ms. SF Leather 2009. To all of the STELLAR people who ran the event, to the Judges, who had a TOUGH job, to all of the people who donated to and bid on my run basket, to all of the tech crew and running crew who worked their asses off to add another page into Leather History, to Ren for twisting my arm my most humble thanks. And thank you Queen Cougar for rocking the mic! Thank you. Mama Sandy Reinhardt, Daddy Sal, Pam Meyer, Lamalani, Brandon Clark, thank you. I hope to live up to your votes of confidence. To the Emeritus Titleholders who provided endless grounding energy, thank you. EACH and every one of you touched me and inspired me to be my best. Jo Liza DJ you made MAGIC! Holla at my PWNs Patti, Persephone .Bex holy shit, we did it. In Leather Pride Mollena Williams Ms. SF Leather, 2009 10 Comments

Rest In Peace, Marcus Hernandez. Oct 9, 2009 12:45 pm 657 Views Thee are people who, by dint of their indefatigability and ubiquitousness, seem to literally be a part of the scenery of your life. The Bay Area Reporter and Marcus Henandez certainly weave bright threads in the tapestry of the Bay Area and the light shines on. Today I learned that Mr. Marcus Hernandez, longtime member and documenter of the Leather community, has passed away. From his bio Celebrating his 37th year in 2007 as the leather columnist in San Francisco’s Bay Area Reporter, (Mr.) Marcus Hernandez has been covering the worldwide leather scene since October 1971. He has authored articles and published photos to Drummer Magazine, The Leather Journal, the annual IML Program, the annual Int’l. Mr. Drummer Program and many other publications. His column apoears weekly in the newspaper and it’s web site www.Ebar.com. Partials of his column (mostly photos are also posted each week on http://alt.com Marcus has been honored as the Outstanding Columnist in the public voting for San Francisco’s Cable Car Awards so many times, he was taken out of contention and placed in the Hall of Fame in that category.He is considered the Dean of all leather columnists. Marcus has received numerous other awards including two Pantheon of Leather awards, the National Emerald Award and tributes from the San Francisco Board of Supervisors, the Secretary of State of California and San Francisco’s Inter-Club Fund Motorcycle Awards the latest being Lifetime Achievement Award in 2002. In 2006, he was awarded Man of the Year. Marcus has been judging International Mr. Leather since 1980 and is now the Judge Emeritus for life on that panel. He has judged leather contests from coast to coast, in Canada and in Europe and is also the Judge Emeritus for the American Brotherhood Weekend titles. He was the Judges’ Coordinator for International Mr. Drummer for some seven years and served on the board of directors of the Mr. San Francisco Leather Contest. He also produced the Mr. SF Leather Contest in September 2005. The former mayor of San Francisco (Willie L. Brown, Jr.) honored Marcus by proclaiming the entire month of November 2000 as Mr. Marcus Month in honor of his 31st year milestone as the leather columnist in San Francisco’s Bay Area Reporter. Shine on, Sir. 3 Comments

Where's that bitch been?!?! And what the FUCK is she up to?!?!? Sep 17, 2009 2:25 pm Mood: exanimate, 846 Views Been for-freakin-ever since I've posted Of course, the main event is outside of my 9-5 corral, and goodies are on my main blog mollena dot you-know-what. SO! Um...getting ready to start rehearsals for the fall show that my theater company's producing. The show is VERY challenging, I'm one of the leads, and I have my very first onstage-make-out scene. Yep. in 35 years as a professional actor, I've never done it. Go freaking figure. The world is capricious in its whims. The Folsom Street Fair is coming up...I'll be presenting at the Folsom Fringe event, so if you're in town for that please drop me a note so I can find you there ON THE YAAAAAAAAAY! Tip!! I was approached a while back by Rachel Kramer Bussel who edits all manner of adult themed anthologies to write an essay, on spec, to be considered for possible submission to the "Best Sex Writing 2010" anthology. And guess what! I made it. SO I'll be in it to win it! The book comes out in November, so that is soon and I am pretty stoked. On the heels of that....! If you are familiar wit Greenery Press, you might be aware of their "ToyBag Guide" series, which are mini-handbooks that cover specific topics in BDSM play. I'd been noodling around with the idea of approaching Janet (Hardy) to see if I might be able to get in on writing one, and voila! Coming to a bookstore or browser near you will soon be the newest installation of "The Toybag Guide" Playing With Taboo. Written by yours truly! I am very, very proud and really really thrilled to have these opportunities. Pretty amazing. Let's see...what else.... Oh! I'm an Aunt. The middle kid of the family broke down and cranked out a Grand-Daughter for our Mom. Which is lovely, because it was looking pretty bleak on that front as far as I was concerned. I have officially reclaimed my childhood nickname so that I shall heretofore be known as Aunt Moldy" because that's awesome and no other kid living today has an Aunt Moldy, for certain. Ah and if you happen to be a Midwesterney type, go ahead and google the Madtown Kinkfest, a Leather event happening in Madison, WI in February (I know, I know, I don't want to talk about it. They asked so nicely.) at which I'll be presenting. I seem to have recovered from this summer's horrible string of health misfortunes....I go back in for a follow-up soon to see if the ovaries have calmed the fuck down (bad ovarian cyst action couple months back. Fail. I don't recommend it.) and my mammogram came back free and clear, so the girls seem to be just fine! Three cheers for Betty and Wilma I suppose that is enough for now... thanks for reading, folks! xoxo ~Mo 3 Comments

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