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For most of us kinksters, body modifications speak to our erotic pursuits and are often tied to D/s commitments. Some are permanent, others just for the weekend. Many are not obvious except to the wearer, like chastity devices, a highly fantasized about fetish. My friend Yossie, a versatile and very kinky player, has explored genital confinement and describes what it feels like to wear one.
“Mmm...I think first and foremost I like the constant stimulation. It feels GOOD to have something wrapping up my cock and balls, it feels better to know that and to know that I can't take it off. It feels best to WANT to orgasm and not be able to - I can test myself, hard, and stay horny. I like chastity. I like ‘enforced’ chastity even more. Someone else owning the key makes it far more fun - adds a power exchange aspect to the whole thing.
“I have, over the years, found that I prefer steel belts; the kind that are far more intense looking and arguably offer better security and prevention are superior for LONG term wear, like a couple of months.”
(He really did that!)
“However,” he continues, “I do enjoy my CB 3000 (or CB3K as it's called sometimes.) This small plastic device made up of 5 pieces will successfully prevent erections and orgasms as long as it is worn. It works great for an exciting weekend of tease and denial. It is uniquely useful in that it is entirely plastic and can be worn through a metal detector and survive a wanding with my ego intact! :)
“My CB3K is transparent; I like to be able to see, but not touch, my cock. It comes in other colors including opaque black which is great for the 'gone from sight' feeling. Applying it is a matter of being soft. Slip your cock into the tube. Add the cock-ring (which is hinged, so you can fold it shut around the scrotum rather than over the balls. Pop the rod in through the overlapping sides of the cock ring then through a spacer and finally into the tab on the tube. Add a padlock, or plastic numbered seal which has to be destroyed to be removed, and you are done!
“The plastic device has other uses, for me - on occasion. I have a Frenum piercing and a Guiche piercing. The Frenum is a bar through what is left of my foreskin. The guiche is a ring through my perineum - the "taint" as it were, the area between the balls and the butthole. Why do I mention these? Well, as I am putting the CB3K on, I will attach an alligator clip tipped wire to the frenum with the wire coming outside the device. I will then add a second wire on my guiche hooking the two up to a TENS unit. This will often get me off, usually takes a while and is extremely intense when I do - in a GOOD way. Leading up to orgasm, my cock is struggling as hard as it can to GET hard - it mostly fails, but the feeling is spectacular.
“I have not yet surrendered the key to the CB3K to anyone for any length of time - mostly since it doesn't wear well for me for more than a day or two - my scrotum gets abraded. Metal belts work better for me and more importantly, metal is a fetish of mine. For that reason, I prefer the steel belts, providing I do not have to fly anywhere of course!”
For those of you fascinated with surrendering genital control to your Top while being turned on all the time, I hope you find Yossie’s candid share informative. As bodymods go, I prefer the commitment that tattoos and brands offer. My tattooed necklace is a work in progress; I mark major changes in my life with additional inked talismans below the curve lines of the necklace.
My dear friend Sam shares my taste for permanent marks of significance. She and her husband decided to celebrate their 30-year marriage with a mutual branding ritual. She told me recently, “Of course I had read The Story of O and that scene really turned me on. I understood the ownership implications of being branded to a Dominant; to us, it meant the choice we made so young was and is right. I felt I was already branded to him heart and soul, so why not on my body?”
Small pieces of surgical steel are what Fakir uses for branding those who seek a permanent “kiss of fire.” Fakir told them all about the sizes and shapes he would use to create their design of two entwined hearts floating on 3 waves. He informed them the waves would be drawn using a medical cautery unit. Sam told me, “When Fakir talked about the thermo cautery pen, I replied ‘sure’ even though I could not even imagine what that would really feel like.”
“The ceremony we created with the great friends, guides and lovers we had met since coming into the BDSM lifestyle was really beautiful. Ritual drumming pulsing our cores, I saw our deep love and the beauty in Alan’s soul as he received his permanent mark on his forearm. He did not even move a muscle! My turn. I knew I was going to be struck with hot metal on my chest 12 times for the hearts and submit to that 2000 degrees Fahrenheit metal tip dragging across my skin long enough to make 3 waves right above my cleavage.
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“Fakir steadying his elbows on sandbags made me smile, then he looked at me asked if I was ready. The first strike felt like any burn I’ve ever experienced; quick flash and a little sizzle. I thought, ‘this is OK, I can do this.’ PFSSSSST went the blowtorch until the steel glowed bright red. PFSSSSST metal touching skin took my breath away for a split second. I know I let out a deep growling sigh as I started to fly! You were at my feet, grounding me and Alan was squeezing my hand, eyes aglow and cock hard like the good sadist he is. The curve of each wave that was burnt into my flesh felt more sensuous, hot and watery, as if we were dancing passionately in this community of kinky folks that had welcomed us home at last.”
Sam and I reminisced about her branding ritual as we flew back together from Thunder in the Mountains Conference just last week. Not only were we high in the sky, we were high on the energy of so many of the real players who left my classes more connected to the heat, heart and spirit in their chosen BDSM explorations.
In leather pride, with heart,
Cléo Dubois
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