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Dear Cleo,
I've really enjoyed your very practical articles.
This last one ending with the importance of connection
makes me want to throw in another aspect of connection.
In the scene many fantasies and many players have the sub
avert her eyes and not meet the dominant's gaze. Also
many subs will close their eyes and go off into "space"
or somewhere else during a scene. From a dominant's
perspective I find that if I have my slavegirl meet my eyes
and keep them open during play and sex it greatly increases
our connection which makes our play more powerful and and
my control more precise. So I'd like to emphasize the
value of running against the BDSM grain on eye contact and
going into "space". There are other, IMHO,
more intimate ways to interact with one's slave/sub.
By the way we're an Alt couple as well, more than 4 y.
Best,
Jim
(I met you when Fakir put 8 rings in my wife's labia and
you took pics, a singularly significant ritual for us.)
learn alot from you.