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Original Article

You've Made It To The Party, Now What? Scene Etiquette
by Bill Reed

Floggers striking skin, whips cracking and leaving their marks, naked bodies bound in various positions. The scene is surreal, the music mysterious, the sounds of passion a song to your ear. You’re new, you’re nervous, you don’t know what to expect or what is expected. Your first time at a play party will be possibly the most memorable. These tips will help you to make it your first and subsequent visits most enjoyable. There are some things that are very important to remember when attending a play party, whether at a dungeon or in someone’s home. Remember that each dungeon or host will have their own

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1eagle666 57 M
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Wonderfully stated as to proper etiquette of one attending
a play party or dungeon. If everyone followed these rules
in their outside lives, I believe the world would be a nicer
place. Great job! All the best

norann 52 M
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thank you for this very useful article. It is a big help to
relatively inexperienced people such as well, me.


thanks again.

Hengest24 62 M
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Lovely. Just like church rules really. When can I attend
the perfect party!

bunknown2u 61 M
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A pretty comprehensive list!

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Very well stated, basically adheres to the basic rules
of life, if it isn't yours, leave it alone, if your
not invited, stay out, etc...common sense, and just
basic proper day to day etiquette goes a long way in a dungeon, house
play party, or any fetish scening...Nothing messes up
a scene like the newbie, or inexperienced walking up to
a scene, and starting to unzip his pants, or reaching
out to touch anothers... Firm...

master1344 61 M
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very.hot.post

sarasnow03 42 F
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i'd like to go to a party to just watch

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This is a good article for people starting into BDSM

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Having been to several play parties, I think that this list
is an excellent compilation of simple rules to follow for
attendance at a party. All too often, new attendies break
one or moreof these rules. I have found that having a Party
Rules hand out or email prior to the party has helped limit
the indiscretions that cause others discomfort. It also
helps everyone know what is acceptable behavior.

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Very nice basic introduction to how to behave at a party.
I just wish that more people (even the veterans who should
know better) would adhere to these basic protocols and
basic civil encounters. Some folks feel that they are in
a free for all just because there is a sexually charged energies
going on and just think they have the right to chat right
next to your scene, interrupt you after your scene is over
etc. Not everyone, but more than not, I have see it happen
at public play spaces.

RoseRed54 62 F
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I'm so glad to see this posted! Too many people don't
know the rules, and don't know where to go to learn them.
Yes, they should ask, but as we all know, the first time in
a dungeon can be intimidating, to say the least. I don't
think I broke any of the rules my first time out, but I do wish
I'd seen this many years ago.

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Thank you for posting this information, we found it to be
very educational.

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Good article.


I'd like to add never, never interrupt a scene even
if it appears to YOU that it has become non-consensual.
Contact the DM if you are truly concerned.

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excellent - thx for this article !!!


very useful advice and well timed... .

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Great information, good facts to know and be reminded of
at any time, thanks

Master_J69 56 M
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Very good indeed

sepper2007 37 F
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thankyou for posting this list. as someone who is new to
the scene but very interested i appreciate any pointers
i can get to not screw up badly.

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useful stuff

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Well that covers the basics

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Useful advice and pointers, good reasons given for them
too.

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Good coverage of the basics; now if only more newcomers
to the scene would actually pay attention to them...


It would also be a good idea to ask if the host/ess or playparty
organizer if they have any rules that are *specific* to
their particular event. (For example, if it is a small private
event in a home, then no sitting nude on the furniture without
a towel underneath you...) Each event often has their own
rules and guidelines which might cover more specific situations.



~ Mistress Jade Dragon HeadMistress, FemDomme Society of Canada

Ringo486 40 M
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Great article, great ideas, very useful!

meooomy2 53 M
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Thanks for the article. I have longed for the experience
for what seems to be an eternity. Hopefully, this will prepare
me to meet the needs of all, and not to go away with the lampshade
covering my sorry ass.

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very helpful.

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very helpful, ty

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very informative.

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sounds so hott.

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mmm....dommination.

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some good tips

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Sweet memmories flood back of my first party.....seemed
so long ago but still the memory if as freash and sweet as
i was

subdude81 60 M
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What a good article. I have been to a few play parties in California
and there was someone there to keep the newbies in line.
If they got this list before showing up all would be ok for
everyone involved. Keep up the good work. submissively,
subdude23

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this was great for preperation. need to know info that comes
in handy.

axion4u 60 M
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very informative and creative, good work

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the post is precise and to the point. we visit various Dungeons
throughout the U.S and there is always people who dont know
how to behave but there are always a hand full there to set
them str8.


Master Curios

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For a novice such as myself this was very helpful

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Thank you for your words of wisdom. I will keep this in mind
when the time comes.

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Great article..I am fairly new so this information is very
useful.

intphil 38 M
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excellent very helpful

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That was a great article. I couldn't have attempted
to write such a comprehensive article. I printed one out
as a reminder.

chubbs492 30 M
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great tips

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I am so glad someone wrote a story such as this as I had to find
out everything the hard way all I can say is thank god for
friends

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Thank you very much for the informative post....I'm
heading to my first play party soon, and it's nice to
have a little heads up.

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Very good article.

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Honest and to the point!


I am hoping to attend my first "party" (well,
I think it's one) coming soon but it says, fetish wear
only!


As I am new and just exploring, I'm tempted to just go
in my brassiere and jacket. I am teasing a little but that
infamous "oh, what do I wear?!" flits in my brain
from time to time.


Thank you again for the article.





S

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great advice

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some good points

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Very Very Nice and I love the pic.

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great list. . . . the general guideline of any social encounter:
be respectful, be polite, will get you through most situations.

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as a complete novice I enjoyed this. It is good to have helpful
hints before doing anything for the first time.

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Very usefull. Thanks

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Great list, perfect for new comers.

Ravon_1 56 M
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very informative & well written, especially for a
newbie such as myself. haven't been to a 2play party2
yet but if i get the cahnca will certainly refer to your advice.

_futs_ 51 M
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Excellent article. My advice is always to be cool.

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Right on thanks!!

Mstr_Full 50 M
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Great Guide for beginers

wristrope 68 M
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Excellent article. Simple, practical and newbies (like
me) confidance building.

wristrope 68 M
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Excellant article. Simple, practical and for newbies
(like me) confidance building.

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Excellent article for beginners!

witched 46 F
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This is some of the most well written advice
I have ever read concerning bdsm ettiquette. Keep publishing
please

katrina51 65 T
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excellent posting, these are general rules ofcommon sense
when you arein another person realm. so many people just
seem to think they can go and do what they want and touch anything
withouit permission. like i said the article was ghreat.
hope some people learn from it

devovere68 47 F
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Good adavives for beginners...

devovere68 47 F
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Good advices for beginners...

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This has to be one of the most useful articles have come across
here. Simple and well written. Also, I love lists. I don't
know why.... Thanks