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Originally, I assumed that this dynamic was simply physical. Blame it on youth or naiveté but my understanding was limited to the body. BDSM as an extension of sex and tactile sensations.
I put the cart before the .
I was wrong.
What a difference a year makes.
"Fuck the mind, and the body shall follow." Mastersith Proverb 11:38
As I listen to my vanilla friends tell me the woes of their marriages and relationships, I realize the power of this exchange.
Why are their marriages and relationships faltering? They (both sides are usually guilty) no longer fuck their partner's mind.
To me, this is the essence of our D/S bond.
I have witnessed the power of words. The words that stir the mind, open the heart and break the body...
"I love you."
"How did you sleep?"
"How is your day?"
"Do you need anything?"
"I know it hurts but I'm going to continue."
"I'm not done."
"I'm here."
"You deserve this."
"Good girl."
Words flow into acts of affection and care...
A kiss on the forehead...
A gentle stroke of the hair...
Flowers without reason...
Making tea in the morning...
A gentle pat on the ass...
I used to think, "How can I be a Dom if I'm making my sub tea? Shouldn't she be preparing my breakfast, washing my clothes and acquiesce to my every whim?" She should do because it is my wish.
Strike 1, 2 and 3. The true exchange came when I confidently and thoroughly fucked her largest sexual organ, her mind.
Unlocking her mind lead to:
"Yes, Sir."
"Thank you, Sir."
"Do you want some water, Sir?"
"Break me, Sir."
"Violate me, Sir."
"More, Sir."
"I want you inside, Sir."
"Thank you for teaching me, Sir."
"I love you, Sir."
Some of these phrases have become so natural that they are spoken in the vanilla world.
And the body? What are the physical signs?
Keeping her ass up despite the pain.
Not moving until she is told.
Holding her breath when told.
Gagging on me.
Cumming on command.
Gorgeous acts of trust, respect and submission heretofore unattainable.
Her mind is fucked and now her body can be trained.
I borrowed this from sir Mastersith
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我的理想對象:
Ltr/dom/bf all in one
This describes exactly what I a want to achieve with the right dom.
I am looking for a real dom with sadist qualities. Not into a 24/7 or slave .
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