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NO: Hookups, crossdressers, sissies, bottoms or submissives.
i want to be very clear about this- i am a submissive bottom tswoman here in search of a Dominant Top man for a long-term romantic power exchange relationship. i don't want to see you in a dress. i don't want to fuck your ass. i don't want to Dominate you. DOMINANT TOP MEN ONLY! Yall are gonna make me rip my hair out! Aaahhhhh!!!!!
Okay, moving on. :)
In a nutshell-
i’m a submissive, bottom, TS woman. Who i seek is a Dominant man willing/interested in diving in deep with me. As of this time i have 8 years of experience in BDSM and have learned a lot about how to be a better lover in a committed relationship and about myself. i understand the difference between reality and fantasy. i understand that a successful romantic D/s relationship requires work from all parties involved and that we must still live in the real world together as we build a life of love.
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i have inclinations towards romantic slavery and a strong preference for DaddyDom/sub-girl style of dynamic. What i seek is a long term relationship grounded in love, mutual respect, and power exchange. my heart yearns to serve and love a worthy Owner, whom i, in turn, would strive to be worthy of. Both sides of the slash are a complimentary gift to the other. My expectations are not one-sided.
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i have many kinks, but only two i would call a fetish:
[B](disclaimer- i am a consenting adult above the age of 18. i only play with other consenting adults. i recognize that role-play is not real. i do not advocate play with minors or anyone who does not consent or is unable to consent)[/B]
--DaddyDoms- i'll let you extrapolate from there. i'm trying to keep my profile above board.
--[B]Consensual[/B]-Non-Consent (CNC)- again, please use your imagination here. it's hard to publicly go into detail about these fetishes without violating the ToU. For compliance purposes, i'd like to make clear that i understand the emphasis to lie with the first [B]"C"[/B] in [B]"CNC"[/B].
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i enjoy diving deep and dark with a like minded Lover. Please refer to the two fetishes above for a general understanding of the styles i enjoy . Also, sometimes i enjoy being permitted to cry during play with the understanding that my tears do not mean "stop." (sometimes a nice cry just feels really good)
Safe Sane Consensual & Risk Aware Consensual Kink:
i'm familiar with both of these models. In a personal sense, i like the RACK model better, but i see the values in various applications of SSC as well. i do not use specific safewords. Instead i prefer the Red/Yellow/Green or "traffic light" system. i am well versed in it's use. i am not afraid to use "red" if i have to (as a sub/bottom), but would rather We keep the scene rolling if possible. i have only had to call "red" once thus far. i tend to make adequate use of "yellow" for minor course corrections as needed,and even then, i am in no rush to raise a flag. i enjoy pushing myself and being pushed as a submissive. You can trust me to responsibly raise a flag when absolutely necessary, and know that i would ultimately rather not. Understanding each other as people before the play begins in terms of both familiarity with each other as well as planning/discussion usually mitigates most needs for flags.
Willingness to relocate:
i’ve done a lot of moving and traveling thus far in life. i’m very willing to, and would like to, someday co-habitate with my future Owner. But- there must be some build up to that. i have grown quite fond of San Diego, and am not in a hurry to leave it. If you also live in San Diego county, that’s a huge plus for me, and a move-in situation would be a lot easier to reach. If you live further away, please understand that such a move would require more consideration.
Community- i have found much benefit in and enjoy participating in my local BDSM communities. i especially love going to classes. i have been wanting, for a while, to be with someone who would enjoy going to BDSM classes with me and participating as a couple in that environment. (play parties are more fun when you have a special someone with you). Participating in community and attending classes doesn’t mean someone is incompetent/unskillful in their kink, of course. However, despite my level of knowledge and experience, i still find great value in continuing my BDSM education. Its quite a large buffet, and no one is a Master at everything. i am always seeking to become a better submissive and tend to have higher respect for Doms who are not too prideful to grown in their side of things as well. To more vanilla oriented people, i am often mistaken as an expert in these arenas. However, among my peers, i consider myself still a small fish with a lot more to learn. i really hope you’ll join me in my journey as i walk the Leather path.
my fetlife is available upon request.
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Peace and love on your houses.
Respectfully and sincerely,
Pariah
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My Ideal Person:
i won’t get into too much detail about specific kinks here, as that is not my focus. The foundations are love and power exchange. Do you enjoy DD/lg style power dynamics? Do you enjoy consensual-non-consent? Do you want to dive into a committed loving relationship in which We can grow together in kink? If so, them we already have a lot to build on.
Please also understand, that i seek to build a life of love with my future Owner. With eyes on the future, i’ll be upfront in that i am a marriage-minded girl. i ask that You not let this alarm or deter You if You are of a similar mind. Obviously, i do not have immediate expectations of proposal. That would not be reasonable of me. i just feel its important that i am upfront about what i seek and my long term goals in such a coupling.
Egalitarianists and subby sissies- leave me alone please. i’m only interested in Dominant men.
Obligatory statement of understanding and deterrence-
i am a transsexual woman. i have been on hormones for several years and have had my testicles removed (don’t miss them). i live openly as my trueself, as the woman i am, 24/7. i am not a sissy or crossdresser. my identity as a woman is not a kink, i simply am one. i do not enjoy (and really don’t have the ability anymore) to penetrate someone with my clit. i am a bottom, not a Top. i am a sub, not a Domme. If you want me to fuck your ass with my clit- you haven’t been paying attention. Sissies and people who have “always fantasized about being fucked by a tgirl” -i'm not the girl you're looking for. Please leave me alone.
Not interested:
Hookups- no thanks. it’s not hard to find some cock when i feel like it. i’m here to look for a long-term romantic D/s relationship.
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People who are not Dominant men- no thanks. i know what i like. It’s not you. Not personal.
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Men below the age of 25- no thanks. i’ve had a pretty crazy life and i strongly prefer to be with someone who has lived enough to understand themselves and know what they want. Generally, i prefer over 30. Ideally i prefer men who are older than me or close in age.
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Men above the age of 50: sorry. You’re wonderful. You turn me on, and i respect You. That said, this age marker is not arbitrary. It’s 15 years older than my age. The reason is i want to build a life together. If you’re too far ahead of me on that journey, it will be a lot more difficult for us further down the road. my eyes are on the future. i must respectfully decline Your affections.
And yes, my age line preferences are fuzzy guidelines. If We really hit it off, then We’ll see.
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Bothered by- Daddy/daughter, consensual-non-consent, verbal degradation, causing me pain, making me cry. If you feel squeamish about playing this way/doing this kinda stuff to someone, then i'm probably not the girl for you.
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