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Okay I guess I need to add this due to so many emails from younger "Doms". I do not care for "Doms" younger than me. If you are 30 then you are fine. Any younger than that please do not email me. I do not care if you call yourself a Dom any younger than that I am not interested. Anyone can call themselves a Dom but just because you call yourself that doesn't mean you are truly a Dom. Most Doms younger than me are immature and have a lot to learn about the lifestyle and I do not care to be your guinea pig nor your trainer so save us both the time and DO NOT EMAIL me. If you do expect to be rejected so don't say I didn't warn you.
Also if you are to lazy to type out three letter words then don't bother to email me. Lazy Doms are a big turn off that includes typing.
"Sometimes what seems like surrender isn't surrender at all. It's about what's going on in our hearts. About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater." - Nicholas Evans, The Whisperer
Submission for me is not “get on your knees,” nor is it physical. Submission to me is mental. I have been told I am a natural submissive. The reason I believe it to be true is that when I am around a natural Dominant whether it be online or real life I immediately become submissive without making myself do it. It is second nature to be me to be a submissive. Many think being submissive makes a person weak, but it takes a lot of heart on the submissive’s part. It takes a strong woman to say I freely submit to you, my heart, body, mind, and soul belong to you. For me it means I have truly accepted who I am and I am comfortable in my position as a submissive for the right Dom. I say Dom because I reserve Master for the one who captures my heart, body, mind and soul.
Seven Characteristics of a submissive
1. Honesty. This is very important to me. Without honesty, there can
be no trust. Without trust D/s is nothing. On a safety note, be
truthful in your desires, experience, fears and limits. I have seen
many submissives tell "little" lies thinking it will make them more
desirable. It usually ends up getting them hurt. If you have
questions about what your Dom/me desires or expects, be honest and
speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking questions respectfully,
and is much preferable to looking ignorant. Remember, all Dom/mes are
different. Don't assume because one wants you to wear stockings that
another will enjoy them. Ask what he expects you to wear, how he
expects you to act, what he prefers to be called, etc.
2. Submissiveness. Dom/mes want them to surrender their will to them. They like them to
be polite, compliant, and to show the respect they have earned. There
is nothing that turns a Dom/Domme off faster than a submissive trying to top
from the bottom, or manipulate the scene. A polite,
respectful "Master/Mistress, if it pleases you, I would enjoy being
spanked." is going to make that happen much sooner than intentional
misbehavior.
3. Intelligence. Make intelligent choices about who you submit to,
and how deep your submission goes. If it is a relationship situation,
get to know the person as a friend before you consider submitting. If
it is scene-play, get references and follow safety rules, watch them
Top others, or play in the presence of people who can watch out for
you. Out of role, intelligence goes a long way. Think, and share
those thoughts with your Dom/me. Take time to find out what he is
interested in, and get to know more on the subject. Keep up on
current events and trends and be able to discuss them. Perhaps take
up some of the same hobbies as your Dom/me. These are good
relationship skills...be it vanilla or D/s.
4. Service. Find out what makes your Dom/me happy, and do your best
to provide. It is your job to make your Dominant happy. If you will
be serving him food, find out what he likes to eat, and how he likes
it served. Find out what his turn-on and turn-offs are. If it is your
responsibility to set things up for the scene, find out what he
requires, and have everything handy. Don't be sloppy in your service,
and don't make your Top have to tell you a preference more than once.
5. Communication. Contrary to what some believe, Dominants are not
psychics. It is frustrating to have to try and figure out everything
that pushes your sub's buttons. Most Dom/Dommes would much rather have their sub tell
them her fantasies so they can store the info to use when they choose, than
have to guess. I don't like to play with subs that constantly
say "Whatever pleases you, Master/Mistress". If the sub is not enjoying it,
chances are the Dom/Domme won't be enjoying it, either.
6. Self Respect. Value yourself. There is no thrill in dominating a
doormat, or someone that thinks so little of themselves they will
submit to anyone at anytime.
7. Patience. I have often been told that patience is the mark of a
good submissive. I have also been told that this is something I need
to work on. I guess I will have to get back to you on this one. I do
know that the best things are worth waiting for, and pushy, demanding
submissives are really not submissives at all.
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My Ideal Person:
i am looking for a Dom who is strict, yet caring. Who is able to be consistent. I don't want a Dom who is easily swayed by a sub who can talk them out of things. Once the decision is made then that is the decision that is carried out. At the same time I don't want to be a doormat where the Dom walks all over me. I also want a Dom that can carry on an intelligent conversation.
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