I believe that D/s relationships grow and get more intense over time as trust is established and people get to know each other on deeper levels. I like to go slow at first. I want to get to know you, not just your orientation, fetishes and BDSM interests. I want to learn how you react to different stimuli, where the boundaries are, how you perceive activities we would engage in. After I've known someone for a while and we have spent time together, then I can read every breath, every sigh, what every muscle twitch means, and whether that yell means "that really hurts" or "hell ya do it harder". That's when it really starts to get to a different level!
I've found many men are more than willing to give up control of their bodies to me, but are very guarded in letting me get into their heads. I would like you to be open to the intellectual / psychological aspects of stimulation as well as the physical aspects. I can see reactions, but I also want to know what you feel and think about many aspects of wiitwd.
I love "pleasers" and men that like physicality in play - I am very "hands on". I can give a masochist enough pain to get them to their "happy place", but I also tend to relish the more subtle and sublime aspects of sensation play, sensory deprivation, mental bondage, the power exchange dynamic. I tend to meld my interests with those of the person I'm with, because I find it more mutually satisfying that way. That does not mean things aren't always done my way- they are! However, if you have an interest I'm not well versed in, I'll research it, talk to you about it and may decide to try it out. I specialize in a number of things including assplay/anal training and training bi newbies. I LOVE to use my strap-on with men. I also enjoy flogging, restraint and predicament bondage.
I thrive on power exchange.... there's nothing better for me than when I'm in Domme/top space and I can hear changes in the voice, see the shudders, and see in the eyes of my guys when they go into subspace. I get a rush out of the fact that I put them there, and that they trust me enough to go there without reservation, leaving themselves relatively helpless and open to me in the process.
As far as other interests... I make all of my own leather items and am constantly coming up with new and devious designs (which are tested on my guys). I also like making jewelry. I have a background in martial arts. I collect swords, knives and martial arts weapons. I love to ride my motorcycle.
I do have a mate and he is bisexual. He is not my sub. We have a polyamorous, open relationship. I like to form relationships with my men, and the relationship structure I have with my mate does not preclude this.
I'm often asked "what are you looking for in a sub/slave?" I want a man that is intelligent, articulate, has a sense of humor, is self confident and responsible. I currently have more than one sub because I don't get to see any one of them very often due to long hours on the job, travel schedules, and their family responsibilities. I enjoy spending time with them when I can.
***Purple Nation Information***
I started a group called the Purple Nation for bisexual men and couples with bi men. We have meet and greets about once a month at a lifestyle-friendly bar in downtown KC. Attending one of our events would be a great opportunity to meet you in a public, no pressure environment. Let me know if you're interested. 
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My Ideal Person:
I am looking for someone reliable, who will show up when he says he will. I want to find a dedicated sub that I get to see on a regular basis. I tend to like men that are masculine and in good shape. I am looking for men under 50, and also welcome men over 25.
If I get to know you and things work out between us, we may discuss a "houseboy", part-time, or full-time house slave position as an option. A full-time, live-in, slave will have both domestic and sexual service duties, and would be expected to contribute financially to the household (not your whole paycheck, just as a housemate would). I want slaves to hold jobs, visit friends and family and keep the relationships they've always had.
Here comes the part that some of you are going to find "different". I prefer (but do not require) bi men. I have a lot of experience with bi men, I do truly like them, and have the resources to help them explore in an SCC and RACK environment. So, I do. You may be called upon to help me train others, so being versatile is a plus. Ideally, you should be able to service men and women equally well, including giving oral and/or receiving anal from men. If you enjoy it and are not just doing it as forced servitude, bonus points. Though this is a preference of mine, there is much more to explore in a D/s relationship than bi activity, so don't worry if it's not totally your thing.
I will deal only with men that are single, in open relationships or have an informed partner. I will not take men that are only in town to visit or are here on a business trip. I will not take any more online only subs.
I am d/d free, and you must be also. Proximity is a plus, but not a requirement. Having a motorcycle is a bigger plus! lol I do have friends all over the country that I chat with on IM from both sides of the kneel. I don't see distance as being a barrier to friendship.
If you're a sub/slave and you want to send me an e-mail, please answer this question in the body of it: If you were to choose one instance, one act, one exchange that makes you feel the most submissive, the most fulfilled in your role, what would it be?
I put some thought and effort into creating this profile so that you can get some idea of who I am, what I enjoy and some of my philosophies. I like to see who I am talking to...I have pics on my profile and in a photo album. If you don't have any pics up, send some with your e-mail. If your profile is blank, then you'd better include some information about yourself in your e-mail. Finally, I am tired of one-line e-mails like "Hi, how ya doing?", so those are henceforth going to be deleted without a reply. Put something that is interesting to you or about you in your e-mails!
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