UPDATE MARCH 23, 2009: I AM NO LONGER LOOKING FOR PLAYMATES. FRIENDS ONLY, NON-SEXUAL CORRESPONDANCE FROM INTELLIGENT INDIVIDUALS WELCOME. PLEASE REFER TO MY MOST RECENT BLOG POST AS TO WHY. THANKS.
PLEASE READ ALL THE WAY THROUGH. Yes, I know it's lengthy, but you will get a very precise idea of who I am and what I am looking for if you do. It shows you have taken initiative to get to know me and what I am about.
My gold membership will be expiring the end of February '09 and I will NOT be renewing it and therefore will be reduced to a STANDARD MEMBER. I set up this profile initially at the beginning of '08 (hence the name and I am not going to pay 20 bucks to change it either). As a standard member I will not able to view profiles (without using "points") or be allowed to send many messages. If you don't send a well written message or attach photos I'm not going to reply. Please do not attach the photos from your profile as I will NOT be able to view them. Please attach from files on your computer. Please also attach copy of your profile as I may not be able to view your profile as a standard member.
I am a HAPPILY MARRIED female to a wonderful man. We are casual swingers and identify as *polyamorous*. By polyamorous I do mean the literal translation of "many loves" not necessarily "many sex partners". While I'm in a wonderful marriage, I do and have grown close and deep bonding relationships with others. I am into a variety of kink that either my spouse is not into or is not very good at. I am here looking for participants who can help me fulfill the fetish fantasies that I have. Despite the occasional swinging, we have gotten rather vanilla and I really need more.
What I am NOT into is dishonesty. While our lifestyle may be sexually liberal, we do take our marriage vows seriously and honesty in our relationship is paramount. If you are an attached male or female going around behind your partner's back for hookups, please do not waste my time. I do not appreciate being put into a position where I unknowingly become an accomplice to outright adultery. Not only that, but I consider it a debasement to the value I place on the honest marriage I have.
A bit about me. I'm a militant agnostic and religious experience has zero importance in my life. I do not have any children nor intend on having any in the future (husband has had a vasectomy). I have an above average intellect and I surround my life with culture. I am a musician and love all things artistic from literature, art, dance, film, opera, theatre and anything that involves using your brain. Ultimately to keep me interested and get me off, you need to match me in the brains department. I will not bother myself with adolescents looking to experiment and fumble around in the dark or partners who are long on looks but short on I.Q.
If you are drastically different to me in body type, lifestyle, political/religious views, age, education, appearance, etc, I'm probably not going to be interested. I'm not looking for random meaningless experiences. The people I am looking to spend my time with I would actually like to develop more than a sexual relationship with and that isn't possible if we have nothing in common.
Attention single gentlemen: I am in NO RUSH to hookup. Yes, I want it, but I'm not in a rush. If you can not appreciate and respect the pace which I am comfortable picking partners, then please move along. This is about me, not about your ego. PUSHINESS IS A TURNOFF.
My husband has requested that I meet any potential play partners (female, single males or otherwise) WITH him at a public place. It shouldn't be seen as unreasonable for my husband to meet and get acquainted with someone who is going to be sharing bodily fluids with me. This meetup may or may not end up with you and I in bed. The chemistry has to be there for everyone. Even if my husband is not going to be involved, guys, if he gets a bad vibe from you or thinks your a total jerkoff, you're not having me. I value his opinion and he has to like you. I am not offended by being told "I don't think the chemistry is there" and you shouldn't be either. Its usually pretty obvious when the chemistry is there for everyone and its awkwardly obvious when it isn't. If its pretty clear that we both want to tear each others clothes off, that may happen. But don't automatically think that if we meet, you're getting in my pants. I would rather find a FEW people whom I really click with sexually than have a bunch of random meaningless and forgettable experiences that I wish I never have had. I have already had my fair share of the latter.
If you are a single male, please realize you are one of many. My goal is to find the RIGHT people with the RIGHT chemistry for ME. I am really only looking for a SMALL SELECT group of single men to share my body with. There has to be something about you that will really knock my socks offIn terms of single guys, I probably am only looking to play with a half dozen. I'm hoping I will find the right people and develop friendships that are more than just a sexual relationship.
I plan on primarily entertaining guests at my home. Depending on the activity and my comfort level with you, my husband may or may not be involved. He may not participate, he may participate or he may just watch. He may just be home and available if I need him. While I am trusting of others, I am not naive. I am no match physically to fight off someone whose intentions are less than honest.
In regards to the dynamic I have here at home with my husband, while we are poly and I am free to play independantly, I can not allow my solo play to monopolize my time or cut into my time that I could be spending with my own husband. My husband is my priority. Single guys I will not have every weekend free to spend alone with you. I will not have every evening to spend hours with you on webcam. It is not a deal breaker if you aren't interested in playing with me and having my husband involved but I will give preferential treatment to men who are willing to play in a M/F/M situation as it opens up my availability to play if I can include my husband in on the fun. He's 100% straight so don't worry about it. If you're bi or bi-curious, he could care less. He's confident and secure enough in his own sexuality to worry about yours.
I do like to photograph and video my escapades. I'm going to borrow a line from another user's profile by saying I am not here to ruin your future in politics. I like to do it for my own satisfaction. If you aren't willing to have our encounters taped or photographed at some point, please move on.
I AM REAL, MY PHOTOS ARE REAL. I'm not some pornbot trolling for customers. I was an exotic dancer and fetish/pinup model for many years. I take pride in presenting decent and erotic photos for my profile. I appreciate others that do the same. If you don't have any photos in your profile or network albums or you have a bunch of poorly lit and poorly composed photos, I'm not interested. If you want to impress, take the time to put together a well written profile and post decent photos. Its not that hard.
I am 100% bisexual through and through. No "bi-curious" or straight with somewhat bi tendencies. I am sexually attracted to women just as much as men (although women maybe a hair more). Women better know how to please me as I don't have time to play teacher. I am NOT INTERESTED in women who aren't confidently bisexual or lesbian. I have no room in my bed for women just "trying to figure it out". This isn't college anymore.
ATTENTION TO COUPLES: I am not looking for you on here anymore. Its been nothing but a complete headache. I'm not proactively seeking independant play experiences with couples away from my husband. I already have one of those relationships and that is plenty for me right now. If you are looking for a full swap vanilla experience with both me AND my husband, you can find us on other similar websites.
As I mentioned, I would prefer to entertain in my home. I have animals. If you have a dislike for animals, are phobic about cats, dogs or birds, or (worse yet) have some "weird thing" for animals, you won't be welcome here. I keep a clean and tidy home but if you're allergic to animals that is going to be a problem here. Sorry.
I DON'T PAY ATTENTION TO "WINKS". If you are interested, please send me a message with your interest and to introduce yourself. I can't be clear enough about this. I'll be a standard as of late February and I won't be able to view your profile anyway.
I'm looking for people who are local. I don't accept network invites from people outside of my area because there is no point to it if you're hundreds of miles away and I'm never going to meet you.
In regards to network invites and initiating contact with me. I have face pics in a network album. I used to have many more albums but when my gold membership expires, I will be limited to only a small amount of album photos. If you send me a network invite, I would expect you to also have face photos in your albums. I don't expect or require that you have dozens of photos to send but for the love of gawd, I do expect to see what you look like if you're expecting to see my photos! IF YOU INITIATE CONTACT WITH ME YOU MUST ATTACH SOME IN YOUR MESSAGE IF YOU EXPECT A RESPONSE. If I initiate contact with someone, I do the same. Its the courteous thing. I am not going to give you my external email for you to send me photos that you can easily attach them to your message on here.
Don't send me your phone number or email right away. I am not interested in the type of people who send their phone number to a stranger in the first message. I want to get to know someone for a respectable amount of time before I start exchanging personal contact information. I'm not a "talk on the phone" type of gal. I prefer chats online until I meet you.
IF YOUR PROFILE HAS A BUNCH OF "PREFER NOT TO SAY" LISTED (ESPECIALLY THE "MARITAL STATUS"), IT SHOWS ME THAT EITHER YOU ARE TOO LAZY TO FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE OR YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO HIDE. I WILL RESERVE THE RIGHT TO "PREFER NOT TO RESPOND".
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My Ideal Person:
I am looking for playmates close to my age. I realize that there are 40 year olds that act like immature children and 20 year olds with maturity well beyond their years. However, I am not looking for a "daddy experience" or looking to be the older woman in a "MILF" experience. And I'm unlikely to be interested in someone barely old enough to drink alcohol legally.
I'm mostly attracted to brunettes (men) or redheads/brunettes (women). I'm pretty neutral about blondes with either gender. I'm typically not attracted to redheaded men.
If you are an EXPERIENCED top or master with a bounty of toys and fetish gear, you will get my interest. If you are a hot aggressive lesbian daddy you will most CERTAINLY get my interest. If you are a hot stud who is flexible enough to suck your own cock, let me know. I...LOVE...THAT. But even as such, the chemistry has to be right or the experience is worth nothing to me.
You must be attractive, athletic/fit-average build (and by average I mean slim or height-weight proportionate), have an intellect to match, sexually experienced and respectful of boundaries. While I do not have the physique of a Playboy Bunny, I do have standards. If I turn you down, do not hound me as to why. I am here to find people who will hopefully enrich my life, not to accept mediocrity for sex's sake.
Ladies I enjoy either butchy leather dyke daddies or ultra feminine women like myself. I enjoy women who put themselves together well, take pride in their appearance, and like to get dolled up. A sense of fashion and personal style go a long way with me. I don't expect you to be decked out in Gucci but don't come to meet me looking like you're on your way to go camping.
I WILL STATE THIS AGAIN TO BE CLEAR: IF YOU CONTACT ME I EXPECT YOU TO ATTACH PHOTOS TO YOUR MESSAGE. If I can tell you have not taken the time to read through my profile, you probably won't get much of a reply (if any) from me. I need to see what you look like. Gyno shots are not enough. I'm a grown woman, I know what genitals looks like. I'm going to want to see what you look like at some point, right? If you're that apprehensive about not allowing me to see what you look like from the get-go, then please don't waste my time or yours.
I love tattoos but I AM NOT A FAN OF MOST BODY MODIFICATIONS AND EXTREME BODY MODIFICATIONS GIVE ME THE HEEBIE JEEBIES. I DO NOT LIKE GENITAL PIERCINGS. PERIOD, END OF STORY. THEY ARE A TURN OFF. In terms of facial piercings, if you would have problems going through airport security because of all the metal shit in your face I most likely wouldn't find much interest in you based on sheer personal preference of what I find attractive. I do find well done and artistic tattoos very sexy.
I do prefer NON-cigarette/cigar smokers as the scent of ashtrays does NOT put me in a sexy mood. If you're a smoker, please do not come to meet me smelling like smoke and do not smoke around me. I am also not comfortable with heavy drinkers or heavy drug users. I am "420 friendly" as long as you are not habitual about it. I'm not interested in alcoholics or coke-hounds.
I PREFER CIRCUMSIZED COCK. I'll probably catch crap for that, but its what I prefer. PLEASE HAVE YOUR SHIT WELL GROOMED, SHAVED OR NEATLY TRIMMED. I don't care to have my mouth full of pubic hair.
I ALWAYS use condoms with any other men other than my husband. This is NOT NEGOTIABLE. My husband had a vascetomy and I am no longer using birth control and I believe in safe sex. If you are a well endowed man (and I do love 'em big) please supply your own condoms that work well for you. Don't bitch that you want to go bareback because your rubber is too tight. That isn't my problem. There are hundreds of rubbers available for you to purchase. Its not up to me to find one that works for you. Your dick, your problem.
What I am looking for sexually/what I am into. I like dominant men who can toss me around and put me in my place. I looooove lesbian leather daddys that would allow me the privilege to be topped by them. I do love playing the role of a submissive but I'm not into 24/7 or what I consider to be "extreme" BDSM. I have limits, I am a human and you don't have carte blanche to do whatever you please without my consult first. I am a SWITCH through and through. I am no one's slave, no one's doormat and certainly noone's punching bag. I can play a dominant role but it isn't something that is my first choice.
I do have a habit of being an insolent mouthy sub and topping from the bottom. Therefore, the type of role playing that I most enjoy is powerplay/brat play. But I interested in playing with an EXPERIENCED DOM who can maybe take me to another level, and perhaps push some soft limits. I enjoy spanking, biting, erotic asphyxiation/choking, and mild to average bondage and dominance. I like anal play (giving and receiving) and love hot bi men (or straight men who like anal) to be at the receiving end of my strap on.
I very much love anal play but not always to be the receiving end of anal sex. I have not allowed many men in my past to enter my ass with their cocks. I consider it to be a privilege, not a right. If you think you're automatically going to get anal from me, you're very much mistaken.
Questions? Ask me. I hope to meet interesting and sexy people (maybe you?) soon.
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