I am opening myself to the possibility of meeting other men. I am still pining for the X and the old way of life, but I know it is time to get passed that and find other adventures. I need someone who does not mind that I am in love and that will not change. Most importantly I am not looking for someone who thinks I am going to jump into a LTR with him. I take emotions slowly.
I like men who are assertive. I like men who do not back down when faced with opposition, unless backing down is the most logical course of action. AND THIS IS IMPORTANT! Men must know when to back down. If I am not receptive to the advance I will shut you down. If you do not pay attention in this, how can I believe you will pay attention to anything?
I like men who are honest with themselves and their needs. I love men who have intelligence, more than a little education, and the ability to make me blush.
I like.. men.
I am a short, rounded woman who doesn't tire easily. I look much younger than my age (it is good being short!). Education is my friend! Learning is a joy and I hope to continue my exploration into anything that catches my imagination.
I can be a leader in life but it is a role I choose only because few will step up. I run the local BDSM munch list in Butte County, CA. We occasionally do special events such as shopping for perversions, BBQ's, meet and greets, discussions and of course parties.
I see the call to run a group as a service to my pervy local community. I find it odd that people see that leadership role as one of a natural dominant. I have no wish to be dominant when in a loving, secure relationship. I require that security to step back and let someone else take charge.
I am submissive when in a relationship that compels that from me. And, I have a masochistic streak. You probably could get that from my nick. I am an admitted masochist. But that does not mean I need to vent that urge all the time. When I am happy and content I don't feel the call for pain. I am happy to indulge someones need to inflict it, if that is their wish. But I don't NEED the pain if I am otherwise happy. However I can LIKE it, a lot. Being a masochist and a submissive can make my reactions vary according to my perception of my mate.
I am a masochist because in times of stress, I need to vent that desire for danger, reckless behavior, and pain. It is a personality quirk I have adopted over the years for survival. Even though sometimes that reckless part can push the survival mode to the end of the envelope.
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My Ideal Person:
What do I want?
I am not prone to casual acts of sex, or drive by encounters. I want to like the men I spread my legs and lips for, as people. That doesn't mean a long courtship before being intimate. It means if I see there is a connection, there may be a physical connection in the immediate future.
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