I have an urge to be spanked but I'll not take it seriously if I have to make up some "role"...I have a strong assertive nature that's always in "control" and want to find a strong experienced dominant male who can handle making things real enough that I'll acquiesce.
I want to find someone who will spend time talking long enough to find the special need i have and be able to describe how he'd handle things. It has to be real enough, it has to be plausible.
I'm a person who when finds a line drawn in the sand may edge my toe over it to see how far I can go....Can you handle that?
UPDATE (Jan 3rd, 2009):
After spending hours and hours talking to some that seem to have potential and of course they "promise" they're not the type that would ever stand someone up...that's still what I'm getting.
So, here's a few things I hope anyone reading this will take note of:
**If you're new at this, please don't waste either of our times. I need someone who has the confidence that comes from a lot of experience.
**If you're MARRIED, or attached, I don't get involved with either (if you're "PREFER NOT TO SAY"...then I figure that means married or attached)
**If you are in this for the sex, or even mostly the sex, don't contact me.
**If you can't handle a woman's inner thoughts and emotions and be willing to talk about your role in them, don't contact me.
**If you have to "turn on a role" to be dominate, don't contact me. (This has to be your very nature)
**If you can't handle long conversations that dig deep into the heart (both yours and mine) don't contact me.
I am not interested in "teaching" someone what I like. (not to say I won't let him know but if I have to "show you" how to do it...well....that's NOT my role)
Since Alt doesn't show you my "preferences" directly. Let me just say I'm looking for:
Experienced (more than a year..which should easily include more than say 20+ times of doing things)
Dominate (not a switch, not learning, not wanna be). Who understands that Dominance isn't about the sex or even the s&m but is from deep inside.
I'm NOT looking for rough play. All details will be discussed prior to meeting.
(Previous update)
I'm having difficulty with men who talk a good talk but avoid any real life contact. ie. after a time that I feel it's time to meet and they say they agree..they are "too busy" repeatedly...
Soooo, if you're into games only, at least be up front about it. If you're new or are just pretending, I'm not interested.
Sorry, just sick of being strung along when it comes to having a first meet over a cup of coffee or something.
Wild (for short)
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My Ideal Person:
There is a whole lifestyle to this experience and I'm reading lots and would like to explore more but want/need it to happen slowly in certain areas. I need to have a safe partner who will ALWAYS respect the idea of trying something new and the "that doesn't work for me" or the signal that something I wanted to "try" isn't something that's doing anything for me is understood and ok.
The right person will be able to listen to what I know and what I think and what I want...and then lead from there. If you're not into a sub/bottom not being able to speak their mind or if you think they don't get to say anything about what they like or dislike or what they desire, then you're not the type of guy I'm looking for. That whole "control" part...is something given/earned, not something demanded or taken. Those who do not understand that concept are in a different mind set than someone I want to play with...and remember...it is supposed to be fun and play.
Please be prepared to talk openly and discuss every aspect of this whole lifestyle. I ask a lot of questions (not usually during but at the appropriate times) and I require an experienced person to lead and to be able to talk it out.
Please know what "after care" is and be able to describe your experiences with it and what it means to you.
Thank you,
Wild
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