AAfter exploring for 12 years and having lived everything from 24/7 in San Francisco to a vanilla relationship with a touch of kink in Raleigh, I have had a chance to be a part of many styles, fantasies, and fetishes.
The most important lesson I have learned through the years is that my kink keeps evolving, influenced by those I meet and new experiences. And so I try and keep an open mind about what might feed my inner beast even as I describe where I am in my journey today…
I am primarily a submissive but I have been letting my dominant energies explore a bit recently. I consider myself incredibly fortunate to be in the most amazing relationship where vanilla life, D/s explorations and all things kink/fetish have come together beautifully… didn’t think it was possible so let it give hope to others!
As a submissive, I love to pamper. My service style could be described as “hospitality” - I like to dress to please, make sure favorite beverages and foods are always about, take an interest in my partner’s interests… I love the girly rituals of getting ready for a date; preparing myself to be pleasing … I think sometimes I would enjoy being a kinky courtesan spending my life fulfilling someone’s sensual and conversational needs.
And not surprising, my dominant interests tend to revolve around service as well. I love being pampered myself and I am discovering directing someone’s thoughts and movements in ways that please me excites me.
I love spirituality and rituals but enjoy intimate physical and mental connections more than complicated training or scripted formalities.
I aspire to the idea of consensual non-consensuality. If you have developed trust and both people can communicate well then you can choose to give someone power; they then choreograph the dance. It all swirls around the feeling of really being able to let go… someone else is in charge and you have no choice. And the more you play with someone, the more you organically come to know the edges and how to push them. Because often the most intense experiences often come from going beyond what is easy.
I prefer a man who is as dominant undressed as in jeans or a suit. I always enjoy the beauty of a woman in fetish attire. I describe myself as bi-kinky; I can be attracted to a woman within a power dynamic. I have recently discovered a few new fetishes of my own – from latex to costuming to the joy of ruffles! My own fetish closet is filled with pearls, foundation garments, sexy black dresses and very high heels since my style tends to the elegant. But since I like to dress to please you can find anything from schoolgirl and gothic Lolita clothes to corsets to leather in there too.
I have played with about every pain device and consider myself a masochist although it isn’t as important to me as the right energy. I love stingy and sharp things but I don’t enjoy electricity much. The list could go on but personal strength and a simple demand can do much more than all the whips in the world.
I love sensory deprivation in the way of hoods, earplugs, blindfolds and gags. Giving up any of your senses can enhance an already exciting situation. And I am becoming a big fan of predicament bondage these days – that’s what you get for being involved with a mad scientist/engineering type…
Probably most of all I like to be with people who are comfortable with themselves, can laugh even, or perhaps most importantly, when things get intense and who are open to and care about the world.
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