If you are a Dom looking for a sub, look elsewhere. If you are a Dom looking for a friend, please read on.
I'm a 45 y/o bi female with only DOMINANT desires.
I have meet many delightful people here, but I am getting tired of the disrespect of receiving notes from doms with tags like "kneel and obey" If you are a dom looking to discuss the lifestyle and life in general please say so in your note. If you're writing me, respond to something in my profile to prove you took the time to look beyond my photo and gender. In a sub I'm looking for a person, not a just a body.
I've always been drawn to alternate life styles and mind sets. I've often been described as thinking outside the box. In art as well as life I'm always intrigued by doing old things in new ways and finding new uses for common items. I'm looking for both real time playmates and friends with benefits (am open to something more serious but not intentionally seeking such) : as well cyber pen-pals to discuss to discuss life's many sides.
I am a work at home artist, living in a small town on a lovely private 3 acres. Past day jobs would include long stint in comic book/sci-fi retail, art store and zoo. A few of my stronger traits would be: knowing my own mind, respect for others, sense of humor for life's many oddities, hunger for the good things and good times, adventure in the great outdoors and of course a very healthy open mind to sex/passion in it's many forms. (I do lean towards younger boys and girls (25 -40) but I do recognize that youth can be a state of mind as well as body.) I enjoy writing, from unpublished vampire novels to erotica. I'm always interested in reading the words of others, particularly those who can "talk dirty" without the use of four letter ones. (From the movie "Pump up the volume") I like those that can "Talk Hard", if you understand what that means, you stand a good chance of connecting with me.
Dr Suess remains my most respected author, if you've never seen his work for "older kids/adults" you're missing something rare and precious. I firmly believe his "The butter battle book" (kids section, check your local library) should be required reading for all politicians and world leaders.
A product of the whole of my life experiences, I have to say it is my youth as a "freak" (next generation of the flower children) that most shaped the openness of my mind. We were the lost generation, coming on the heels of more united social changes of the sixties and the more independant changes of the gen Xers. For many of us, we are truly ourselves when naked and behind closed doors. It is behind those closed doors that helds the greatest potential for connecting with another mind body and soul. (In those days before AIDS, sex held no fears only freedom. I feel for the younger ones that grew up under that harsh light only.) In a lover/sub I seek no less than a total package and offer the same. (though the occasional night of pleasure for just pleasures sake has it rare place). The heart has no built in limits only those our insecurities impose. Jealousy and competition have no place in my world.
I''m fairly well traveled across the southern half of this country, just recently return to Kentucky from 6 years out west. I love the contrast of the east from the west and hope to again travel rugged states I've left. I regret being unable to attend the festival of the burning man before family concerns called back east. Death Valley became one of my favorite haunts, where I was blessed to see the desert in a once in a lifetime full bloom following a rare raging flood. A chaser of thunderstorms and butterflies, I stand in awe of the power and balance of nature in all her glory.
In terms of this lifestyle, I am seeking those that understand and want encounters that are as much mental as physical. Though I'm not the first to say "the mind in the largest sex organ" it makes a nifty motto for my views. I believe strongly the doctrine of sane safe and consent. I believe that both the domme/dom and sub hold power, the sub gives control of his/her power to those that have earned their trust to wield such power for the good of both. I seek not doormats but strong individuals, the stronger the soul the greater the gift of submission.
A little common sense here please, don't send me a couple line note telling what sexual act you offering me, if we connect, the sexual activities are a given and will encompass that which serves us both the best in the journey of exploration. Tell me about the person. I've posted a photo, you've seen a glimpse me, I expect no less from anyone serious, and NO I do not want to close ups of your body parts. I understand and respect your concerns of privacy, a publicly posted photo can be a professional concern, but I will no longer respond to any first notes that do not include a photo of you as a person, if it is lacking from your profile, clothed is fine. This is a very key phrase, I seek a whole person, not just a body. If your profile is limited, and your note tells little of you as a person, the odds of a response from me are slim. Not only to insure a response from myself but to increase your chances of connecting with others I strongly encourage all to put themselves out there and share on a personal(not just sexual) level. The very nature of this site should encourage you speak as you wish you could speak freely in the real world. (And you can always edit as you find your voice and grow) Give us a chance to know the you, you want to be.
Dancer
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My Ideal Person:
I feel quite certain that should I meet the Ideal person for myself I will be very surprised by the traits they possess. I would hate to limit myself or discourage you by making a list that might lack traits I didn't know I would enjoy. In some I loved their serious side in others it was the humor, shyness in one touched me to the core while boldness in another made my heart pound and my hand tremble with a single look. On the physical side it is just as varied, though all had a certain level of comfort in their body image. Perhaps the only common ground would be to live and let live.
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