I have been in this lifestyle for a very long time now as I look back and think about the journey and how it all started for me. I was always the Dominant one even as a child and often tied up my male friends and used them as my ponies. As I got older and started driving, I usually had the best car ao when I pulled into town my male friends all piled in and off we would go to wherever I felt like going that night. I usually sat in the front in between my 2 favorites, and by the end of the night I had my choice of who to play with before I went home. As I got older I got my first set of handcuffs and discovered the joys of binding my partners and taking delightful advantage of them. Eventually I got married though to a very vanilla partner who never knew about the kinky side of me... his idea of kinky was leaving a light on during sex. Needless to say that marriage didn't last, but I did get 2 wonderful sons that I wouldn't trade the world for. After the 4 years of beating the dead horse until there was nothing left but bare bones, I finally got my divorce from him. During the last year of that time period a good friend of mine introduced me to the internet and the chatrooms there. I finally found out that there were others doing the same things I had been doing before my first marriage and also got in touch with people who could help teach me even more about what it was like on both sides of the whip. I met my second husband in one of the vanilla chatrooms, and before I could say slow down, he was on my front doorstep ready to move in and wanted to marry me within 4 months of being there. I did convince him to wait a year before we got married, and by then I was pregnant with my 3rd son after the invitations had been sent out. In the beginning of our marriage he wanted it to be an open marriage which worked for me since I still wanted to explore more on the BDSM side of things which he was even willing to try out for a while. Eventually I found someone who had similar tastes as
I did and after playing with him a few times I offered him a collar. I made the arrangements for him to buy a house in the town I was from so I had my husband and 3 sons to take care of out at our family farm and my slave to micromanage in town. After close to 2 years it got to be too much, and I needed to re-evaluate my life and what I needed in it. I released my slave though we are still close friends even after all these years later. He's now married to a wonderful Domme who is also one of my dearest friends and snuggle buddies whenever she can get over here... they live 4 blocks from my Master and I. I also divorced my husband and took some time away from everything in order to get my head on straight and figure out where BDSM fit into my life and on which side of the whip I really wanted to be on for the rest of my life. That's when I met my former play partner and dear friend who helped me to find myself within my instantly submissive reaction to him. He also encouraged me to keep my mind open to finding the right partner to spend the rest of my life with and also to be sure that I was truly ready to give up the Dominant side of me in order to be a full time submissive to the right Dom. I played with a couple of subs under his direction and also a couple of other Doms but none of them were right for me until one day in March of 2004 I received a wink on alt.com from a man who lived in the same city that I worked in. We exchanged emails for a few weeks and then it turned into phone calls and in mid-April he invited me out to lunch. He picked up lunch and brought it to where I worked since his lunch hour was a lot longer than mine, and we hit it off right away as friends. We kept up the lunch dates a few times a week until early in May when he asked me out on a date. He picked me up ag my house and took me walking in a local state park and then to a local steakhouse for supper. He was a perfect gentleman even when he brought me home. That night was our first kiss, and it definitely sparked more than just an interest in me. He was patient with me and took his time getting to know me inside and out... the good and the bad... and he was persistent as well... always there when I needed someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. We were both still seeing other people, but they slowly slipped away to the sidelines as out friendship became stronger, and then he asked me to be his best friend. We were lovers soon after that if not before then... my memory isn't as good as it used to be, and on July 13th, 2004 he asked me to be his, and I instantly said yes without hesitation. He asked me if I knew what that would mean, and again I said yes even though I had never thought that I would be the one wearing the collar, and he had never thought that he would ever collar anyone after the failed marriages in his past after the death of his first wife when his children were still young. Two days later he was staying with me at my house, and for a while we went back and forth between his house and mine, but eventually we chose to stick with mine because it was bigger so he bought the house and car and got me and everything in it as a package deal from my family. Two days after that he married me on their front porch with our family and friends watching and the Pastor of our church officiating. My best friend and her husband came up from Iowa s she could be my maid of honor and his best friend from work came to be his best man. We had the reception in the garage and shot fireworks off that night. We left for the Black Hills the next day to start our honeymoon trip in my parents' motorhome. Wee spent a couple of days touring the Hills then went to Deadwood and Spearfish then up to Devil's Tower which is gorgeous to watch the sun rise over the top of. From there we crossed the Big Horn Mountains and over to Yellowstone National Park for a few days of touring that area then off through Montana to North Dakota and the Theodore Rosevelte National Park at Medora where we did some hiking in the park and saw some wild horses and one buffalo bull. We left there and stopped in Jamestown to see the white buffalo calf on her first birthday then up to Aberdeen for a round of mini golf then home for a few days of rest. Three months later I contracted the neuro-invasive form of the West Nile virus which included meningitis and encephalitis. I was sick for 7 months then went back to work for 3 months starting out part-time at first and working my way up to full time by the end of the first month back. Three months after I went back to work I was bitten again by the same type of mosquito with the sane symptoms plus seuzures. My doctor said that that's it... no more work for me because there's no cure for what I've got. I've been to so many different types of doctors, and they all say the same thing... no cure. So now I'm a house-slave who has some strict rules from her Master to get lots of rest. He bought me a laptop so I can keep in touch with the world without having to sit at my desktop all the time. We are both Journeymen in the International Violet Wand Guild and are certified to do demos on the violet wand and all of it's many uses. We also play at home and belong to a local group that looks like it's going to be a great group of people to socialize with and learn from as well as share our knowledge with them. I'm at a good place in my life now even though it could be better if I didn't have the constant headaches and pain of the West Nile, and I would like to spend more time with my kids, but they are being well cared for by their fathers, and I just don't have the energy yet to have them full time. Master and I are getting too old to be chasing my 2 little ones on a constant basis. *lol* I wish I had just hlf of their energy some days! Well, that's probably more than you wanted to know about me, but there's always more to tell later now that you know the basics of where I'm coming from. I belong to the most loving, caring, protective, and passionate man I've ever known, and the best part is that he's stronger willed than I am which means he knows when to tighten the reins and pull me in and when it's ok to let me take the bit in my teeth and run with it for a while. He is my soulmate, my life partner, and my rock that keeps me focused when my emotions get away from me.
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My Ideal Person:
I'm looking to make friends within the lifestyle whom
I can talk to about common interests and fetishes.
it would be nice to be eble to meet someone close enough to join our local group so that we can share knowledge and enjoy the closeness that comes from being around others of like mind. My Master and I have gone poly in the past so that is not something I would rule out if the right person came along whom I could connect with on a friendship as well as a sexual level and whom my Master would also find attractive and desirable enough to be willing to take the time to get to know that person well enough to consider going poly either part-time or full-time like the last girl was.
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