My Ideal Person:
Now here is where it gets tricky, lol. I am not a true submissive, however I am very submissive sexually. I want a man who knows what he wants---and takes it. One who commands attention walking in a room, by his presence alone. I want to feel secure when he places his hand on the small of my back to guide me, or holds the back of my head firmly as he kisses me--making my legs go weak. I am not looking for a Dom--I am looking for a dominant man. There IS a difference. Dominance is a character trait you are born with--it is not something you learn in a class or read in a book. Either you are or you're not. There is no middle ground. As for my likes and dislikes in bed---I like to be dominated; can't say that enough. I am not a painslut or masochist, but I do prefer it rougher than most vanilla women. Bondage is my absolute passion!! Give me ropes and I cream myself. lol But, and I can't state this enough--bondage is not something you just play with. It requires an immense amount of trust. That is why I do not mix the two lifestyles as a norm. I keep the swinging and BDSM seperate. Now if I could meet someone who could incorporate both--I would be tickled to death.