I'm Gryphon, a 37 year old bisexual polyamorous Switch, I'm married to my partner of 7 years, a straight male Switch. We have an open, honest relationship. I'm his caregiver, he's terminally ill. My situation is... unique
I am looking for a DOMINANT not a submissive. I have neither the desire nor the time to manage one at this point in my life. Emails from submissives or those wanting to switch will be left unanswered and deleted.
I'm a tall, chubby, long-legged pink-haired tattooed girl, and I wear glasses. I'm a sadomasochist, and quite possibly a nymphomaniac. I'm looking for a Daddy Dominant, a mean mother fucker that likes kittens and color books and beating the hell outta the girl he fucks.
I have an insane sense of humor, I'm a girl to the core, I have never and will never "grow up" in a lot of ways. I'm a faithless Heathen, and have absolutely no desire to change that or get into a theological argument. I think men that send out pictures of their dicks are seriously lacking in originality, and the guys that send out pictures of them fucking/beating other people should have to send out the model releases the other people signed. Sending photos of other people without their permission is NOT okay.
I firmly believe the denial of sex and orgasms is deserving of capital punishment. Sex is wonderful and orgasms are good for you... why deny either? (In other words, if orgasm or sex denial is part of your M.O., keep walking). Proper spelling, punctuation and grammar make me happy. There are lots of wonderful words out there that the "normal" world says are bad (slut, whore, bitch). I love those words, when they're used by someone I trust in certain contexts. Having those words used by someone I don't know will piss me off, every time. Nothing is going up my ass unless I'm at a doctors office paying a great deal of money to have it go there. Nothing. Ever.
I'm opinionated, extremely service-oriented, NOT obedient, NOT submissive (repeat - NOT SUBMISSIVE) in the least unless STRONGLY seduced, unwilling to participate (in any way) in any kind of punishment dynamic (in other words - if a dominant needs/wants/likes to use my shortcomings as a means of furthering him getting off, he can find someone else to get off on. Hit me because you want to hit me, because you enjoy it, because I like it, not because you have to make up some stupid inane reason to hit me because you have to rationalize your sadism.)
I'm funny, silly, affectionate, giving, caring, and pack very little baggage (approximately the size of a carry-on). The only way I'm calling anyone "Master" is if I can affect a hunchback, a limp, and a lisp. I identify as a dark teen little (I'll explain more if I need to), and really would love to find a dark Daddy to explore with  Sex and BDSM are indelibly linked in my mind. I can have kink without sex, and do at parties, but if I'm playing privately, I want to be fucked (and fucked well. NO, hours and hours of oral does NOT count as "fucked well". It counts as "mind-numbingly boring", "unsexy", and "oh jeebus when is he going to STOP").
I love smart women. I would love a relationship with a smart, sexy, sarcastic woman, but not a relationship with a smart woman where a man is involved. So, NO COUPLES!
I'll wear a collar if I get to hump legs, bark at strangers, and pee on the rug. I don't believe in any ONE TWUE WAY, and I think John Norman is the worst writer on the planet, next to the cunt that wrote Twilight. I'm sarcastic, often caustic and cutting, but damn funny. I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion, provided they've read the available data and have a lick of common sense. Otherwise, they're just idiots.
I don't believe in Ancient European Houses o' Kink, or Old Guard BDSM. I think most people are full of shit, but are basically good.
I have some seriously bad traits. I spoil my family rotten. I swear like a sailor. I'm addicted to coffee and soda. I love karaoke and I'm a terrible singer. I would bring every cute stray pet I meet home, if I thought I could take care of them all. I get mad, and I yell... but then I'm done. I rarely hold a grudge, I'm nice to old people and animals, and I tip well. I can't stand stupidity though, and will not hesitate to mock.
I'm looking for a friendship that could develop into more. I am (believe it or not) very much a 24/7 kind of girl, this isn't playtime for me, it's life. I'm extremely attracted to men taller than my 5'9", big men (think Edward Herrmann, Andre Braugher, and John Goodman), intelligent men, funny men, and men that can keep up with me sexually.
I am polyamorous. I will NOT give that up for anyone. To do so would be disastrous for any relationship I end up in. If I don't have the option to play with others (without having to go through some huge rigamarole to do it), I'll feel trapped, misunderstood, and eventually, pissed. I'm just not capable of long-term monogamy.
I have been, and continue to be, active in BDSM communities since 2000, and have experimented with a wide range of activities. I have only a few hard limits (no anal, scat, piss, kids, punishment, lying or animals) and I won't bend them for anyone. Other than those... I'm willing to try just about anything
I love knife play, thuddy impact play, bondage, hair-pulling, and I want to push myself. There are TONS of things I want to do that I haven't had the time or a partner to attempt yet.
I HATE hand spanking, paddling, most toys that sting, orgasm control, chastity, or any kind of "punishment" role play or dynamic. I do not role play my "little" status, it's part of my every day life... so I'm not looking to be anyone's "daughter". I enjoy my "girl" status, and don't want to be aided in "growing up". Learning is fine and dandy (my Papa has taught me many wonderful, useful things that will keep me going after he's gone) but I wish to remain a little girl.
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My Ideal Person:
I don't have an "ideal" person.
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Okay. Yes, I do.
But I'm well aware that My Ideal Person probably isn't out there.
Okay. Yes, he is.
So... (honest to a fault, I can't help it)...
I'd like to find someone who is great at the sex/kink stuff, fun to hang out with, and isn't an asshole. I'd love to find a sadist, a Daddy Dominant, a seriously cruel fucker with a hard-on for hurting me who likes kissing and cuddling, too.
While I would prefer that someone to be local, I'm not so naive as to assume that the world will work out the way I want it to. I do have a very "girl" mind (for all that I have a very "woman" body), my attention wanders. I am a very physical person. I need physical contact (as much of it as I can possibly get), and no matter how much I care about a person, if I don't feel I'm receiving a certain degree of affection, my emotional and mental attention will fade. So, if you don't live within 50 miles of Salt Lake City, Utah... it's going to be difficult. I do have to say, that I'm NOT leaving Utah. My family lives here, and I'm not moving away from them.
Ideally, a man interested in occasional play, a great friendship, with the potential for more. Someone taller than my 5'9", a big guy (I *LOVE* big guys! Think John Goodman, Edward Herrmann, Kevin Smith, Charles Durning)... skin, hair, and eye color don't matter at all. Attitude is EVERYTHING!
If you identify as a Daddy, or enjoy teaching and nurturing your girl WITHOUT the use of punishment, we have a lot to talk about!
MUST MUST MUST be willing and able to participate in the local BDSM community! My community means EVERYTHING to me! They are my best friends, have been my biggest supporters through the hardest times in my life, and I WILL NOT give them up! I am a social creature, and these are the people I choose to socialize with. Anyone who comes into my life must get along with them (They're nice folks, lots of fun! Little crazy... )
For the record, if you're married/attached and in an open relationship, that's cool. If you're married/ attached and cheating, I am SO not okay with that. I'm completely honest and expect everyone I play with to be the same way. I want to be able to trust implicitly, and without honesty, I won't be able to do it.
To sum up...
If you...
Are a homophobe, a racist, a right wing Christian nutjob, or believe that Bush did a great job...
Are planning on sending me a picture of your dick, or a photo of someone OTHER than yourself (that includes photos of you with other people)...
Believe in denying sex or orgasms (blasphemer!!)...
Are going to put "slut", "slave", "whore", or some other ridiculousness in your first email...
Don't bother. We won't get along.
But, if you're interested in the Salt Lake/Ogden/Provo/Logan BDSM community, feel free to drop me a line! We have a new group in town! Utah Power Exchange (a pansexual BDSM organization open to everyone) holds 2 meet & greets and 2 classes a month. Email me for more info!
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