[SIZE 2] LOCAL friends of all sorts, & subs to suffer. Friends, let's do vanilla & kinky things: make toys, karaoke, go places, chat, hang out with, ride horses, watch TV, or just make chores more fun. I enjoy shopping and carnivals. Your kinky friends and/or partners are super welcome, too. We'll have good times being in the company of others who won't freak out when we discuss our real lives. We can go to local munches, a sci fi munch, even.
[COLOR skyblue]Update: the recent move to Stockton was physically and financially exhausting, so for a while some activities are out. I live with three vanillas, one under age, and ache to be able to speak openly, as I did for the last 30+ years.[/COLOR]
(For play, friendship and general info, check out my blog, [blog SeeksFriendships] - both it and my profile (a screen or two below) have an extensive list of what I do and don't like in play, line by line, quite readable. [COLOR deeppink]If you want to play, please Read It[/COLOR] so you only contact me for Play if we are compatible.
I also have a scaffolding fetish, for practical (shelves) and other (a kink nook for my bed) purposes. [B]Yes[/B], I am a geek.
It doesn't matter if you are a top, bottom or switch; male, female or intersex; or any gender preference. If you are LOCAL and enjoy having kinky friends to do things with, whether fun, chores (even chores are more fun with friends), chilling, doing lunch, making toys, having kinky readings, working on computers or just talking about your latest, then I'm your gal!
I like singing, 's games (like Kinkyland, I mean Candyland), As for being friends, we can do anything (except play, at first.) Do you have ? Enjoy singing, going to see the circus or Ice Capades . . . What do you like to do? Gardening, museums, dinosaurs, writing (I do it), swimming, gaming, a nice meal, teaching me how to knit, ride-sharing to an event, playing together (if you like), whatever; why are we waiting?
Life is good; let's make it more so by doing things with others like us who understand that sly smile when looking at wooden spoons or collars.
I do have a serious side, which I will want to share in closer relationships: my "hobbies" include BDSM (for vanillas), psychology, medicine, diagnostics and repair of anything, logic/thinking sideways, and being an amateur sex and relationship counselor as a result of my local sci fi club finding out I was into kink . . . it just grew out from there.
Letters that only have "hi", "hello", or "its me" won't get replies. If you're not into writing, just copy and paste the part(s) of this profile that interested you - that works fine. And since oral makes me go numb, if your name is ORALpleezr147, then you'd [I]really[/I] better tell me more about why you wrote.
Oh, yes . . . I sometimes do my laundry at a bondage parlor, and I don't mind having company while I'm there. It's fun to just see the place and chill out, but often in the past I get no help with the laundry at all. I wonder why . . . ? [/SIZE][SIZE 3] ;~) [/SIZE]
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I would enjoy a man who sees himself as a knight in service to his Lady, acting with chivalry, and requesting any stain to his honor to be expunged through his suffering, no matter how rare or how painful that might be; with a true knight, you might see it your duty to serve by begging to suffer when the mood is upon me. I also love Emotional Predicament play, where you are conflicted, torn between two choices that are equally wrong, and for either you will equally be made to suffer. Or perhaps you are simply here to take care of your Lady in all ways - that's nice, too.
Human pets would be very welcome. Unlike cats, you are legal in my apartment, and don't require litter boxes. ;) A "value-added" pet - also a friend, slave or torment toy - is a big plus. Someone who'll go with me to munches, parties, classes, socials - another plus.
I recently found out that "primal" describes me: strong emotion in play, and enjoying consensual non-consent, force, and I'll need a moment to myself, back to this profile in a minute . . . >;~]
I wrote the below for another site, which is why the part on what I am NOT interested in came first; just read all of the below if you are interested in playing. Anything not mentioned was just too much to write (like hot wax.) I look forward to your responses to it.
[COLOR skyblue]The key on how TO approach me is to treat me like a person, not a source for getting your fetishes fulfilled. Be interested in my music, shows and the hobbies I like; in chatting, playing games, or maybe sitting in the car on the way home from some event while singing, giggling and having a bite, then you aren't the sub or switch I want - because at the end of the search, I want a whole, real person - even a LTR.
Likewise, I'm NOT interested in someone who expects me to be "on" all the time, a stick figure source for his fetishes, what he wants, not what we want; this has happened too often, sad to say.
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[SIZE 3][COLOR deeppink][B]What I do and don't enjoy (so you know if we match)[/B][/COLOR]
When it comes to play, I'm NOT into -[/SIZE]
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Crossdressers and sissies
Feminine Transexuals and Intersexes
Scat (poop)
Queening (face sitting), smothering
Oral sex - ON ME. (Vibrators, too.) Just forget it - I go numb.
Anal sex on me, never. On you (and wet kissing), see below.
Single-item-focus fetish only (just breasts, shoes, my ass, etc.)
Body/foot/etc. worship with a tongue. Dry is another story. ;~)
Mommy play - Breast play - milking
Breast fetishism !!!!
Shibari, plain rope (I'm in the "chain gang"), and handcuffs
Role playing, and Gor
Never staples or play piercing - rarely cutting
Enemas, though you can do one to yourself for good cause
"Cock fetish" - CBT, chastity, orgasm control, etc. If my energy and fun time is stolen so the focus can move to your organ, you are wasting my time. - ditto for cock sucking, forced or willing. Anybody's cock or balls
Uppity, recalcitrant or problem slaves. One pretended to the cops that I was kidnapping him; he'd tend to wander off. He is long gone.
Cold people. Have a heart, or depart.
Trampling on submissives (I tend to fall off!) The attitude sucks for me.
High heels, stockings
I like but lack corsets for the moment
Discourtesy (vs. disobedience to incite discipline once in a while)
Risky behaviour - if you get sick, I get sick.
Bukkake, spitting, vomit
Smoking or street drugs, while I'm at it; only light or no drinking
Uniforms (unless they "normal" to us) or 1950s household
Gags (rarely) and blindfolds (rarer, for very short periods)
Single Tail Whips - my aim is poor
Breath play, except for the very safest/lightest (air kiss control)
OTK, and rarely spanking, though slapping is another story
Much body modification, except shaving. Light or no hair is best
Chocolate. ([I]Only Joking![/I])
-age age play, diapers and clowns. I just don't understand clowns
Zentai (as art, yes; kinky play, no)
hooks, hook suspension or staples
Human furniture
Mutual Masturbation
Outdoor sex/play (bugs!! )
Being expected to always be strict and "on" or to do all the work (such as creating rituals for play)
Small penis humiliation, unless yours really is; and only as a portion of play
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[SIZE 3]Things that might ONLY happen with a close or intimate relationship -[/SIZE]
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Sex, including possibly oral on you
Anal sex - ON YOU only, if you want
Wet kissing
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[SIZE 3]Things I like -[/SIZE]
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Giving pain, so the receiver begs me to stop
Emotions: fear, despair, hopelessness, need (in scene only), etc.
Vocal and muscle reactions, from light to extreme sensation play; I don't want a stoic; I want lots of response
Discipline, punishment and torment; being begged to stop; not stopping until you cry
My word is your law - but don't let me shoot my own foot!
Caring, both ways
Slaves, masochists, pets, pick many . . . age doesn't matter
Some service, if just helping after play and aftercare
Whips. Yup, impact toys, canes, belts, clips and all sorts of whips
Sharp shiny scary things; yes, I just might. Be very afraid, and I won't
Obedience . . . most of the time. Give me an excuse
Serious intense heavy play . . . silly fun play
Lazy bondage; velcro is easy yet strong
Leather cuffs, collars, panic snaps and chain . . . Got any spare chain?
Anti-Humiliation
Making you . . . shiver; and blush; and beg. Lots of begging
I may touch you; I may let you touch me, and kiss my hands and feet
Cuddling together, perhaps watching TV
Having my feet washed
Having my hair brushed; washed; my body washed
Going to the hot tub with my slave
Long hair, light/no hair (except your crotch perhaps)
Branding. If you don't want marks, I also do "heat play"
Slapping, hair pulling, pinching
You, kneeling before me
Being Mistress and slave in public, covertly
Moroccan restaurants, where different level seats allow discreet public acknowledgement of our relationship
Your marks: bruises, welts, brandings, etc. (not required) -Tattoos?
Chests nipples and back; skin, necks, nibbling/biting, ears
Power Exchange; you give yours willingly (or unwillingly/willingly, as in consensual non-consent, which I love)
Tears; your crying from joy, but better from fear, pain, heartache
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[SIZE 3]Things I would like to try, or do more of -[/SIZE]
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Non-foot tickling
Feeding scenes
Having a Knight or Gentleman; protection, pampering, outside of play, and predicament play,
Humiliation
Rimming
Ritual and protocol
Finding a way to do role play, from my childhood fantasies
Using a sound down your urethra, possibly with heat rub
Figging (ginger in your ass or urethra)
You groveling at my feet, and crawling is good, too
Shackles, possibly with a friend who lives nearby (and has some)
Kinky pathworking - trance storytelling, not quite being there
Teasing
Flirting . . . with my poor sub/slave only allowed a few responses
My slave as my human pet; my slave as my kitty cat
Anal hook
Male in distress (instead of damsel in distress)
Emotional masochism, torment
Emotional connection; emotion in my male partner
Eye contact restrictions, maybe speech and other restrictions
Fire play
Goth, Punk, and Steam Punk
Slave positions
Internal Enslavement; gentle internal loving enslavement
Kinky photos (showing emotion, but discreet)
Posture Collars
Predator/prey
Pressure points
Slave dances
Tying you up and singing filk songs at you. ;~)[/SIZE]
And that's just the PLAY side of things - I want a real relationship with common interests. Equality of being able to count on each other, not just a sub to my Primal Mistress, is vital for a workable relationship.
Are you up to it?
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My Ideal Person:
Anyone who likes hanging together with folk who understand, who enjoy shopping for kinky toys at inappropriate places, and for vanilla events like karaoke, open mic, going to the park, playing D&D or other games. I also have an adult board game, Seduction.
Also people to be part of a looser or tighter group of playmates and friends, a sort of extended "family," if you will. (Some of you already are, with each other.) People who want folk to play with, make toys, ride share, throw parties and do other, more adult & BDSM things, too.
A serious side is wanted in relationships and closer friends: my "hobbies" include BDSM, psychology, medicine, diagnostics and repair of anything, and logic/thinking sideways.
Of course, any of a wide range of playmates or deeper relationships, from once, to ltr.
Let our chemistries decide what feels best, but have fun!
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