I have found a dominant I hope will own me one day. We are poly and there is another one in the relationship, kat. We have bonded so quickly and closely we see ourselves as sisters. I used to laugh at people calling others "sisters" in slavery. What I saw the term used as was not what kat and I have. I understand the difference and that two women can become sisters in slavery to a dominant they both serve.
I am a sub, whip slut. I am divorced with 3 kids, 5 horses, 4 dogs, 4 cats, and fish. I have a strong personality that yearns for One to guide it. I make most of my own toys and will soon take classes to learn to make whips. I love the outdoors and the country life. I describe myself as very intelligent and fun loving. I wish I could describe myself better....most say I have an energy they can see....a thirst for living. I apply myself 100% and constantly strive for better, wanting to learn all the time. I am told I am a masochist and I may agree with them after the extreme scenes I have done. I don't play casually. To me it matters who I surrender to. To scene with Someone I have to have a relationship, a D/s power exchange. I guess that makes me a service sub? Don't get me wrong, love the pain but the under laying reason for liking it is different; it's the person giving the pain more than the pain.
I don't use safewords, sorry to be so politically incorrect. I feel if I do submit to Someone then I know them enough to trust them. I give all or nothing. For a Dom to accept this they have to know they are in charge and the rug won't be pulled out from under them. I could go on but I won't. It does NOT mean I withhold information. It's much easier to just say what is wrong that saying "red" or "yellow".
I can say what I don't like which is animals, scat, blood, and humiliation. Some are moral issues and some are mind issues. Other than that it would be what my Dom wants. I don't tell Another what I want or how to do it. That would be too much like taking control.
A little more about me. I have a full life, a really good life actually. I have a full time job, I am starting a side business so I can send my kids to college. I play the bagpipes, take guitar classes, and soon hope to resume belly dance classes. I have many hobbies. If this is more than You can accept then please don't email me. I am not for the average Dom.
I have come to the realization the Dom has to convince me he is right for me just as much as I need to show I am right for him. It takes more than him just sitting there in his Domliness. It will take both of us working to make the relationship evolve.
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My Ideal Person:
Someone that has a stronger personality than mine. One that has training, knows what They are doing, what They want,and knows where They are sending me. A Dom ,to me, has the patience of the ages, the wisdom to guide me, and a love of life to match mine. He should be willing to live and learn yet to balance that with sane judgment. I don't expect a Dom to be perfect. We are ,after all, only human.
Some of the needs I have in a relationship are a home where I can raise my kids and when they are gone, a home they can come to visit. I need affection , intelligence, humor, and on a more selfish nature, someone proficient with whips. I am a whip slut after all.
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