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A passionate, romantic, witty masochist…seeking the sadistic complement
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| Gender: |
Woman
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| Birthdate: |
April 12, 1970
(38 years old)
Astrological Compatibility
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| Lives in: |
Albuquerque, New Mexico, United States
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| Relocate?: |
No |
| Height: |
5 ft 3 in / 160-162 cm |
| Body Type: |
Average |
| Smoking: |
I'm a non-smoker |
| Drinking: |
I'm a light/social drinker |
| Drugs: |
I don't use drugs |
| Education: |
BA/BS (4 years college) |
| Race: |
Hispanic |
| Sexual Orientation: |
Straight |
| Speaks: |
English, French, Spanish |
| Hair Color: |
Red |
| Hair Length : |
Medium |
| Eye Color : |
Hazel |
| Glasses or Contacts : |
None |
| Activities Enjoyed: |
24/7 (Total Power Exchange); Age Play; Anal Sex; Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play); Ass Play; Biting; Blindfolds; Bondage; Branding; Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc.; Candle Wax; Chains; Chastity Devices; Chinese Balls/Ben Wa Balls/Anal Beads; Cling Film; Collar and Lead/Leash; Confinement/Caging; Cupping (Suction of the Skin); Denim; Depilation/Shaving; Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons); Discipline; Doctor/Nurse Fetish; Domination; Ears; Electrotorture (EMS TENS units); Exhibitionism/Sex In Public; Feathers; Fire Play; Fisting; Food Play; Gangbangs; Hair Pulling; Handcuffs/Shackles; High Heels; Humiliation; Klismaphilia (Douching/Enema); Knife/Needle Play; Lace/Lingerie; Leather; Masks; Masochism; Massage; Master/Slave; Masturbation; Mutual Masturbation; Nipples; Oral Fixation; Oral Sex; Pain; Pantyhose/Stockings; Participating in Erotic Photography; Piercings; Pinching; Podophilia (Foot Fetish); Power Exchange; Rack/Medieval Devices; Retifism (Shoes or Boots); Rimming; Role Playing; Sadism; Scent; Sensory Deprivation; Spanking/Paddling; Talking Dirty; Tickling; Tongue Fetish; Toys; Vibrators; Whips |
| I think about ALT lifestyle: |
All the time |
| Role: |
Submissive |
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Level of Experience: |
Whole adult life |
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Dress: |
Casual |
| Social Orientation
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Moderate |
| Safe Sex: |
Yes |
| Demeanor: |
Average |
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Body Decorations
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Earring(s)
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| Breast Size | : |
40 C
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| Pubic Hair | : |
Shaved |
| Marital Status | : |
Divorced |
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Have Children | : |
Yes. We do not live together. |
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Want Children
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Happy with what I have |
| Occupation | : |
Web Development |
| Religion | : |
Catholic |
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38
year old
Woman
in
Albuquerque, New Mexico, United States
Looking For:
Men for active participation
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I am a single 38-year-old professional woman living in New Mexico looking for that special someone to share my life with. I’m successful, well educated, caring, kind, spiritual, and introspective with a penchant for people bolder than me. I like pets and I have two…both dogs. I like kids and I have one…very happy with what I have. I love books, cooking, writing, poetry, hiking, music and swimming. I travel for business and pleasure…and enjoy meeting new people.
When I set out on this journey to find the One, I realized that my search must first begin in knowing myself. So – I asked myself – who am I and what do I want? These were two very simple questions with such complex answers. And not even complete answers, as they will change over time as I continue to grow as a person.
So who am I? I am a strong woman – not in the physical sense but rather in will, mind and character. I am capable and competent. Over the years I have become very independent and self-reliant. Despite my strength I am innately feminine and revel in what it means to be a Lady. To be nurturing and caring, to submit my will to a strong, dominant man. To feel tiny and petite next to him, feeling safe and protected in his arms.
I have had the good fortune to be raised in a loving, nurturing family. There I was taught about truth, love, honor, commitment, discipline and compassion for others. I am not a perfect being and never will be. It is an ongoing journey, which I struggle with daily. I am a woman of powerful emotions, which are held back and hidden behind logic and reason. |
So – what is my heart's desire? This is a much more difficult concept to grasp and explain with mere words. As a strong woman I need an equally strong or stronger man in courage, conscience and character. A man not intimidated by my strength of will but is proud of it and encourages it.
He will be dominant and “lead” rather than domineering and “controlling”. Leading is a positive and encouraging action; controlling is a negative action, which diminishes the person as they are crushed. He does not feel the need to send me photos of his manhood…personally, they do nothing for me and I will typically delete the emails without even reading them.
I want a man of integrity who is confident in who he is and exudes a quiet authority. He does not need to bluster, bully or threaten nor does he need to crush another in order to prove his own strength. Nor does he need to manipulate. If he is “leading”, it is only natural that I will eventually follow.
This special man will not demand my respect, trust, love or devotion. He will earn it over time as he firmly but gently leads me in this dance. My respect, trust, love and devotion will begin to emerge and grow with every day that passes. He will encourage rather than be hurtful, accusing, or controlling as I continue my struggle to grow and reach the ultimate goal of joy and peace together. He will expect and demand the very best from himself as well as from me.
He will be a gentleman; compassionate, nurturing and caring – able to show affection and make me feel cherished, appreciated and protected. A man who will understand my fears, gently prod me past them as we grow together.
He will gradually set firm yet safe parameters within which I can be totally free to be myself. He will point out my occasional lapses and help me back on our chosen path. He will be able to recognize and admit to his own occasional missteps.
Rather than feeling threatened by my strong will, he will be amused, intrigued and excited by my attempts to control my environment and myself. He will be proud of my strengths and accomplishments. He can, and takes pride and pleasure in that symphony of trust, love and respect.
I am seeking a lifelong partnership where he holds 51% and I hold 49%. But I will only relinquish that extra 2% to a very rare and special man. He will never act superior, condescending, patronizing, controlling or hurtful. He will have a natural authority and ability to take the lead.
Being a calm, rational, imperturbable sort of person, it is not often that the mere presence of another person has the power to do any more than make me recoil from the olfactory shock caused by their halitosis or their overpowering aftershave. But occasionally, I have found myself intensely affected by the mere presence of a particular man – so intensely affected that it has taken every ounce of self-control to appear unmoved.
The effect is extreme, both physically and psychologically. Primal. Overwhelming. The desire to be taken by the man is so intense that it is frightening. It can be difficult to breath, or difficult to remain standing, let alone maintain a conversation. Bone dry mouth, zero appetite, heart all over the place, the fear that you might faint, shaking like a leaf, body positively screaming to be taken, a reckless willingness and primal desire to do whatever that man wants. Feeling that power with every fiber of your being. Melting in a white-hot inferno of desire, out of your senses, so far out of control psychologically that you can’t even imagine being in control, totally in his power. You feel owned by the man, totally his, totally submissive.
Are you that man? If so, I would love to hear from you.
Do you like to dance in the rain? To feel each drop, as it gently hits your body, and slides down every inch...caressing your body, intimately tracing each curve of your body, like the hand of your lover.
Do you like to kiss? To feel one another so close, each blatantly invading the other's space, a wall of electrically charged energy making our breath come in short gasps. It is warm, I can feel the heat from your body moving into me, as blood rushes in to my head, my face becoming flush with desire. Our eyes are locked together, searching.
Do you like to spank or be spanked? To feel that point where pleasure and pain intersect...a doorway to a new dimension of sensual euphoria. Where the fire bath burns and soothes. Where heat engulfs every neuron within you. Once the line is crossed, once the bottle is opened, once it touches your lips, there is no going back.
Pain is good. 
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My Ideal Person:
Somewhere in this world there is truly a dominant man who knows who he is, understands and accepts it...even rejoices in it and the possibilities it presents for happiness and fulfillment in a relationship whose predicate is power and whose foundation is love and respect. A strong, intelligent woman who is capable and competent in her own right doesn’t threaten this man. Nor does he see submissiveness, particularly of a deep and profound sort as inimical with those things. He is not threatened, stymied or bewildered by the notion of a strong-willed submissive and does not see assertiveness or initiative as contradictory with submissiveness, ownership or slavery. He is an honest man, whose integrity and honor are his most valued attributes. He is intelligent, a thinking being who is engaged with the world around him. He is moreover a man who views a master/slave relationship in terms of power and powerlessness and not solely, wholly or even predominately in terms of service.
This man understands and knows his motivations and reasons for seeking the profound responsibility of ownership of a real, live human being who has chosen this state of her own volition out of a complementary understanding of her own needs, motives and reasons. He is not seeking a cookie-cutter cipher of submission. He does not see my talents, strengths and gifts as barriers to ownership by him or the reality of submissiveness at depth.
He is not a man who needs me to call him or to call himself sir somebody, lord whoever or master whatever as an affirmation of his reality as a dominant. He does not need upper and lower case conventions in order to assert his dominance or as a reflection of status, since he is wholly clear regarding the idea that a disparity of power speaks only to power and has no words to say with respect of any other pecking order that may exist...if in fact one does.
He is also seeking a committed relationship that is monogamous, face-to-face, and intended to be permanent. He is free to enter into such a relationship. He understands that enslavement, at its base, can be understood as something that requires the destruction of the defensive structures protecting the submissives ego. This requires that the submissive become un-self-controlled or interiorly uncontrolled. Dominance in this sense means the application of power to supersede her interior control of herself with respect to him. Thus, the submissive becomes exteriorly oriented or even, if you will, defended by the dominant. The ability to control then becomes a manifestation of dominance but it is still understood to be only a manifestation of and not at any level in and of itself, dominance. To control a thing one must first have power over it that is greater than the power of the thing.
I have posted several different ads in the past, each one a refinement of my understanding of myself and what I need and want; as well as what I cannot, as a function of who and what I am, enter into. I know that for me the object of this is not kinky sex or service for its own sake. I will settle for nothing less than a whole relationship encompassing lover, friend, companion and mate as well as ownership. I am masochistic and seek the sadistic complement of that.
I am an intelligent woman whose interests, hobbies and pastimes are geared towards those things. I am also an incurable romantic. |
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