I am a voluptuous 40DD redhead seeking my first real life Dom (I have explored this online for years, but never in real life). My problem is that I can't seem to find one who understands my level of submissiveness.
I am married to a very loving man who encourages and helps me to explore my submissive side, but he doesn't think he has the personality to be my Dom himself; so he is encouraging me to search for one. We're swingers, so he's already accustomed to me being with other men. I am seeking One who understands that my submissiveness is initially sexual and physical in nature, with mental and emotional submission coming later once trust is established. I'm not looking for someone to run my entire life (i'm a sub, not a slave), or try to take me away from my husband. My husband is not jealous at all, but will not tolerate any disrespect or meddling in our relationship outside the D/s boundaries.
I am not looking for extreme pain or torture although some light pain is enjoyable; nor am I looking for someone to ignore my known limits...I am a sub, not a masochist or slave. A real Dom will know the difference. I'm hoping to find one that understands my boundaries and will help me explore them.
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My Ideal Person:
Obviously, I'm looking for an agressive and confident man who knows how to be physically and verbally commanding. This does not mean that he should be a sadist, mean-spirited, or prone to abusing his subs, but rather he should have a definite air of authority about him. He should know that when he commands me to do something I will do it, or at least make an honest attempt to try. I am looking for someone who can be commanding, yet knows how to respect established limits. I am seeking someone near my age, preferably 27-50(55 is an upper limit), and living in the Jackson area or who travels here regularly. If you think you fit this description, I anxiously await your contact.
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