My Ideal Person:
I am looking for a man who is dominate but considerate. Someone who can find pleasure in giving pleasure. It's not about who is boss but about mutual satisfaction. I receive pleasure by doing what you ask of me. You receive pleasure by slowly, gently, forcefully increasing your demands but always with my safety and pleasure in mind. You take what you can from me understanding that in taking you are also giving. If you don't understand this you will never understand me.

I have no desire to have my entire life dominated. I am intelligent, educated, and professional. I do not need a man to tell me who my friends will be, what to wear, or where I can or can not go. I want a man who can respect me for who I am without trying to change who I am. I want a man to share my ideas and goals and who wants to motivate me to be the best that I can be. A man who values my opinion and ideas outside the bedroom but who has the courage, the insight, and the self confidence to take full control in the bedroom. Some one who will respect me when they see me soar in my professional and personal life outside the bedroom, but who will take charge and control and fully dominate me while we play. Can you be a friend, a helper, a motivator with common interests with me at lunch, and in the evening kiss me, caress me, whisper lovely things to me while you tie me up, spank me, tell me that I WILL do what you tell me to do? Can you cause me just enough pain to create excruciating pleasure? Dominate my mind and body so that they are putty in your hands? Push me just far enough so that we both know and see me growing with you without abusing me and making me feel used and shamed? I believe there is a fine line between pain and pleasure, between creating growth and a feeling of mutual trust and respect, and abuse and shame. Are you man enough to accomplish this? I know you are out there. I just have to find you