It is rare to find a union of mind, body and soul.. the One who completes you in every way...to whom you surrender without hesitation. It is a rare gift indeed.
Dominance/submission begins in the mind. But to have the completeness one seeks, it must also captivate the heart and free the soul.
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A little bit about me....
I can be cheeky.. which doesn't mean I'm a brat.. but I'm very playful at times. I love to laugh! Humor is extremely important in life, so if you can't laugh at yourself OR with others, I'm NOT the one for you!
I have been told that I'm very outgoing and bubbly. However, the right Dom can make me blush furiously and become suddenly shy. Go figure! LOL
I don't like having things "hidden" from me. Hiding things breaks trust, simple! So if you want me to trust, you have to be open AND honest.
I'm loyal and honest to a fault. When i commit to someone, there's no turning back for me. I commit 100%. Unless of course, you...1) fail to keep your word.. 2) fail to be consistent, 3) fail to be honest, or 4)decide avoidance behavior is the best way to handle issues. These will destroy trust, which also destroys loyalty and committment. (Do you see a pattern here? LOL )
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Let's begin with the kink cuz that's always more fun... to put it in a nutshell, I like bondage, shibari, chains, cuffs, leather, thigh highs with heels, lingerie to please the eye (uh huh corsets), mind control and directives, spankings (can you guess my favorite type? LOL ), hair pulling, crops, floggers, various toys, wax, and sensory deprivation including blindfolds... to name just a few. (see my fetish checklist for more..LOL ) Ohhhh and did I mention anything sensual???? oh my! There's nothing better than mixing pain with a little sensual pleasure
I do have my limits as well... anything involving sharpies (taken from 'things I learned in kindergarten'... grins), branding or permanent marks, humiliation, trolls of course (just making sure you're paying attention here.. LOL ), needles, guns, critters, scat, poly relationships (nope, I don't share well), and a few other things that go on the "you wanna do what???" list! LMBO
Now onto more serious matters... LOL I suppose that I have my own thoughts on the l/s. You may or may not agree with my perspective, and that's ok. We all have our own views, and those should be respected.
I believe that a D/s relationship is as unique as the people involved. When two people meet, I believe that a friendship needs to be established first. Only through that can the two develop mutual respect, understanding, trust, and establish compatibility. And to establish this friendship with a solid foundation you must start with honesty. Nothing breaks down a relationship faster than lies, mis-truths, or not divulging pertinent information. (You know... the "what she doesn't know won't hurt her," kind of thinking... LOL ). The lack of such information can indeed hurt, and in more ways than one.
In other words, you have to build a solid foundation FIRST. Without respect, trust, honest communication, openness, and compatibility, there isn't anything to support the relationship. I also believe there has to be chemistry and a mutual attraction in order for the relationship to grow.
These are just my views on what I look for in a D/s relationship. Some will not agree, and like I said, that's ok. Everyone has their own wants, needs, views, and opinions. ..to each their own!
I also believe you cannot rush into things. I think that's just heading for disaster if you want something long term. Rome was not built in a day, and neither are D/s relationships. It takes time, negotiation, understanding, and a lot of communication on both sides. It is a two way street.
Ok, I'm probably going to set off a few with these next comments, but i do not believe in the "two sets of rules" thing. If a Dominant/Master expects his sub/slave to live up to his/her word then I believe Dominant/Master needs to as well. There is nothing more confusing or frustrating than when the rules ONLY apply to you. Remember... consistency..consistency...consistency! Don't change the rules midstream and expect compliance. You HAVE to communicate. Again, that's just my opinion.
I have many more thoughts about the l/s but if I list everything here, it does not leave much to discuss now does it? LOL
Ohhhhhhh and one last note....Since you have (hopefully) read my profile down to this point, you already know it is friendship first. That means, I am not looking to be pounced, propositioned, bombarded by emails, cyber spanked, or "convinced" that I "NEED" your Dominance after you talk to me for ohhhhh 5 minutes, or after the first email. If you think that I'm willing to submit to someone I've known for less than an hour, boy do you have another thing coming!
If there is any confusion as to how long this process takes, please refer back to the paragraph that says "you cannot rush into things!"
My favorite saying (which comes from a long time kiwi friend) ... "The tighter I am bound, the more free I am."
My biggest pet peeve??? Those who cannot and do not use the terms "dominate" and "dominant" properly! LOL
Thank you for taking the time to look at my profile.
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My Ideal Person:
A person's character is so important. Passion, sensuality, romance, and tenderness combined with a quiet self-confidence, a strong guiding hand, the ability to explore all aspects of the mind's desires, the physical senses, and what satisfies the cravings of the soul, are all such important characteristics.
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