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lionslair 60F  
174 posts
4/27/2021 6:50 pm
Does anybody want the real thing anymore


The empty spaces
of who we are looking for.
The lonely places,
we all know the score.
I continue on and on
Does anybody know what they are looking for?

Another person, just wasting my time
in the darkness, pretending on my dime
Dont feed me some bullshit line....
does anybody want the real thing anymore?

Whatever may happen,
I never leave to chance
Another player steps up,
who doesnt know the dance
yet I continue on
Doesnt anybody know what they are looking for?

Yes Im learning,
hoping Im closer now
and that very soon
I will figure how
to find the one who completes
before the flakes defeat
doesnt anybody want to feel the real thing anymore?

Lioness


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
4/27/2021 7:05 pm

Don't let the flakes defeat you.......


Cap1963 60M
31 posts
4/27/2021 7:45 pm

Hang in there...I've been looking for the real thing as well.


WendySlutWilliam 38F
17 posts
4/27/2021 7:55 pm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZG9ip5ZOO9s


DJWolfDen 56M  
3 posts
4/27/2021 8:14 pm

I am one who does want the real thing and being very committed to the girl who chooses to be in My life and belong to Me completely
THis is something I have longed for and desired for a very long time


BLACKPOLYCPL4WHT 58M

4/27/2021 9:25 pm

Regretfully&unfortunately,
We have to shift through 99.9% of the SHIT ,
BEFORE we EVER find the gold.This's especially factual/true when looking/searching/seeking a BLACK AFRICAN woman THAT ISN'T: a con artist,fake, conniving, deceitful, despicable, dishonest, lying ,manipulative scheming, scamming theif!!!!! .


lionslair replies on 4/27/2021 10:03 pm:
Well I dont know what youve encountered but Im not a con artist, fake, conniving, deceitful, despicable, dishonest, lying ,manipulative scheming, scamming thief.
Sorry you got taken, but unfortunately since real Dommes are a bit rare, it leaves the field wide open for the scammers. Be smarter than the scammers. Never give anyone money.
But again, throwing an entire group of people together in one bucket of crap doesnt do much to solve the problem. It merely ensures that the real ones are painted with the same crap brush as the scammers. Doesnt help

Needmysubqueen 55M

4/27/2021 9:53 pm

Beautiful poem and true to life, thank you


lionslair replies on 4/27/2021 11:17 pm:
Thank you. I am glad you like it. And yes, sadly it seems to be all too true. Everyone just wants to talk. Sigh

imbdaddydom72948 75M

4/27/2021 9:58 pm

Doesnt look that wsy


Wicked_Tongue 61M
690 posts
4/27/2021 11:24 pm

Yes, of course we do.... but as the old saying goes, you must kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince!


lionslair replies on 4/28/2021 12:57 am:
I suppose so. but it seems like Ive been through an awful lot of frogs with only more frogs in sight these days lol.

BLACKPOLYCPL4WHT 58M

4/27/2021 11:26 pm

Hard to trust someone that hides behind a grey silhouette......


lionslair replies on 4/28/2021 12:53 am:
Oh its MR I got scammed so I hate everyone ...back again I see. I dont hide, I choose to show myself to those who are a possible match. As I have absolutely no interest in you, and there is absolutely no possibility of us being a match or even ever meeting, its a moot point. I dont care if you trust me or not. Didnt ask you to, didnt ask you for anything. Take your hate and discontent elsewhere.

look6965 63M

4/28/2021 12:26 am

it does happen.when your not looking for it


lionslair replies on 4/28/2021 12:56 am:
One can hope so. But it does not seem to be likely these days. The plague didnt help lol. But thank you.

alwaysassertive 63M

4/28/2021 1:33 pm

Your blank picture is just fine. I can fully understand the need for anonymity. Some of us have a real life that isn't conducive to this lifestyle. Even being a gold member without a photo puts your real name and identification on record. Records that can easily be subpoenaed.. A photo doesn't make something real. There's a video on YouTube of a Sasquatch playing a saxophone.
Someone's poor writing and command of the English language is a good indication that someone is fake right off the bat. Once I've chatted with someone for a while. I can generally tell where things are going to go, but when I'm wrong about someone. I'm really wrong.


lionslair replies on 4/28/2021 4:40 pm:
Exactly. Thank you. Some of the......people... on this site are just angry little people who are busy trying to make everyone else as miserable as them. And in an age where they think its perfectly fine to harass your work place, or come to your house, or harass friends or family if you dont agree with them, its a wonder to me that anyone puts up their photo.
and yes, its usually really very simple to spot the fakes as you said, if you use a bit of common sense. But occasionally we all get fooled.

RavenousRaven777 56M
373 posts
4/29/2021 8:59 am

Maybe we’re all just looking for our ideal match and tend to pass on a lot of good matches thinking the ideal one is the next one. It’s a lot like gambling. You have a win in your pocket, but you want to hit that jackpot, so you up-bet your current winnings and then go bust and lose it all. You’re now broke and gotta go sleep it off until you get the urge to try your luck again. It becomes it’s own unhealthy cycle. This goes for all players, not just one side.
And this is just the 10% serious gamblers. This doesn’t even take into account the 90% just throwing a few nickels into the machines to get a few free drinks and a momentary thrill.
It’s just House rules I suppose. People have their own theory and strategy, but in the end, maybe it’s all just dumb luck? So, to all, good luck out there!


lionslair replies on 4/29/2021 9:56 am:
I think you are right about a lot of people passing, hoping for the perfect one, but theres never going to be the perfect one, merely one who can be perfect for you. But they think they can get a younger, or one that looks like a runway model, or whatever. But unless they are in that league themselves, or are looking at the pay for play wannabees, sadly, its never going to happen. In the meantime throwing away a perfectly good chance at a good and lasting relationship with a real person within their grasp. Yes, both sides, I agree.
Even in vanilla world you never get perfect, you can however get one who can be perfect for you if you both put a bit of effort into making it that. Thank you for your thoughts, sheds some light on how some think.

Daddy4Becky 102M

5/13/2021 1:16 pm

There is a song by Motorhead that the chase is better than the catch. This site seems to be a minefield of fakes, frauds and time wasters. I have been off and on the site over the years and it never changes, fortunately the profiles are so badly presented, it is easy most of the time to spot the fakes, if it does get past you, you can soon pick out the frauds. What galls me is the site moderators do not shut down obvious fake profiles immediately. We just all have to be careful and try to use good judgement.


TeallaRose 39F
183 posts
5/14/2021 2:07 pm

Not on this planet


MSV2U 61F
83 posts
6/1/2021 9:59 am

I wholeheartedly agree this site is full of
scammers fakes and flakes and wankers.
I too am looking for My one but I’m
Not finding it, probably for many reasons.
One... I think it’s hard for men with the
Fantasy that BDSM is just play time.
I don’t think they understand we are humans
first. It’s not 24/7 play or slavery. It’s a balance
Of vanilla life and kink whatever that may be.
Yes. I am very selective and yes I have passed
on many...not because I’m
looking for perfection or a better one around
the corner but there has to be the chemistry first
and we all have to find the one who truly GETS us.
A real match in a balanced world.
I’m a diehard romantic who maybe foolishly still
Believes in Happily ever after and I can’t give up
until I find him or leave this Earth.
I truly LOVE your poem and it has touched
My Heart. ♥️
Thank you for allowing Me To add My 2 cents!


lionslair replies on 6/7/2021 6:53 pm:
We are of a mind. Yep, they want to talk about the sex, and only the sex. While this is a site for that, sex is also but a small part of a relationship.....you cant have sex 24/7 as you stated. They have to understand that you have to have other things in common, and like each other, otherwise it will be doomed to fail after a very short time.
No, like you I have passed on many, and also like you, not looking for perfection, merely someone compatible that I am attracted to not just in a physical sense, but in many areas, their mind, their sense of humor, their personality, who they are.
Yes, it seems we are never to find our person, yet we seek on. Thank you for your comment! Im happy to hear I am not the only one seeking this. Luck to us both my savage sister!


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