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Ooooohhhhyesss 61M  
42 posts
5/29/2007 3:51 am

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4/29/2016 12:39 am

That's Life (vanilla & BDSM tantrums)


Yesterday I read Hecate's Reflections post and slavegirl4use4u's [post 309619].

While I was out reading a book and enjoying a coffee, 2 moms came in with their 3 daughters. Obviously the moms wanted to chat and have the girls chat amongst themselves. Each mom was challenged by one of their 8-10 y/o daughters in petulant ways. Both moms just ignored the behavior without giving in.

The current child development opinion is to set clear boundaries and consequences for kids. Many Dom/me to sub relationships have similar guidlines (no, not all--some just look for/give abuse).

I thought of my kids which bracket these girls' ages. Frequently, I get compliments from other parents and teachers on their maturity. It seems that lovingly giving clear expectations and allowing consequences for success and failure have giving my kids an edge. No, they are not perfect. Yes, they each have strengths and weaknesses to hone or shore-up. Heck, I do too.

The kids' behavior reflected on the moms, but the moms' behavior showed a lack of training too.

Here's my take:

Tantrums are tantrums independent of being Dom/me, sub or vanilla. It is a lack of training in being a social animal. In the vanilla world, you can blame your parents until you are an adult. In BDSM you can point to your play partners; however, your behavior shouts out about YOU and merely reflects on others.

What's yours?

2DaddysBigHands 59M
2311 posts
12/11/2008 3:53 pm

]A tantrum is an emotional outburst of ill humor or a fit of bad temper wherein the higher brain functions are unable to stop the emotional expression of the lower (emotional and physical) brain functions. It can be categorized by an irrational fit of crying, screaming, defiance, and a resistance to every attempt at pacification in which even physical control is lost. The person may not stand or sit on their own. Even when the "goal" of the person is met, he or she is not calmed.
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That is from Wiki...I guess it is just the linguist in me.
I always believed, and the definition above seems to support, that a tantrum may be uncontrollable by definition. It is like getting a hot flash?

I just wanted to check that out for myself...so I did...and then I wrote about it...how bout that:



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