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I am an intelligent successful tall slim fit Oxford educated white Dom in My 50s who is genuinely attracted to intelligent subs
In short, I need a white or black woman who needs both:
1. To be truly loved, cared for and protected by her Dom.
2. To be controlled and used fully as her Dom's personal subslut.
For a long term D/s relationship to work there needs to be both love and filth. this is not easy but without both the love, and the domination and use the relationship is unlikely to last.
How can this be made to happen?
I believe a Dom has a duty, to love his sub. Without this play is just whip assisted masturbation. However this love, while it can be very intense, is different in kind to conventional love. The love that a sub or slave elicits in me is more a savage joy, a very intense need, a hard almost physically painful desire to mold and control, to make My woman completely mine.
The control, and the humiliation and pain, and the intense sex that follows should be manifestations of this love, and also feed this love. As a result the love that I feel is more savage, more intense and linked to a need to have my sub prove her devotion to me through her acceptance of the control, hard physical use etc.
Finally, once base needs are sated, after the storm there must also be peace, gentleness, stroking, the whispering of soft words, the reassurance to the sub that she has performed well, assuming of course that she has perfomed well. This is also very important, and I have found that the more the sub has given, the more intense the love and peace that follows can be.
So just because a woman happens to need physical and sexual degradation and does not mean that I cannot also relate to her as an intelligent being and a loved partner.
Where am I on the kink continuum?
This is a more complex question than it first appears for two reasons. Firstly it is not a simple continuum with control on one en and S&M at the other. It seems to me there are a triangle of drivers not two. Aside from power exchange and sadomasochism, there is also the attraction to depravity for its own sake, often strongly sexually linked, a desire to break taboos, a need for sex or play to be as depraved as possible for its own sake.
In my case there are elements of all three, and how they manifestation depends very much on the chemistry and dynamic that develops with a particular woman.
If My profile resonates do contact Me.
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