La mia persona ideale:
Please don't ask me to "submit" to you before we have even met or talked - that is just silly. Approach me as you would ay adult - as equals. When the time comes for us not to be equal, you will know it.

I actually have a few kinds of "ideal person".

1. Friendship - making new friends of any orientation or proclivity for both kink and vanilla activities - especially ones who live not far from me in San Diego.

2. Play partners - meeting people for "sessions" of our own design. We could practice rope bondage, for example, or a new domme who wants some experience could try some of her "dark arts" on me. Play partners can be of any age, race, or body type - we just have to like each other

3. Professional Services - it has been so long I will likely go this route soon - - but I want to pay reasonable rates- there are scammers everywhere here. so there won't be upfront fees unless we have at least a brief conference on hangouts. This stuff takes time, energy, and expertise so there is nothing wrong in asking for payment, but don't try to charge dungeon rates unless you really have a dungeon.

4. Long-Term Relationship - the hardest one of all. I've been hearing people my age and even quite a bit younger lamenting that they will never get both kink and their ideal partner in the same person. Maybe, but it si worth exploring if we hit if off in other ways.