Mijn Ideale Persoon:
NOTE: If my picture is why you want to contact me, I promise we don't have enough in common. I am only interested in friendships with no further expectations. If the friendship becomes something more, we can talk about romantic and kink matters at that time but not before. That's what it means to me to put people first and kinks second. I will not respond well to anyone who refers to me with a term of endearment such as babe, beautiful, hey sexy, hot lips, etc. This is a form of non-consensual objectification and an excellent way to get you blocked.

As Rupi Kaur wrote, "I want to apologize to all the women
I have called pretty before I've called them intelligent or brave.
I am sorry I made it sound as though something as simple as what you're born with is the most you have to be proud of when your spirit has crushed mountains. From now on, I will say things like *you are resilient, or you are extraordinary*. Not because I don't think you're pretty but because you are so much more than that."

I will chat with just about anyone, even if you don't use spell check, use text speak with wild abandon, and show how proud you are of your laziness by using as many abbreviations as possible. However, know that none of those things is a turn-on for me. Our interaction will go no further than the chat we are having if that is the case. I am currently separated. We are living as roommates. This will change as soon as it is feasible. I am available to date but will not consider anyone who chooses to date in secret.

About You: You should be a kind, compassionate, and understanding soul who can put your ego aside to make way for humility. You should be actively eco-friendly, care where your food comes from, and be anti-speciesist or at least on the path to achieving that outlook. My view is that if you identify as dominant or a Top or anywhere in between, for that matter, it doesn't exempt you from being a considerate, caring human being.

I'm keeping the door open here in the event that there are some fantastic, local, emotionally intellectual kinksters out there for friendship with no expectations or pressure. If something more comes of that, then great, but all outcomes are learning opportunities. And I will be grateful for them. I believe that if relationships are to evolve, they should do so organically and over time. (i.e., "overtime" can mean six months, a year, or more. If you are bothered by this, you're probably in a rush, and ergo, not a good match for me.)